@pmvines I have learned from past experience that you have to be careful what you say and how you word it. I also realized that no matter what you do, you can't get everyone to like you and given a large enough audience, someone will always find offense with something you say. As @FunCartel and others have pointed out, everything is open to interpretation.
The full background story of how I learned this lesson if you care to read:
I worked at at&t for 4 years. After 2 years in the Mobility Division (cell phones) I was a supervisor (highest non-manager rank) and realized I couldn't get promoted into management unless someone died or retired, so I transferred to U-Verse (at&t TV/Internet) a much larger Division with more opportunity, but had to move to a different State.
I'm in an instant messenger chat room for our building with 200 employees in it that was used for quick Q&A. Someone asked,"Do we have an African package?" We had a Spanish package for Latin shows, and an Asian package with Korean/Japanese culture shows. But nothing labeled African, so I asked a clarifying question, "What do you mean by African? Like National Geographic and Discovery channels or is the customer asking for BET?" (a channel literally called Black Entertainment Television that has predominantly African-American actors).
The employee never answered back and may have figured out what the customer wanted. I never thought about it again, until the next day. My manager comes by and asks me to log out of my systems and come with him. We go to the Site Manager (his boss's boss's boss) in charge of the whole multi-floor building.
It went that high because an employee on another floor working on a different project who I have never met or interacted with before had either accidentally logged into our projects chat, or had seen it from someone elses computer (still not clear on how she got involved) and was offended by what I wrote. My 3x above me boss brought up a screen capture of it so we could all review it.
SomeOtherEmployee: Do we have an African package? Don Long: What are they asking for? Nature channels like NatGeo and Discovery, or BET?
My managers (both white) said they couldn't see anything wrong with my response. But because the complaint was from a black woman and race was brought up, they aren't allowed to judge what is considered offensive or not. They had to show they took the matter seriously and that action was taken, so I was suspended for 3 days without pay. They assured me that it wouldn't affect advancement on its own. As long as theres not a pattern of it, there would be no real consequence. However, I never did get that promotion. In fact, a guy I directly trained was promoted instead.
I know there is a HUGE difference between where women vs men are hosting. I’m simply stating my thoughts on the original post.
There is a female cuddler in our area that is a truck driver. I think it’d be pretty cool to cuddle in her cab.
Would you cuddle in a truck? Snuggle up with @unclebuck? Congratulations! You're in luck!
@FunCartel thank you
@pmvines exactly, thank you. Now with him being banned after getting so defensive makes you wonder.... Let me point out though my post was never meant to get anyone banned either! Just facilitating discussion
As long I feel safe and comfortable with a person I don't care where I cuddle. From the dirtiest to the cleanest, the smallest to the largest of spaces,from a box to a grave site, I literally don't care. As long as it's deemed safe and I'm comfortable..
Safety first. Though I think long as it follows the code of conduct, I’ll be fine to cuddle.