I have a sense that this topic could be a mega thread. It's big. It's disconcerting. It's prevalent.
I've noticed an increasing number of popular cuddle pros deactivating their accounts, many of whom are on my favorites list. And I know several others who are close to it. This isn't a typical "retiring"; this is a bold, definite deactivation. One of my most regular pros recently told me that 4 out of 5 new client sessions are with guys who want her to take her clothes off. 80%. Big number. Close to the amount of times Aces beats Kings in poker.
Don't misunderstand me; these aren't near-rapes, or even physically aggressive situations, but simply unconscious energetic misbehavior, filled with presumptions regarding service, as well as a sprinkling of at least disrespect, if not out and out misogyny.
Rules do not end this behavior, no matter how a profile reads, or how stringent the rules are that CC expresses. We need a cultural seismic shift, and there are no easy answers. I just thought that if it were brought up in a forum, with both clients and pros able to share ideas and stories, we as a community could become more conscious, communicative, and understanding.
I don't want to name specific pros, but one who recently deactivated traveled to many cities, had a profile page worthy of an artistic award, including nearly 100 karma filled with appreciation.....and she finally decided she had enough. She shared with me one situation that was horrific, with someone who had plenty of approving karma. My sense was that he purposely scheduled sessions with well-known pros to receive karma, then could be out of line in a session where trust was assumed. Now granted, the pro I am speaking of may suffer a bit from caretaker syndrome, as many do, where an environment of service, trust, and compassion is created quickly and lovingly. Such wonderful humans unfortunately become constant targets.
So I have been recommending to new pros to vet quite carefully, perhaps have a quick video or audio call, maybe even a public meet first. Make sure they have karma. Go to the providers page to see what they wrote in gratitude of the session they had. And finally, reach out to your fellow pro to see if she might spare a minute or two on the phone to describe more candidly her experience with the client. I really think that if the community of pros responded to one another actively in this way, much fewer untoward situations would be experienced.
Love to hear ideas, stories, and plain old-fashioned dialogue on this complex issue