Case Closed
So let me get this straight.
Two people cuddle. They build a friendship. Then a romance. Cuddle needs met within that romance, they both stop using the CC website. Then the two break up.
Cuddle needs no longer met, one of the pair begins using CC again (while still hoping the old romance can be rekindled).
Mixed messages are where?
Edit:
• Getting your platonic needs met while trying to win back the one who meets your non-platonic needs is completely consistent.
• Looking for a cuddle buddy is not the same as looking for a romantic partner even if some cuddle buddies occasionally happen to hit it off that way.
• And implying that any cuddler who hit it off that way with one cuddle buddy once has probably done it many times before and will probably do it many times again is, shall we say, not precisely logical.
I will give my thoughts on this thread but I will preface this by saying that there are ALWAYS two sides to every story as a now deleted recent thread in which the ex thrashed a well known pro and which sounds suspiciously similar to this one.
That being said the OP says they’re no longer in a relationship so I’m my opinion they’re both free to do as they please. I don’t understand the wording when he says she “blatantly” reactivated her account, she didn’t blatantly do anything, she just reactivated her account because you’re no longer dating, what is she supposed to do, sit at home and never cuddle again in any form with anybody because you guys broke up? And if she’s sending you daily love messages but you guys are not getting back together that to me means that hope for reconciliation is not good, at least on your part. So I’m guessing you want her to keep trying to get back together with you but not be a part of CC. Also you accuse her of crossing the platonic lines and can she ever be trusted because of this, but she crossed that line with you so that sounds hypocritical and petty on your side.
My view is that you don’t want her to be a part of CC, you want her to keep trying to get back together with you while at the same time questioning her trustworthiness.
Move on dude, that’s what you need to do, you guys broke up and she is definitely moving on and having her touch needs met via CC.
@Eddie2022 You need to let go.
She’s not wrong to cuddle again. What do expect Eddie? What should she do; forever go cuddle-less from now on because of you? Man You have such amazingly high self-esteem. You have no right to try to control her. You never did. If you don’t want love messages from her ask her to stop and move on.
You should really do something about your jealousy; it can be a corrosive acid that will cause you and others a lot of unneeded suffering.
My advice is to seek counseling for you and ask her to stop contacting you if you can’t deal with it. You appear unable to manage your emotions and jealousy in a way that would allow you to stay in contact with her.
That previous post was much different. The pro cuddler was jealous of the ex for cuddling other pros after he was supportive of her being a pro cuddler for years. She was far from thrashed and was not mentioned by name either.
Regardless, pretty rude responses. Unlikely either of you could even get with a pro
Case Closed.
@Eddie2022 you should probably stop talking about her.
You airing another person's stuff , even if you have history together, publicly, is harassment. It doesn't belong here. No other debate or narrative or discussion, matters. You're violating their privacy and the Terms Of Service of this site. @moderator This post should be locked to protect the other person from the harassment. Easy peasy. Read the terms of service and keep your concern trolling to yourself. It is low class, and not welcome. Peace [Edited for spelling.]
What @Gallowglass said.
@Eddie2022: If you have proof she's here for sex, report her. If you have no proof, drop it.
Cuddling for income is as platonic as cuddling to feed touch hunger—neither clashes with wanting a romantic relationship back.
If you want her back, accept her "love-messages" and take her back. If you don't want her back, drop her altogether and move on... like @cuddleversed advised.
The thread starter is questioning a pro cuddlers ethics ( in services with no ethics regulations )altho that now he’s deleted the post , it too confusing for those just logging in.
I don't wth is going on. Though OP, if your issue was she got back here so quickly (according to your perception) after the break up AND you too were taking sometime not pursuing a cuddle or anything: then you probably have a reasonable right to be upset. However, it's still her decision as to how quickly or not she gets back to things. You also said she's been sending you love messages?
What's the issue...? If you want her, like why not try to get back with her? If not tell her to stop and start moving on like others said.
Yawn
Wait guys. He just typed a subject line and later posted “Case Closed”. Nothing else. Nothing to go by. Why would he not say anything else? I’m so confused.
She's your ex. Even if she weren't, it's not up to you.
Feels like OP is 41 going on 15. Why even bring it up here?
"An adult who no longer has a relationship with me, and who owes me nothing, is partaking in a consensual activity with other adults"
What's her name? It sounds like she really needs cuddles right now.
@MCcuddles2 this is a perfect summary of what’s going on here. Good luck to all of them.
Indeed. Case closed.