We’ve had a few cuddle sessions prior / eliminating all awkwardness / we’re comfortable in our night time wear & both have a specific playlist for the night which we will alternate back & forth / wood wick coastal sunset is burning / 4 fluffy pillows & comforter (doesn’t matter the temp outside) a bunch of silliness/ laughs / talks / a movie / she feels 1000% comfortable & safe … before you know it we break night.
I have had several weekend overnight sessions with one of my regular. We go out have dinner first, smoke hookah, come home and cuddle for couple of hours, then sleep back to back with space in between. Wake up and cuddle for couple of more hours. Then we go have nice breakfast and then finally depart to our own lives, with a promise to meet next weekend 😊
I would really REALLY have to trust them. As an amputee I have a possibly irrational fear of being rolled in my sleep with my wallet and my legs missing when I wake up. Also, I don’t know about the overnight thing in general…I want to spend every minute of my booked session awake and aware I am Cuddling and being cuddled. It is so meaningful to me that I don’t want to miss a thing.
@Spud424 i understand, me i just risk it . Because some doughts are bad. I believe what ever happen happens.
@TheMidnightOwl - thank you. 🤗
An overnight sesh would be mindblowing to me. I haven’t had that since the ex-gf. With my last cuddle session my cuddle-buddy fell asleep for the last 15 and I was blown away. I frigging loved it! I was like wow someone actually can fall asleep next to me. I felt human for the first time in along time. I felt accepted. Sorry If I’m rambling but an overnight sounds awesome
@panda619 no need to apologize and you are not rambling. Overnight Session is the ULTIMATE prize anyone can ever enjoy. I have done two of them and both of them were beyond fun. Give it a shot you are in for one of the beautiful times in your life.
A couple of hours of talk while trying various positions before falling asleep in a spoons position. Awaking in the morning together.
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I like the idea of separate beds as an option. Even my husband and I sleep in separate beds occasionally when we're having trouble sleeping. My grandparents slept in twin beds for decades! Once, when I had a really nice sleepover with a dear friend, I slept in the other queen bed in the hotel room when we weren't cuddling in the first one. It didn't take anything away from the sleepover.
This is a great question!
It’s not the breakfast, the coffee or cuddles exclusively though those things can enhance the experience for sure. For me what makes a good overnight is the right person. A respectful cuddle buddy who I know won’t try and do anything other than keep me feeling warm, welcome, and safe while mutually enjoying one another’s company.
@Nature_Lover_ I will have to agree with you. A respectful cuddler makes for a great session
Sleep is essential.
I like overnight cuddling the most. I think it’s fun to fall asleep next to someone and wake up next to someone. I love to cuddle right before I get tired and then I like to hold hands and lay next to someone and then wake up cuddling or spooning or hugging. But I do like to get my sleep that’s why on my site I give a half price discount for eight hours overnight. I also love to cook breakfast too.
@Zaxsis Absolutely
Overnight session is my dream i wish I can afford it
"Amnesia the next morning because there’s no way in heck I’m paying north of $500 for a women to sleep in my bed for 1 night." @Libra0
Hahahaha...seriously.
For me, I really have to trust the person and know that I will be safe.
Sleeping temperatures, if anyone talks or snores the other person needs to at least be aware of it. Boundaries and consent are huge. I do not want to wake up in a situation I would never agree to while awake and fully conscious.
So far , I've done four overnights but never at my house. Thankfully they are very respectful considerate cuddlers and I have enjoyed their company immensely.
The worst I've had to contend with have been limbs falling asleep awkwardly and my long hair sometimes getting in the way if I leave it down.
One regular cuddle buddy I meet with weekly , we are going to try to incorporate one overnight a month in. Because sometimes just an hour or an hour and a half goes by too fast.
I consider myself very fortunate to have met such wonderful members of this community.
The worst I've had to contend with have been limbs falling asleep awkwardly
That's my biggest issue, doesn't take much for this to happen to me. Big thing like others said, is much communication before hand. Just discuss any doubts/fears might have an can release any anxiety. For example, I mentioned "that my arms fall asleep easily and I may end up shifting a lot, and I'm anxious about moving and accidently waking you up, would that be an issue"...and if they come back with, "understandable, not an issue at all if I'm awoken by you adjusting", can help alleviate things a lot.
All this talk about breakfast though...sounds quite lovely! pretty much all my experiences with overnights have been, one of us out the door pretty quickly after waking.
@kimberly77 Wow I really like your take on this subject. You have some extraordinary ideas and I believe an Overnight Session with you will be ON POINT.
@entwine mine is because I've broken elbows before and had nerve relocation surgery done on one, are you dealing with a similar situation?
That's the wonderful thing about cuddling with someone around my age. Everybody's got some kind of joint or body ache , and you don't feel awkward bringing it up.
I know it goes against the grain of society, but I still have this dream of having a close male friend that I have sleepovers with sometimes. I mean, I am as they say “a grown-ass man,” and a married one at that, but I still crave a friend who loves me platonically, doesn’t want to have sex with me, but loves to cuddle and sleep with me— and I do mean sleep literally. Maybe it’s because I didn’t have enough sleepovers or best friends growing up, maybe it’s because I’m satisfied with my marriage but not with my friendship life… I don't know why it is, but I want to sleep with another man sometimes! 😆
One might ask, if it’s strictly platonic, why don’t I want to sleep with a woman bestie? Actually, I don’t even crave a woman BFF. I identify as homosocial; that is, I prefer the company of men. I work with women all the time, I often teach classes of women only, and I often take classes in which I’m the only man (for some reason this is the case in my field), and I enjoy spending time with female clients and colleagues in the moments just before, during, and after work, but I feel most at home with men.
Despite it being unusual in present day America, I personally feel that my desire is normal, and that two male best friends sleeping 😴😴 together — even when they are married — is natural.
A good overnight is one where both parties trust each other and understand each other's boundaries. There should be numerous activities during the session, including: dinner, cuddling while watching a movie or television show, cuddling before going to bed , sleeping and then a morning cuddle and breakfast. It should be a memorable experience for both cuddlers, one where they appreciated the time spent with each other and enjoyed the session.
Well described, @Lev136 ! My sentiments exactly. Maybe even a campout with dinner, campfire, conversation, singing, storytelling, and sleeping in a tent together. 🏕
My perfect overnights included a nice snack before bed, nice cozy cuddles with a heated blanket, plenty of communication about sleeping preferences, spooning and cuddling while chatting about life, lending an ear or just enjoying the moment! Massage is a great way to wind down before sleep too!
@KYtranspant
are you dealing with a similar situation?
Oh, nope. That does sound painful though, I'm sorry :-( My body parts just like to fall asleep very quickly if I'm just in any slightly adjusted position. Just sensitive nerves that easily cut blood flow? Not sure.
@nurturingman
I still have this dream
That's quite nice sounding actually. Hope you find it.
but not with my friendship life
I feel that. But, I understand for me that is hard to have when I don't leave the house but once-ish a week.
@CuddleDuncan I could not have said it better myself.
Set your mind on strong-but-quiet respect. Discuss and deal with boundaries, as if the discussion is perfectly normal. Not as if it is a formality, or as if it implies anything but respect. If you are cuddling under terms of any site, read the terms. Think them through and make sure that you agree with them. Discuss what you hope to get out of the session, what kind-of, timing, and qualities of contact you want. Pick a style and jump in.
I've spent one over-night. It started with the above and a great squeeze. The rest of the afternoon-evening was spent out doors just sharing time. There was a before-night-night cuddle which washed-away the previous week's anxieties. There was actual sleep. I was so relaxed, there was no energy for extended chatting. In the morning, there was a great chat over breakfast and later a squeeze goodbye.
I would say that the communication made the whole event. We had already established the rapport over months. I knew that there was compatibility in our communication styles. I knew that both of us went into it, planning to enjoy the shared time and space. (Yes, I'm a martian).
Your mileage may vary.
Not to bring old forum comments back up, but users like MrMarkAndrew frequently come to the forum to argue about the legitimacy, or lack thereof, of the Pros here, the services they provide, and the cost they provide them at.
Reading this made me really upset for a few reasons, but users who have the same line of logic I'd like to you to perhaps consider that:
There are enthusiasts, you don't have to exclusively go to a Pro Cuddler
Everyone's rates are different, I don't charge anywhere near that much for overnights and frequently give price accommodations as the people who ask are usually in situations I'm very sympathetic to. I have had pros do the same for me in the past.
I have personally paid that much before for an overnight session and to make someone feel bad about that- or as though it's invalid is really insensitive to the needs of certain users on this site. I have PTSD and sometime go through bouts of near-debilitating nightmare spells for days on end. For me, paying that much for a "women to sleep in my bed" is more than worth it and nothing to make light of.
Everyone's partiality regarding overnight sessions is entirely up to personal preference and their needs, you're not ridiculous for paying for it, nor are you abnormal for not being into it and preferring exclusively daytime sessions.
@SleepySheep1 Agreed. It's a matter of need and preference. If someone can afford it and chooses to spend their money that way, as long as they are following the CC rules, it's really no one else's business.
A lot of respectful snuggles, a cuddler who makes you feel comfortable and safe all night. Anything else like dinner, breakfast, coffee, etc. is irrelevant.