STOP GIVING SEXUAL FAVORS PLS

corrithecuddler

To everyone that’s giving sexual favors for extra money please take it to another website. It’s becoming very difficult for people who are here genuinely to cuddle because the expectations are being raised. I’ve had to cancel and turn down many people because they have expectations of getting sexual favors because they have been receiving them and I’m getting tired of it. This is CUDDLE comfort. There are tons of other websites that might fit what you’d like to do, I am sure, please go there. I don’t judge do what you do but please stop doing it here because it’s effecting the people who aren’t here for sexual experiences.

Amortentia

I'm totally with you on this. It shouldn't be on this website.

I agree as well.

littermate

TOTALLY. I think it's a big part of why women enthusiasts leave after being here for a few weeks.

Rubinator

I still have yet to do a session because of the expectations of some of these clients

Agreed. None of us need cuddling conflated with sexual activity!

The thing is, the people who meet others through this site and then do sexual things—they know that's not allowed. It's right there in the TOS. That kind of thing isn't welcome here, and they know it. Virtually any other site would be fine! Just not here, don't do it here, do it on one of the million other sites that are actually meant for it, is that so difficult?

Well, no.

But here's the thing about these people: they don't care. There's no point asking them to stop, because they won't. They've already disregarded that request.

The only thing to do is find them, wherever possible, and kick them off.

Blue_eyed_Queen

100% agree. I have been saying this since I signed up in November to be a Pro. I've had some wonderful cuddlers but unfortunately I have to turn more and more down because of this EXACT reason. They already found sexual favors on the site and are just looking for the next person willing to compromise.

All i can say is report them as soon as you realize they want something inappropriate.

pmvines

I hate so many women are having to deal with this . It def is a thing , and unfortunately I have seen women afraid to speak up about it because they are afraid of driving away potential clients who might see them as being negative and what not . Pls report them when that happens. Both clients and pros alike . Admin is pretty good about dealing with that sort of thing .

One thing I will.say is there are certainly going to be timed where men will tell someone , particularly someone new to the site , that other women are doing certain things because they are trying to convince you that this is the norm and is accepted. Kinda like a child going to one parent , they say no , then they go to the other parent and say well they said I could do it ! There are lots of good folks here who appreciate you . I can imagine how discouraging it must feel .

CuddleDuncan

Ask the client who the professional was that offered sexual services, then Report both.

It is the only way that we will put a stop to this.

@pmvines is right, there are many clients who will lie about this.

Catloaf

This has actually been a problem for years. It’s not all CC. You can blame other websites with no rules in place like CuddleUp, where it’s possible to get assaulted and stalked by clients and the site does nothing. Known escorts are allowed to sell their services there and there is virtually no accountability held on either end. CU is in fact advertising their site on massage and escort review boards, so it attracts in people who think this is a better loophole. A lot of those same folk migrate over here and think we’re loosey-goosey for a good ol’ time.

I’ve seen pros who try to be kind about this and even suggest some avenues for people to try sex work if that’s what they want. I don’t see the point in it. Trust me, a lot of these people already know where they can go to get sexual favours, or they’re experienced enough to know. Punters are just always on the hunt for the next experience or deal, and they don’t care whose TOS they have to break to get it. Same with those who sell illegal favours under the table. They know there are other places to do this - they just don’t care.

sunnysideup

It sucks - please report anyone requesting or offering sexual favors and hopefully CC can get cleaned up. It’s clearly in violation of the terms of service, if they want to break them, they shouldn’t be on this site.

bekah_cuddles

Agreed. I support sex work, but not on here.

Kdog

I haven't done professional cuddling here but it finna makes it difficult for people who are trying to give a good service a bad rep its crazy

Morpheus

I’ve been on this site since 2015, have seen somewhere around 40 pros and never never once been offered any type of sexual favor. Are you all sure this is happening on here or is it all just rumors?

JayaVibes

Agreed!! It happens so much in the questions that I receive prebooking that it’s like a whole job just vetting that people aren’t creeps at first.

I’ve cuddled plenty of great guys. You can usually tell the creeps by their messages. It just takes a good amount of time and afford to deal with them.

I did have one guy who skipped through my questions and even seemed cool when I met him at a public place prior to our session

I brought him home and his hands kept “accidentally” getting into sexual areas while massaging me. I called him out in it and he made it my issue and needing to trust, relax, receive. Then he dangled his balls on my foot while leaning over me standing at the foot of the bed massaging my legs.

Don’t be bally guy!

And don’t be the women who let these dudes have more than platonic.

I do find that many guys on here will happily take sexual favors if allowed and it’s out job as pro cuddler Sri never allow that. All guys except for that one have been very respectful with clear boundaries that are given and held firm.

CuddleDuncan

@Morpheus

Are you all sure this is happening on here or is it all just rumors?

Yes we are sure. The reports are legion. Attempted sexualisation of cuddling and indecent assault are widespread and serious problems.

If you have seen 40 professionals and never had an incident you should consider yourself extremely fortunate.

cuddlerforu24

“ if you have seen 4o pros and never had an incident you should consider yourself extremely fortunate “

@CuddleDuncan After making a statement like that it suggests you are in the know , then if so ,what is the average frequency of these offerings by pros to clients ,?

Morpheus

@jaylove my question though is how do you know sexual favors are being offered by other pros? Your example is in regards to guys pushing boundaries.

Morpheus

I think the majority of pros don’t offer sexual favors. If they are, it’s probably the ones with the higher rates.

Jupiter795

Outside the topic, but does anyone know where to go see why someone got banned?

Sheena123

I mean, technically that’s still inside the topic lol
Just ask an admin

@Sheena123 how do you contact admins?

Sheena123

@VloneMyles there are a few ways to contact them. The mods (admins) names are Mark, sideon, soulcuddlerz, and squeakytoy. You could start a thread and put @ before their name.

The main way to contact them is on the main page.

Kense

I think some people are confused by the profile pics some have of themselves in bikinis trying to show off their assets. It sends some people the wrong message. Doesn’t give anybody the right to act a fool but seeing how some people present themselves they shouldn’t be surprised at the people they attract.

Sheena123

If you see a profile with a bikini, report them.

Kense

I’m not a report type that’s none of my business, if a woman wants to post herself like that so be it . I was just pointing it out the obvious , it’s a way for them to business.

ElleCuddleMi

That's why i have a camera in my cuddle room! Since I've been doing this in my professional space i never have issues during any session with inappropriate behavior. I was so sick of guys wanting more. I love cuddling professionally for those appreciate my platonic services.. these guys need to have easy more respect. Thank you for this post!

MagieNoire

Thank you all for the advice. I’m new to the site and I really would like to keep messages on the app for security reasons. I have already been asked am I clothing flexible. I just restated the rules of the site.
I’m really trying to be careful of how I say things so people don’t get any wrong ideas. So I’m reading FAQ and rules.

Rezz

@MagieNoire

Welcome!
Clothing requests are not really unusual, some clients loathe yoga pants due to the texture and prefer shorts or soft cotton pants. So while there's nothing inherently wrong with it, it's always to use your best judgement when assessing the reason behind their request.

And yes keep communication onsite for as long as possible. Anytime someone is pushy to communicate via text, Whatsapp or worse Snapchat before an accepted proposal there's a reason and it's more than likely to push your boundaries and they want no track record of it here on site.

You're already doing the right thing by recognizing red flags so many others miss. I think you'll do great here. ( ꈍᴗꈍ)

CuddleDuncan

@MagieNoire

I have already been asked am I clothing flexible.

That sounds to me like a Block and Report job. You wouldn't ask a lawyer or a plumber if they were "clothing flexible". As @Envie says, genuine clothing requests are framed with explanations or specific questions.

Brandi

Love this thread. Such powerful women here holding their own 👑 hell ya. Just made a huge post about this because it was really bothering me and found this thread right after. It’s amazing to see others on the same page of seeing the importance of keeping things plantonic for the safety of other pros and for making this the space it was created for. Love and light to you all and stay safe out there! 🥰 also a huuuuge thank you to the clients speaking up on behalf of keeping us safe as well. It means more than you know 😌🙏❤️