Anyone has experience rejection from this site?

This brings me to a much curious question that I would like to bring up. I enjoyed being on this site and I have the pleasure of meeting some wonderful down to earth fellas that are just pros and I grateful for their existence; however I did meet folks in the area that ended up being not what they said they were. I try to give everyone a chance until they give me a reason to raise suspicion. Now that said. I am also a Seattle newcomer from Alabama. Not only, I am suffering from clinically depression, I am having a bad time making new friends to vibe with not alone dates that are less challenging. To put the icing on the cake, meeting any potential cuddlier in my area on this site has also been challenging. Often times, when I tried to message a potential cuddlier (because that person happens to be a pro or seemed friendly-fun) to possibly meet up, this person observed my profile but disappointedly never responds back. This happen to me numerous times and It doesn’t make me feel good about myself. Sometimes I wondered, have I said something that must’ve upset or offended this person? Or does this person always rely on looks which could’ve illuminated me based on my features? I was wondering if anyone else experienced some type of rejection or disappointment from a potential cuddlier?

cuddles_ndream

I felt like that when I messaged someone with the most amazing profile ever about 3 miles from 1 of the best restaurants I’ve ever visited in my life … I was hoping she responded because her profile was that amazing and also because she was near one of the best restaurants I’ve ever visited in my life 😂 but she didn’t 😭

stormydaycuddle

This was incredibly well written and respectful compared to some I’ve seen. You can lament feeling rejected without shouting that someone owes it to you. Thank you for putting it that way and I’m sorry that you’ve experienced that on this site. Keep trying. Some accounts are dead and others just don’t read their mail. Or come to CO and I’ll cuddle you.
Hugs
Stormy

ReltvlyCanshes

All the time. It’s a masterclass for humility.

cuddles_ndream

@stormydaycuddle 💯!

teddybear888

Yep. It’s happened. Expected. Disappointing. Megh. Pick up, move on.

DaringSprinter

It's pretty common. Does make you feel like there's something wrong with you.

My latest rejection was from a local who reached out to me, then changed their mind after realizing I'm not a woman—either they didn't read my profile closely enough, or they did and assumed I was one anyway (a surprising number of people do).

It can hurt. Try not to take it personally, if you can. Think about it this way: if they don't want to cuddle you, cuddling with them would be bad.

Hopefully you'll meet someone who makes a good buddy for you in future. Good luck!

TheFunCartel

I can’t account for the poor taste in others so I don’t fret about it at all.

stormydaycuddle

@FunCartel unless it’s dead accounts or missed mail I agree. Absolutely, based on the profile I’d say it’s a missed opportunity. 😢

SunsetSnuggles

This is super common, definitely not just you! One of the main complaints seen, here. The best tip is to check someone's Last Online date in their profile, before messaging...many locals may not have logged in for years, so they aren't judging or ignoring, they simply don't use the site anymore. Invest your energy wisely. 😊

~ Sunset Snuggles

Bear

It's happened to me a lot. I do feel rejected at times.

stormydaycuddle

@FunCartel wait…. Did I agree with you on something? Hell has officially frozen over people. J/k. Totally kidding. 🤗🤗🤗🤗 I do agree with you often. We have notoriously been at odds on occasion. 😂😂😂

wrench

My favorites are pros who I message and they respond once and then ghosts me. Same goes for enthusiasts who message me once and never again after I respond positively.

Its like the human race no longer knows how to communicate

CuddleDuncan

I don't know how many people I've messaged on here and not received a response, but it must be well over 100. No response is by far the commonest outcome when you message somebody. I always assume I will not receive a reply, and I'm rarely disappointed.

It can feel like a rejection, but the truth is that it very rarely is. (And arguably never is, in principle.) Quite a lot of the time your message never gets read, and even if it does there are a million reasons why somebody might not reply before we even get to the question of whether they have 'rejected' you. (And then we get into the complex cases ... I've encountered men who didn't reply because they thought the woman messaging them must be a catfish or some other kind of fake account, when in fact it was entirely genuine.)

Whether or not somebody replies to you is something that you can't control.

stormydaycuddle

Knew entitlement would rear its head eventually.

TheFunCartel

@stormydaycuddle I find people who agree with someone at all times boring and run-of-the-mill sycophants. Disagreeing with someone at times is not a bad thing and can add spice to life. Plus I know I am not everyone’s cup of tea because I am more prone to coffee, so I usually don’t care unless they persist in a public critique of me. And I am not perfect because I leave coffee rings on the forums.

stormydaycuddle

@FunCartel i have two cups of tea literally in front of me right now so makes a lot of sense. It also might be the reason why I’m being a forum junkie and not working right now. 😂😂😂

TheFunCartel

Oh wait…did I see disagreement is good? It is as long as you agree to change your mind and agree with me. 🤣

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stormydaycuddle

@Cater2you Looks don't matter at ALL. However, if you've ever had a stranger try and do inappropriate things to your leg or elsewhere I'd say screening matters.

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MissAdventurous

Rejection totally happens to us all, myself included. If you didn't do anything personally wrong, try not to take it seriously to heart.

I've had some bogus messages from some crude and rude people, fuck em' is what I say cheerfully, connection is out there with so many others, try to focus on that vs the few rejections that can occur. When the universe tells you NO it's saving room for YES! 😊

@Dinah87 Don't worry about it. IUnfortunately, it's normal, even when contacting pros. There's nothing wrong with you. I read your profile. It's perfectly fine; well-written and with attractive pictures. If you were in CT, I'd schedule a cuddle session with you...and I wouldn't charge you for it, LOL!

Connecticut1977

I have an the unfortunate thing is that the young lady who rejected me misunderstood me. I made a statement about how beautiful she was and she changed her mind on meeting me. It happens to the best of us. @Dinah87 don't even sweat it!!! If you need to talk I am here. I read your profile and I think you are a beautiful woman.

@Connecticut1977 I'm relatively new here, but if there's one thing I've learned from reading A LOT of the forum posts it's that anything that even slightly smells like anything beyond platonic causes people to lose their minds. So, it doesn't surprise me that giving someone a simple compliment on their appearance would cause them to decide not to meet you. Now, a bunch of posts explaining why complimenting someone on their appearance is a problem here will appear in three, two, one...

Minestrone101

Rejection is a part of life. I roll w the punches. A stranger can't really determine my value or worth.

CuddleDuncan

@Connecticut1977 she did not misunderstand you. On the contrary, she understood you perfectly, that's why she no longer wanted to see you. You are fortunate that she seems to be a kind and forgiving person who replied politely. Many would Block you, and a few would Report.

Telling somebody they are beautiful isn't a compliment. It's just rude. Saying it to somebody you have never seen in person is downright weird. Even if it was a compliment, giving looks-based compliments to somebody you are hiring is inappropriate. If you're a man, making looks-based remarks to a woman you have met in a professional context is .... well, it's horrifying.

@BClarkIV I'm very happy to fulfil your prophecy! The remark in question is not a simple compliment: it's a nasty, aggressive, belittling attack.

stormydaycuddle

@cuddleduncan Say it louder for the people in the back.
Edit: noticed you did hahaha

PeopleLikeUs

Every profile draws certain people in while at the same time, pushing others away. I like the no's because it enables me to get to the yes's that much faster and collect people who aproximate the types who are a fit with me. I'm looking not only for a cuddle buddy but a social network of tactile people who admit to that up front. Just by being here I'm saying no to people who don't get it.

@CuddleDuncan Of course you're entitled to your opinion, but, generally, there's nothing "rude, nasty, aggressive, or a belittling attack" about telling someone they are attractive. There are plenty of wonderful relationships that have been started by someone giving a complete stranger a compliment about their appearance. Think about what you said, "Telling somebody they are beautiful isn't a compliment. It's rude." What a backwards way to think about things!
And your comment about "if you're a man..." is, to use your language, downright sexist.

@Connecticut1977 See what I mean!

Now, a bunch of posts that illustrate times when the giving of a compliment was really a poblem because of the way it was delivered (even though I clearly said "generally") in three, two, one...

stormydaycuddle

Stones in glass houses.