Is there a preference for one or the other?
Awesome forum topic! Both!
Ty @FishCuddles
Pros and enthusiasts. No one else!
While I have no preference, I remain thoroughly interested in meeting an enthusiast regularly. I have money to pay a pro, but once I have an enthusiast in my life, I won’t have to pay every single time I need a cuddle.
Just pros. While I am not absolutely 100% opposed to ever meeting an enthusiast, I don’t have any particular desire to.
That’s very interesting @CuddleMeLater was not expecting that response at all!! Share if you don’t mind as to why not.
@introvme
Partly because of the time and effort required to do it. As we already know it's hard to get a response from women on this site. But even after that, it seems people often talk for weeks or months before meeting, and they often aren't local to each other, so it requires travel to meet.
I don't think you can really judge compatibility until you meet someone, so all that upfront investment before meeting seems really backwards to me. Either way, it's a lot to ask for a casual, non-romantic, non-exclusive relationship that may not even extend beyond the first meetup.
Also, with pros I can see who I want. I message, she responds and we make an appointment. I can see 20 pros, and then decide which ones I connect with the most and want to continue seeing. With enthusiasts, men generally have to take what they can get.
Moreover, the limited experience I've had with enthusiasts on this site (and it's very limited; I've never met one in person) has overall not been extremely positive, and so I'm just not inclined to continue drawing from that well.
If a promising opportunity with an enthusiast just fell out of the sky for me, I'd probably go for it. But I'm not going to put a lot of upfront effort into pursuing that.
@CuddleMeLater Ditto. The time factor is the main reason I primarily do pros now, but I have had several enthusiasts as well. Great experiences with both but in general enthusiasts just want more of your time. That is a not a bad thing, it’s just that my time is precious under normal circumstances.
Enthusiasts only
@CuddleMeLater thank you soo much!! I couldn’t even begin to imagine why, & you gave genuine real good insight as to why, thank you for the detailed answer!
@introvme You're welcome!
Enthusiasts only. But if a really wondrous pro came into my sphere and I felt like they had something I wanted to pay for, I'd be cool with it. But it would have to be special amazing healing powers or something.
You’re silly @littermate 🤪😝
@littermate You have definitely not been hugged by me. It is very magical. Lol.
@Tranquilescape 🤗 🤗 🤗
@introvme you've got my numbah! @Tranquilescape I'll keep that in mind!!