Tell me why I’m supposed to be excited about meeting people here, when it just ends up with me being ghosted, my requests ignored , or I’m gonna get stolen from after a certain point down the road anyway. I mean why bother starting?
...Do you have to be excited? I didn't know that was a requirement.
Me, I like being here because I enjoy talking to the people here—and if I get to meet some of them for a cuddle at some point, well! Hopefully none of them will be stealing anything from me, mind. I don't think most of them are the type.
Anyway, I'm pretty sure you don't need to be excited. Unless you want to be, I guess, in which case I can't really help because I'm more "quietly pleased" than "excited."
Why bother starting a thread about how your desires and needs aren't being met in a manner that is ideal for you? I mean, just stop using the site? I dunno.
I have been disappointed by inconsiderate ghosty people and I have been absolutely delighted by lovely, beautiful people I’ve met. It’s like anything else in life: you have to take risks to have a chance at a desired result.
If something is consistently not working for you: probably stop doing that thing. Also? Complaining publicly probably will consistently not work for you.
@DarrenWalker i like talking to the people here too. I was just lamenting some unfortunate experiences I’ve had and using ‘excited’ interchangeably with ‘quietly pleased’ I reckon’
@ShaneMTB you're exactly right. I’ve had weak moments though lately I guess lol
If you go into anything on the site with expectation that you will be ghosted, or stolen from, or have a negative experience, then people will pick up on that vibe and be generally turned off by it. It puts you at a disadvantage over the people that go into this hoping for the best but being pragmatic about the fact that nobody owes them anything.
If people ghost you, it sucks, but there are plenty more people here to talk to. Don't alienate them by being negative and confrontational (which is how your original post came across to me)
You should be excited because I’ve cuddled with way more people than I’ve been ghosted by or simply ignored by ( which happens ) I think those that ghost should just be ignored. Also being honest, I’ve had people that I thought were ignoring me and they were on vacation, or busy with work or any of the things that consume our time. More good exists then bad, both on this site and in the universe
You shouldn't be. There is a good chance you will never met anyone here. Don't expect anything and just hang out without putting in much or any effort. If you happen to meet someone cool, if not well you didn't really try anyways so nothing lost.
@BuggleBear i mean you’re right. Been here and had great experiences until Some of them weren’t. I’ll cop to have written a negative post in a moment of weakness . We all go through struggles. This one will pass.
@adorable48 Hugs. Sometimes we're not looking for people to make sense or solve anything, but just to be with us. So hi. Sucks sometimes. Here too.
Because this week we had Zack Snyder's Justice League and the first episode of The Falcon and the Winter Soldier.
Godzilla vs Kong in less than two weeks.
If you aren't excited, check your pulse.
"It's not about winning. What it is about is not giving up. If you have a dream, fight for it. If there is a discipline or passion, it's not how many times you get rejected or you fall down or are beaten up. It's about how many times you stand up and are brave and keep on going." Lady Gaga
One thing I always think about when I hear people talk about being ghosted or ignored , and I am not saying this is you @adorable48 just that its something to consider, is that some times we have to check our expectations and consider whether it is a matter of being ghosted or ignored , or whether it is a matter of us wanting more attention, interaction, what have you than the other person is able to give . I have very dear friends, some on this site , who I go weeks and sometimes months without speaking to for various reasons . I know at least for me ,lately it's been impossible to have the time and physical / mental energy to keep in touch like I would like to so it is sporadic, if at all . So someone not meeting that need or expectation you have for communication may just not be in a place where they can, and it's not something at all personal.
@ChocoChaCha great to see you back!! Dfferent suffix, same chocolaty goodness !!
@pmvines Thanks! Nice to see some familiar faces.
@adorable48 how about trying a pro cuddler
@pmvines i agree. It’s a continuos work for me to realize those things
Who says you have to be excited?
My advise is not to be quick to get excited. I'd suggest ideally being neutral that way you can minimize subconsciously or otherwise putting out negative energy that you will not find quality connections. And so that you also don't feel as hurt if things don't work out how you wished they would.