@natural_oceans I could get a free cuddler but do not wish to. I just haven't got the time or inclination to write insincere platitudes and compliments to persuade someone to cuddle me when in my opinion I want to be the one who is persuaded. Not everyone does it because they are lonely. They are providing a service which people pay for just like a plumber, car mechanic or physiotherapist
To each his own. Each person chooses to cuddle based on his or her preference, need and situation. If a pro works better at certain times in your life, then go for it. If an enthusiast works better at other times then do the same. What matters is that you are honoring you by giving you what you need when and how you need it. It's not for me to judge anyone who chooses one or the other because I would not. That's not fair. If making money cuddling is something someone sees as a viable option then good for you. Just give it your best effort. Really be professional about it and learn a few more skills and grow while doing it as you need to. Adapt and learn different ways of interacting with different clientele. If that means you have to go back to school then by all means do so. What matters is that you are honoring your own integrity as well as your clients needs and interests. That can only be a win-win for your pocket and the client's. Give it your best effort and investment of self.
@notcuddledyet I am a nonpro cuddler. I don't need compliments or platitudes but I do need to chat with you (whoever) long enough to tell if you're going to treat me well because you are generally stronger than me, powered by testosterone, and often conditioned to feel entitled. How you convey yourself through writing is the only way I have (besides your picture) to grok if I'm safe and if I'm going to actually like you. I don't care what you (whoever) say about me, I care what you say about you. If you want to press your bod against a woman, you're darn right you're going to need to communicate some. You sound like you're mad about that, or at least pouting (hard to hear tone through words on a screen, but you've said similar things enough times that it seems you're resentful). There are advantages to being a man, and advantages to being a woman. My advantage is that I have lots of guys who want to cuddle with me. My disadvantage is if any of them decide to overpower me, they can. I wish we lived in a world where men didn't use their strength and entitlement to hurt women because I hate having to be so careful when loving men, and I hate that the sweet guys have to put up with our suspicion because of the damaged guys. But we do live in that world and we all have to make the best of it. I wish you could just write to me and say "Snuggle me!" and I could say, "Sure!" But I can't. In this world, that would be dumb.
@littermate whether you pay or not the woman has a right to be respected and to set her boundaries and expect them to be kept. She has a right to satisfy herself that the man feels that way and will never use his strength. I think that unfortunately the abusers out there can be the most adept at lying their way through the filters and will say anything required whilst the men who have an issue with being dis-honest often say exactly what they think and get rejected because of it.
I am a "professional" AND also care about my clients. This is more like a paid hobby than a job. I don't know about the other pros, but I definitely don't make anywhere close to a living on here. I enjoy cuddling, and I like money. Why not combine both? I've met some really cool people that I'm always happy when they book me. I care about them and message them from time to time just to check on them, and still wouldn't cuddle for free. I believe being paid establish boundaries for both and keeps things real.
@LilyB you're never worried about a client getting mixed signals from contacting them outside the premise of setting up an appointment ? And also there's no one in your life or no one from CC you would cuddle for free just for the enjoyment of it ? Im asking these just out of curiosity not to judge you or debate you !
@notcuddledyet may be so. Alas. I personally give points for honesty.
@littermate Maybe you could cuddle with another female friend, as I feel like that’s super relaxing and comforting too and you wouldn’t have to stress as much.
@junipersky Not stressing! But thanks. Have a potential woman cuddle party in the discussion phase. Have women friends I can snuggle with. Have a bunch of fellows lined up to snuggle with. For me, the grounded male body has a vitamin that's yum for me in a particular way. I'm also doing research into this land between women and men and honing my capacities to relate to a variety of men in a clear and kind way. Love the nuances, love writing about it.
"If you're good at something, never do it for free." -- The Joker (The Dark Knight Rises)
Pro cuddlers offer a much needed service for people who have difficulty finding a fellow enthusiast. They're also great for "me" focused cuddles. Because I'm tall(ish) I end up being the big spoon majority of the time and tend to focus my attention on who I'm cuddling while little to no attention is focused on me (which I usually prefer). However, there are days where I just need a big, really tight hug and need to be held and pro-cuddlers are great for those days.
I've seen a few pros and have yet to have a bad experience with any of them. They're great.
....
@MrTalo They get around the loophole the same way accountants and car mechanics do. They don't offer sex! @LilyB Having boundaries is the best reason to pay
@notcuddledyet heh heh
its different for having male or female profile here. A female profile here will get bombarded with messages at least 5 on a day to day basis. Male profile probably will get only 1 for 2 weeks from a female. So that is your answer. Its the law of supply and demand.
@alphares How do you know how many messages anyone gets?
just an estimate @FunCartel