I keep getting messages from shady accounts? Men talking sexual?

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• Brandi

  April 2017

  @Mark please look into this IP address for that "Deaf girl". I have also been contacted by her and she wasted my time and as it turns out, is doing it to several pros since another pro had the same complaint.
  
  Her user tag is @LL2
  
  Its very commonly known that men message on here being out of line, the only solution is to speak the truth tell them what the site is for, and if they do not ease up, report them and Mark can ban the profile.
  Sorry you're dealing with that girl, just remember there are a lot of users that are here for platonic cuddling, and can take it seriously. You're here for them
  Big hugs and if you ever need to talk, I'm just a message away!
  
  
  
  
• pillowfight (deleted user)

  April 2017

  Thank you so much! And i can understand the flirting and I'm sure thats normal but the shadiness is what gets me am I at risk at being kidnapped? Or something else? Are there people on here posing to be someone else? I think it should be a rule that if you make a profile on this website that you have to have a profile picture. With your face in it.
• pillowfight (deleted user)

  April 2017

  I mean with this website being so passive on being anonymous I think it can be taken a bit too far. And I think the professionals should be more protected then that everyone deserves to feel comfortable on this website.
• funandadventure

  April 2017

  @pillowfight. Dear Pillow, YOU MUST REPORT THEM NOW, give @mark there contacts, he can and will follow the chatter and if he sees any problems he will cancel there accounts, report,report, report.
  The contact with the deaf female, never go off CC no mater how much they plead/cry and so on, you have opened yourself up to hacking, photos/drawing are ideal places to hide Malware. Make sure you virse software is up to date and if you still feel uncomfterble get it seen by a pro, lock out virses have time delays.
  CC has very good Hacking defences, that is why it is a safe site, @mark is experenced in these problems, so please use the site for contact until you know the people well.
  Love and peace, John and his trees, Auckland NZ
• funandadventure

  April 2017

  @Brandi, Dear Brandi you are onto it, nice to see people helping .
  Love you John NZ
  
• Unknown (deleted user)

  April 2017

  @Mark is absolutely amazing at following up with issues you bring to his attention. 
  
  I agree with @Brandi and @funandadventure  this site has a great community of people who look out for each other and are genuinely interested in platonic cuddling but there are always going to be those who don't abide by the rules or think there is a way to get around the no sex/platonic rules. 
  
   I'm glad you are safe and thank you for bringing it to light. 
  
  Hugs!
• pillowfight (deleted user)

  April 2017

  Thank you so much everyone! This has been really helpful
• Unknown (deleted user)

  April 2017

  I've never quite understood guys that come on here looking for hookers. If you want a hooker, go get a hooker. There are far more prostitutes in the world than there are paid cuddlers. Makes no sense to me.
• funandadventure

  April 2017

  @pillowfight Dear Pillow. HAVE you reported it yet.
  There is no flirting on here, this is pure energy and the gift of from one person to another.
  Love you John Auckland NZ.
  
• Unknown (deleted user)

  April 2017 edited April 2017

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• Dekooning (deleted user)

  April 2017

  Stay strong pillowfight
• pillowfight (deleted user)

  April 2017

  Thank you i will report it because everytime i said something he would say ok thanks for pointing that out and then find a another way to pursue it so i know for sure if i did try a session with him.he would more than likely make me feel uncomfortable. And probably try to pursue it anyway. Reported.
• funandadventure

  April 2017

  Good Girl, you stay strong. Let this be a lesson to all you who think this is a dating site. IT IS NOT AND WE DO NOT WANT YOU HERE. This is a no sex, no sex, no sex site how many times do you have to be told, GO AWAY.
  Love to you Pillowfight, hugs and thoughts. John Auckland NZ.
  
• CuddleBunny88 (deleted user)

  April 2017 edited April 2017

  Thanks for bringing this up!! There is also one shady account, Malonzo, who has made at least 3 different accounts in the past few days and contacted me from at least two. I've reported and blocked his accounts. The first one he was banned while trying to book and asked if I offered any "benefits". Please be cautious and stay safe!
  
  -Scher
• Brandi

  April 2017

  Also reported @malonzo !!! 3 times!! Crazy that he has the nerve to come back around. lmao.
• pillowfight (deleted user)

  April 2017

  Ok I will report ot if I feel like it will also make other pro cuddlers feel uncomfortable. So maybe I won't be the only one.
• navyvet76 (deleted user)

  April 2017

  Good for reportong. That way Mark can deal with it.
• I_am_Polylover

  April 2017

  @pillowfight Based on my talks with female friends, it is not just on this site that there are so many men who are completely perverted, clueless, or just plain idiots. they are all over the internet,  There are so many of them, that I am sometimes ashamed of being part of the male gender.  I am sorry that you and most if not all other women have to put up with that type of behavior.
  ♥Jim
  
• navyvet76 (deleted user)

  April 2017

  Polylover, not that there are not bad men there are plenty of times I had females at work say some crazy things to me. Ethics tells me not to fraternize with coworkers. Just saying men don't have the trademak on creepy.
• Unknown (deleted user)

  April 2017 edited April 2017

  I think as a society (some) people have become so overly sexualized and truly do not have the ability to separate platonic touch, non-sexual intimacy, healing touch and sexual touch from each other. All of these are amazing but they each have their own place. 
  
  This place needs to remain safe and non sexual for all of the obvious reasons. 
  
   I have also encountered predatory behavior or those who think if you say no, or move their hand, or try to be nice about a boundary that is just an invitation to keep pushing that boundary.  I will be honest I have found it to be challenging at best, and I absolutely don't want to be in a dangerous or compromising position with a stranger I just met. 
  
  One of the reasons I am so interested in doing the cuddle gatherings is to form connections between people in our local community to build trust between us, all different kinds of cuddlers: professional and nonprofessional and just people who are cuddle curious.  Safety is definitely one of my biggest concerns.  Building trust within our community is a really big deal. 
  
   Hugs to you @pillowfight !   I'm looking forward to hanging out with you!
  
  
  
• I_am_Polylover

  April 2017

  @navyvet76 I guess I just haven't run into any creepy women.  Some mean and nasty ones, yes, but none creepy.
  ♥jim
  
• navyvet76 (deleted user)

  April 2017

  Trust me they exist. My boss asked me if I wanted to report her to hr. I assumed she wouldn't last long at the job so I said no. Thankfully she quit. In my line of work men are the minority. I make it very clear, I have and always will be single. No dating any coworkers. Meaning anyone with a paycheck with the same signature on it. Lol that is why I say in my profile I will only meet first time in public also.
• I_am_Polylover

  April 2017

  I always assume that first meeting should be in public, but it has always been for the benefit of the woman.  I guess that based on what you are saying I should insist on it, even if they don't think it is necessary.
  ♥Jim
  
• pillowfight (deleted user)

  April 2017

  It can get a bit uncomfortable or creepy.
• Unknown (deleted user)

  April 2017 edited April 2017

   I've always been a cuddler, it's just recently that I've become a "professional paid cuddler"  but I'm known in my social circles for being the one to rest someone's head in my lap and pull my fingers through their hair, or spoon with my girlfriends while watching a movie, or sit in people's lap just because laps make great chairs LOL.  This also spills over into my regular profession which is helping women give birth… Many times in my testimonials women have commented how they got through very difficult transition or intense/long labors because i was spooning or a bear hugging them through it and they were able to avoid a medicated birth. Sometimes I have done a standing hug with a woman in labor and slow dance/rocked through contractions for hours. I'm certainly comfortable with touching people and in a nurturing way. But I've also become very aware that too many people think PLATONIC cuddling is a gateway to hooking up. I think it was shocking for me at first, I may be a little bit naïve because I have only had a small handful of long-term relationships in my life, was married and then in a committed relationship with someone who is deployed more than half of the time.  I've just always experienced touch in very defined ways and I am very firm in boundary setting.  Not everyone has that same experience/boundaries. All of that changed when someone was paying me for a service and perhaps had other expectations about what their money could buy in addition to cuddling?  
  
   I'm grateful for everyone being willing to share their personal experiences, it opens up dialogue and understanding that we each come from a different place and view things in a different way.  What may be the experience and truth for one person is completely different for another, and having this dialog gives everyone the ability to understand so many different experiences.
  
  hugs!
  
  
  
  
• VIPirate (deleted user)

  April 2017 edited April 2017

  I'm always sorry to hear about how often this type of thing happens. None of you ladies deserve it, professional or otherwise. If these guys want to hook up so badly, there are other sites for that. What's ironic, though, is that some are too creepy for even those sites. It's natural to find someone attractive if they are to you, but there is certainly a tactful way to approach.
• quietman775

  April 2017 edited April 2017

  It definitely ain't just men. Look at the new account by lilyandcuddles, posted age 23, Watkinsville, GA. Look at the pic and read the profile. Profile is overtly sexual. The pic, by the way, is probably lifted. It appears all over the Internet, and on lots of sites with Cyrillic script.
  
  Earlier, I saw an account belonging to a female cuddler whose profile paragraph was copied in its entirety from the profile bio of a professional cuddler on a different website in a distant state. Made me wonder: if the profile is not genuine, are the pics fake too? Is the whole thing unreliable? 
  
  Bad behavior is unfortunate, but it's a permanent fixture on the Internet. The two profiles I just mentioned prove that having face pics is not a panacea, nor a fix for bad behavior. I sympathize with those who find themselves on the receiving end of bad behavior, but I'm convinced there are no quick and easy fixes. That said I think the majority of people here are decent folks --- with or without face pics.