Attachment Styles

MxSmith

When you are in a relationship, which sentence resonates most for you?

1. I feel like my partner often needs space from me, but I would like more intimacy.

2. I feel like my partner wants more intimacy than I can give them. I often need space.

3. I feel good about both giving and receiving intimacy and space.

MxSmith

*sorry my poll didn't work

ernesto_2

Honestly? #1 for me, because my need to give intimacy is generally not tied to the level of intimacy someone wants to receive. It's like having an open faucet without the house attached. I'm just trying to give, give, give, even if it's just making a mess

Lovelight

Nah, I like to think that my pillow and I have quite a good and healthy relationship. 😅

MxSmith

I'd say I fall somewhere between 1 and 3. If I'm dating someone who is avoidant and needs a lot of space I can start to feel anxious, but if they are secure and don't have any problem with intimacy or autonomy then I feel just fine and well balanced.

xandriarain

4. My partner and I both need a lot of intimacy.

TheMidnightOwl

Depending on the relationship dynamics, it can be any of those. Yes, I have disorganized attachment style. 🙁 Given my life experiences starting from birth, I’m not surprised.

CozyWolfy

If you are anxious I will be avoident.. if you are avoident I will be anxious 🙈 .. im a work in progress for sure.

Morpheus

Definitely 3

simsaddict

All. It greatly depends if the other person(my partner) has been providing me the attention I crave or not.

Ahmedali999

3 amazing

cuddlyBear10

3 for me.

UKGuy

I've never seen intimacy and space as being mutually exclusive.

Babichev

It’s been too long, I can’t remember. ;-)

I agree with @UKGuy - intimacy and space are not the same thing.