No Response

TDaniCTDaniC
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I've seem a lot of people get upset over professionals not responding to them. But do professionals every get upset when they are left on read? My experience is usually this:

Person: Hello! I would like tot o cuddle.
Me: Great! Thanks for your interest! Here are my rates: -insert Rates-
No response ever again. Do you every message them again as a follow up? Or do you just leave it. It says that I am a professional. You message me expecting a price. I don't understand.
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  • [Deleted User]Unknown (deleted user)
    At least you aren't getting a rude reply
  • TDaniCTDaniC
    I break my price down by how much conversation we have. And the lowest is if we talk for two weeks it's 40/h like out contract says it has to be. But you're super right @morpheus .
  • [Deleted User]Unknown (deleted user)
    edited April 2017
    That very sweet of you 
  • cuddleversedcuddleversed
    I have received a couple of quotes when contacting a pro that I deemed to high and my response (yes I responded) was : thank you for your response and now that I know your rates I will contact you if I decide to have a cuddle session in the future, thank you.
    it doesn't take long and I think it is the polite thing to do. 
  • ZionscallingZionscalling
    From my experience, some people what the possibility of making a genuine connection though there is a form of professionalism required for said cuddlers. Listing a rate THAT immediately can potentially come across as disengenuine or cold and you only posses interest in them as humans for the money they may or may not have. 

    Try chatting the others up a tiny tiny bit before listing the price and you may yield better results possibly. 
  • TDaniCTDaniC
    But I just saw a general post about prices coming up later feeling like a surprise. And I feel it's more professional to be up front. I don't want to waist anyone's time.
  • I_am_PolyloverI_am_Polylover
    @TDaniC  If my internet connection goes out, I get too busy to check email, or I don't respond for some other unknown reason, and I didn't get a followup from a pro, I wouldn't consider them to be very professional.  There is a lot more to being a professional than just collecting money for a service.  if you don't know what is required of a professional in any field, then you shouldn't call yourself a professional or collect money, until you find out what it means.
  • TDaniCTDaniC
    @Zionscalling I used your idea. In two different ways actually. I first
    told the person that we could talk price when they felt comfortable.
    Which went over really well for the both of us. A couple messages in
    they wanted to know price. The second time I said nothing and they asked
    the prompting questions but it took about two hours verses the about
    thirty minutes the other interaction took. So, thank you so much!

    @I_am_Polylover I know what is required to be a professional. And that is to follow my contract with the site, uphold expectations of clients to follow their contract with the site, respond in a timely and detailed manner about my services. While I respect your preferences when it comes to who you employ for cuddling services, those are subjective. I personally would not like to feel badgered about buying something - object or serves - if I just wasn't able to get to the computer in time. That said, just like for all professionals, there is room for experiments. I will try follow ups, maybe after a day or two of no communication.

    Also, your insinuation that I am not fit for my job because I asked a subjective question about other people preferences, is hurtful.
  • rollypollyrollypolly
    Send a follow-up if they have been online since your last message, then ignore if they don't reply. It probably means they are not interested. You can't force people to be polite, but as long as you hold up your end, you're a professional.
  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)
    I've been sent messages that I haven't responded to and I've sent messages that haven't been responded to.

    When someone doesn't reply I'm actually thankful for their "honesty" for not wasting my time.

    I definitely don't think Pros have an obligation to respond to everyone.

    As a Pro in a different field I turn down people all the time. 

    The fit needs to be right.

  • TDaniCTDaniC
    Gosh, I really appreciate all the opinions! Thank you!
  • rollypollyrollypolly
    @chococuddles I disagree that pros don't have an obligation to respond to everyone. No reply and a polite rejection are different things. Where there is a paid service, there are standards. I would consider it unprofessional even if a pro took too long to reply.
  • TDaniCTDaniC
    @rollypolly what would you consider to long? This isn't every one's full time job, and people have kids. I've had professors or Doctors that don't get to me until days later.
  • rollypollyrollypolly
    The same is true for people who would hire pros. They can't arrange a cuddle session anytime. Personally, I'd define "too long" based on how frequently a pro logs in, but it would probably be around 24 hours. If a pro logs in very erratically (like once every 3-4 days or more), I would assume she's not very serious about this. This happened with a pro who took almost a week to reply to my message, which discouraged me to continue further contact. She has been inactive for a month.
  • rollypollyrollypolly
    By the way, I'm only referring to pros, not professors or doctors who might contact you for cuddles.
  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)
    While I decline a large majority of offers for business, I do reply to each one of them.

    However on here - no reply IS the polite rejection.

    No reply, polite rejection - either way they'll probably get an angry reply. And what possible reason would a Pro give a client to politely reject them that would have that client feel okay about the situation?

    Pro cuddlers are basically entrepreneurs.  They have their own rules.  Some might decline clients because of age, race, proximity, etc.  Is that professional? No, but that's reality.

    Pros have an option, not an obligation.

  • TDaniCTDaniC
    What about people who use this as a part time thing? You might not be as serious about it, but you would be serious. Is your preference more for full time professionals?
    And I wasn't referring to clients not getting back to me. I mean my own professors or doctors, who take days. 
  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)
    Exactly.  That's my point.  I'm assuming most Pro-cuddlers aren't full-time so this isn't their main focus.

    Pros can respond or not respond. They can quit and come back whenever they want to. With no real consequences or
    damage to their reputation.

    In such a free-flowing organic business I wouldn't put too much stock into making things so concrete.
  • [Deleted User]Unknown (deleted user)
    This is a big issue in my opinion. Many females come on here and get the pro tag but they have clue what it means to be a true professional. There are many that are amazing but I've reached out in the past and have either gotten no reply or two word replies. That's not professional.
  • rollypollyrollypolly
    I don't have a preference for full-timers, but I do appreciate timely responses. Logging in to CC and replying to messages is not that big a deal. You could be doing that as easily as browsing Facebook. Sure, you might have a hectic schedule that makes it hard to even check FB, but I don't think it's an unreasonable expectation if you're going call yourself a professional. This is just my opinion.  
  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)
    I agree 100%, @rollypolly.

    But it is what it is.
  • ZionscallingZionscalling
    @TdaniC
    Glad it worked out for you! 
  • I_am_PolyloverI_am_Polylover
    @TDaniC  I did not mean to insinuate that you are not fit for the job.  I apologize that my wording made you feel that was what I meant.  I was using 'you' in the general sense, rather than referring to you in particular.  I agree with you that you are the one who needs to decide how long to wait before following up with a potential client.
  • ScarletteScarlette
    As a business owner (my full time gig), I feel like customer service is the #1 priority in any business, including this one. Answer promptly and honestly and never burn bridges. I treat my cuddle business every bit as professional as I treat my full time business.
  • rollypollyrollypolly
    @Scarlette thank you! I think that is the right attitude. Treat it like a real business even if you do it part-time.
  • im800mhzim800mhz
    I don't take it personally when a professional does not reply. I've only had one on this site drop off after they said they were sending their form via email and never received it. I sent an additional PM advising them I never got what they sent, and no response. No big deal, I know not to waste my time with them and why would one want to be bothered with someone who is either too busy or sketchy to reply to professional communication? Just tells me what I need to know, and I move on to someone else.

    at the end of the day, it's akin to dealing with any other professional. I've reached out to general contractors and gotten the same treatment: they don't get my money and someone else does. If a professional is too "busy" to act pro, the natural evolution of capitalism will work itself out.
  • [Deleted User]Unknown (deleted user)
    When they don't reply, I think oh well, too bad for them, they could have cuddled with all of this lol jk

    @im800mhz you kinda remind me of the Big Boss Man, remember him?
  • im800mhzim800mhz
    Yeah I do, considering he was from my home town...
  • snuggle554321snuggle554321
     I personally have never not responded to a client to send me a cuddle request. I have however had communication with them and decided to not cuddle with them.  Is there a way to politely turn down someone without simply not responding? I have had some people that I've contacted respond with "thank you for contacting me. I'll keep you in mind for the future."  I personally love it when they respond that way because I know not to continue to bother them!  The last thing I want to do is bother someone!  
  • [Deleted User]CuddleBandit (deleted user)
    edited April 2017
    Earlier a new professional who joined from LA ignored me. I sent her a welcome message and introduced myself. She just visited my profile and that was it. Maybe it's because she's 18. An inexperienced young woman who is just discovering what professional cuddling is. 
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