After getting this question via PM, and having fended off multiple requests to take conversations off this site before I want to, I thought I would share my reply:
- We chat on this site.
- We decide to meet.
- We agree on a movie (date and time, theater near me).
- We exchange first names.
- We meet 30 minutes before the movie starts, go to our seats, and chat.
- When the movie starts, I either cuddle up to him by slipping my arm under his and laying my head on his shoulder or taking his hand and putting his arm around me.
- We change positions as needed throughout the movie.
- After the movie, depending on the vibe I got from him and my schedule, we either part ways or talk for a while or get something to eat.
- I repeat this as many times as I feel the need to.
- Once I feel completely safe, I give him my number and progress to meeting at his place or mine. I also follow the safety steps in my profile.
At least 50% of men never make it to step 2. Only a handful have made it all the way to step 10. Those few are absolute solid gold. I have never regretted sticking with step 9 and refusing to give any personal information until I feel safe. If asked, I say something like "I don't give out my phone number before I feel really comfortable with someone I met on the internet." If he reacts poorly to being told no, you now know this is not a good candidate for cuddling.
ALWAYS trust your instincts.
Gentlemen, I don't mind you joining any conversation that may happen here. I just ask that you accept whatever feedback you receive from women without telling us why we're wrong.