Not sure if this is where site issues should be reported, or if I forgot, but I'll see cuddlers pop up on the Recents list that show that I'm blocked by them when I tap into their profile, so it's kinda pointless having them on the Recents list.
I dont need to be blocked no one talks to me anyways lol
@davebutton: That's happened to me, too. I don't think I've ever seen the same person twice, though, so I just sort of figured my Recents list was showing their last visit to my profile—you know, the one on which they blocked me.
There's the Visited list which shows cuddlers who have last viewed your profile, but the Recents list is cuddlers who were last logged in.
I don't how if that's by nearest region of what (I see US and UK cuddlers there), but those appear to be working accurately, it's just that I noticed a couple of Recents cuddlers that have blocked me on the list a over the months.
@davebutton: Oh, right. Thanks—I was mixed up.
Yeah, there's definitely no reason for you to be seeing people who don't want to interact with you. They've been online recently? So what? It'd make more sense to get them out of the way and free up space for people who haven't blocked you. I wonder whether this is a thing that's happening to everybody, or just people using specific hardware/software.
Hmm. Well, I don't think I've ever seen anyone who's blocked me on the Recents list (not even once or twice), but then I've got a terrible memory for names and faces, so it might've happened at least once.
Has anybody with a better memory than me noticed this happening?
I didn’t know getting blocked was such a common thing around here. I believe the only girl on here that has ever blocked me was a girl that I ended up dating...once that came to an end she blocked me. It made me feel bad for getting “blocked”...but I feel much better now :-)
There are three things I always forget : names, faces, and . . . something else.
It's not common for me to block or be blocked either, and I've blocked some too such as for being flakey or negative or fake. It's just part of reducing noise, same thing on reddit and the like. This one blocked me I think because she decided not to not offer out of state.
Anyway, I've only seen two show up on the Recents list over the years where tapping into their profile showed me as blocked, but it'd be nice to not have pointless links there... my guess is it's an easy fix.
@davebutton ~ I kind of hope they don't fix it. I found out I was blocked by someone and was completely amused by it. But I may be alone in that/it may just be me and my warped sense of humor related to online relations...
If they do end up fixing it though, I hope it will come with a nifty way to see who has blocked me (and when if able) and who I've blocked - with an option to unblock.
@quixotic_life
I guess it is nice to discover who randomly blocked you 😆
So if they fix the issue, you want a Blocked Me list added underneath Recents? 😆
I think I saw a way to see blocked lists... though I think it's only for who you've blocked.
(4th paragraph (novelization)): I think I blocked someone local the first week I was here because she misunderstood some simple introductory statements and got all negative and was kinda dopey; I thought she might have been a drug abuser or paranoid hater so I crossed that out and felt like I just dodged a drama train. Oh and then she made a 2nd account and I blocked that too 😆😆😆
@davebutton ~ I don't really care where it ends up. A link to it from the main menu beneath "🤍 Friends" would be good and they could call it "💔 Relations" or something...
I put in a request to @Mark a while back asking if we could get a "not intetested" field. So we could remove the person from our search results, but not their ability to message us. But with that too I'd want a way to see who I've put in that category with an option to change it.
Mostly it's because I can't remember who I've previously visited, until I'm reading their profile for like the 20th time and realize, "Oh yeah, this guy likes ABC and I'm into QRS" and since I'm not interested in ABC (but maybe one day I would be) I'd like to see a way to signify that and not have them show up in future searches. Maybe it could be a little badge shows up to indicate I should keep scrolling. IDK - I struggle with names and faces, so I must seem like some sort of profile lurker to those who check the visits tab (which I suppose is fine because there are a few who are constantly on my list too ~ lol. It's just headache inducing to have to do all that clicking back and forth). Meh... I don't know if I'm even making sense on this one...
@quixotic_life If you ever find that I have blocked you, just chalk it up to I was bored and thought to amuse you.
Snort ~ lol! @littermate
@littermate 😆
The blocking may be a lot of reasons, for me I block the ones that will not reply back !!. Also, I'm not a smoker, so if I see they are a smoker, or a drug user then I block them, so when I do a search they will not show up. I think some will block you due to age, to old or to young, which I guess is OK. I think you need to have thick skin to deal with people on the net.
For future reference, you can access a list of members whom you have blocked by going to your account settings page and clicking on the "Blocked Members" link at the bottom of the page or by going directly to https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/blocked-members. Note this list only displays members you have blocked, and does not conversely display those who have blocked you, but does allow you to see when you have blocked them and also allows. you to unblock them if desired.
@quixotic_life - I had somebody message me one time asking me why I kept viewing their profile. I click on people on the search results or in the forums and don't always remember who I already visited. It doesn't mean I'm some kind of internet stalker.
@littermate - You're funny.
Hey ~ Cool beans thank you @neosonic2!!
@littermate and QUIX you guys are KILLING me!!!! hahahhahahahaha my laptop was ALMOST a goner because I was laughing so hard.
Mr. @davebutton I completely agree with you that it's frustrating.... If someone blocks you there is no reason to see their bits dangling around taking up valuable space. No matter if I'm happy or sad that someone blocked me (amused...... hahhahahahaha @quixotic_life still.... hahhahahaha).... The best fix I have found??? I usually just block their profile so I don't have to see or be seen. I have no desire to be a nuisance or be nuisanced by the said blockage.... (omgosh..... BLOCKAGE!!!) oK..... My work here is done. You may resume your..... whatever it may be!!!!
I feel like you all are kind of my tribe.... THE BLOCKED!!!!
I am blocked by a a surprising amount of men on here . Doesnt happen often with women though , however it def does happen. . One pro recently blocked me after I politely declined a solicitation to cuddle. Another non pro blocked me who I was actually pretty decent friends with, and had seen several times in the real world. That one actually did sting a bit and truthfully still does cus I miss our friendship . In that case distance was what we needed due to varying circumstances and she did what she needed to do to ensure that end . I can't fault somebody for doing what they feel is right for them so all I can do is wish her the best and accept her with open arms if she decides to open communication again.
@pmvines - I had somebody(not from this site) whom I used to hang out with for a few months then one night she sent me an email saying she didn't want to see me anymore and she only wanted to hang out with her friends then proceeded to ghost me after that. That one had me scratching my head.
@pmvines Sad to hear man. I have had people check out my profile and when I try to look at their profile I can’t because I am blocked. I have had some women send me messages that are nice but block me so I can’t respond. I had one female enthusiast cuddle and enjoyed it much, we used to communicate everyday but had a change of heart and blocked me. I agree can’t fault others for doing what they felt was right but just do my best to move on and find more interested friends/cuddles. It’s not easy especially at first but do my best. I am surprised by the number of men who block me too. @Mike403 I had a similar experience that you described on another site too. Sorry 😐 that you had to go through that.
@sillysassy that was really nasty, your definitely part of the problem
I often view the profile of people who post, to get some background to what they've said.
@met3344 uh , how exactly was @sillysassy being nasty? By not acting butt hurt about being blocked and suggesting to block them back so you dont have to see them on your cuddlers or visitors list ?
@FishCuddles thanks, it's fine really I wasn't trying to vent just was using a personal example of being blocked and situations where it can sting a bit . I pretty much expect to be blocked , trolled , what have you cus its online , and I laugh at that lol . Men block me for various reasons , sometimes they just dont want me visiting their profile or anything. Sometimes they dont like me from the forums ,and then there are those who are resentful and dont like anybody who has a decent amount of success on here. They are annoyed that I don't join their pity parties when they piss and moan about women and how unfair and cruel they are to them . Which is fine , you only get what you give and if all you have to put forth is negativity and comolaints then good luck to ya . I'll keep being me and stay up to my eyeballs in cuddles and you can keep being mad
I think it's one of the Lethal Weapon movies where Murtaugh says, "God hates me", and Riggs replies, "Hate him back, it works for me".
A "relationship" is only bad, when the hurt is one-sided.
@pmvines - you sum up my sentiments exactly. @sillysassy - you're spot on hilarious, as usual. @met3344 - perhaps you should re-read her statements and not take it personally - like most adults would do.
My one feeling doesn't care who/what/when/why someone blocks me.
Cuddle on.
@Sideon KEEP CALM . . . & CUDDLE ON
@pmvines Exactly..... sometimes whether you understand or not.... Agree with it or not..... You just have to wish them the best and realize their choices are exactly that. THEIR choices. @FishCuddles if YOU messaged me everyday I would NOT BLOCK YOU EVER EVER!!!! hahahha @Sideon My one feeling doesn't care who/what/when/why someone blocks me. I have to say this.... if you blocked me I would CRYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!! But alas I know you will not..... so indeed as the great @Sideon speaks truth CUDDLE ON!!!!! 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 @Mike403 I think that is the hardest part.... when you don't exactly understand what you did or did not do. I had it happen one time to me after we had been corresponding a tiny bit about a forum comment like @geoff1000 mentioned... all of the sudden BOOM!!!! Blocked!! I almost started to cry because it made me so sad. I thought maybe I had said something or done something (we were talking about some sad stuff). I kept forgetting I was blocked by this person and so when they made another interesting comment I was my usual self and clicked on the profile to remind me of where they lived and that kind of thing.... Every time I clicked on the profile I was reminded of the fact that they blocked me. (sad face emoji ) There was a long thread about being blocked and that is when I realized that the internet is different than real life.... Blocking a lot of times has everything to do with expediency in looking for connections and that kind of thing.... It doesn't always have to do with the actual connection being made between the two parties. Now I realize that I can chalk it up to being a part of the online world. @met3344 You sound like an amazing human and a beautiful soul. You've got some great karma and I love your profile pic. I'm so sorry if my silliness came off as being mean or rude or.... nasty. I might have rephrased some of my comments for the general public.... My apologies.... My ignorance of internet manners is showing. I have PM'd with the OP and quite a few of the members that had posted so I felt a little bit of freedom in being silly and honest instead of clarifying all of my terms.
Mr. @davebutton I'm so sorry if this has turned into a hi-jack of your thread and made it about blocking instead of about site usability. I don't like seeing people who've blocked me either.
@DarrenWalker I think I will let you take over from here (sassy says as she is quietly stepping away from the computer)