Regulars becoming too comfortable

greenearth2

This is about pros. Non pros are completely different. There's no comparison.
One is a person only cuddling with you because you are paying them money.
The other is someone who likes you well enough and there's some mutual benefits to cuddling.
If you don't see pros then you don't know anything about what that is like.
The topic is about regular clients becoming too comfortable.
How does that have anything to do with non pro mutual cuddling ?
Who is the client ????? There is no client in non pro cuddling.

Brandi

@GreenEarth ...Stop belittling people!! First, you insult me by saying, "I imagine I've seen way more pros on multiple sites than the poster knows or has seen herself." Are you kidding me right now? All I have to say is: "Get off your high horse!"

Who do you think you are, some king of cuddles?? So you've seen a lot of pros... okay... and that gives you the right to be disrespectful as F***  and talk about how you know it all? I don't think so. Your opinions and his opinions are very much both allowed whether he sees one pro in his lifetime, or if he is even just considering seeing a pro: These are open discussions for any and everyone!

Take a look at how you're speaking to people, dude... Any pro that reads these threads will surely steer clear of your business (I know I will). You are all drama all the time, get over yourself! You're old enough to not be starting internet arguments, and they're always about the same thing: RESPECT towards professionals. I hope you realize it comes off as if you don't give a flying F*** about rules. But there are rules...and laws... so get over it.

"I think you guys need to just start seeing more pros and stop posting your opinions based on fantasy." ....Excuse you? You don't know anyone's experiences here, just like we don't know yours. So unless you want to share some experiences or some kind of beneficial response, kindly take your incorrect assumptions and put it right up your rump. I usually love to hear other's opinions and debate in respectful ways, but at this point I've just pointed and laughed and ignored a lot of your comments because of how crazy rude most of them are. It's unrelenting, and you don't seem to understand how offensive you have been,

PmVines and another professional stood up for respect and boundaries and spoke nothing but truth ... then you call it fantasy land?? LOL. I think you're in fantasy land, sir... I believe you should be reported for bullying in all of these threads...

I don't even understand why you got so pissed in the first place. Your comment right above PMVine's said "consent is everything." Soooooo.......where is that mentality? What about his comment triggered you? He seriously spoke of respect and consent, and nothing else. Nothing else! Look for something else, you won't find it. Are you upset purely because he said to "respect a person's boundaries regardless of how close you feel or how many times you meet"? The whole point of this thread was to talk about clients who get to feel too comfortable, but it sounds like all you want to do is "get too comfortable" and then make others feel uncomfortable because you are feeling strong, attached feelings. You've even mentioned that you are prone to falling into that state in previous threads.

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Thank you so much for your comments, @PMvines. You didn't do anything wrong and your comments are so needed and appreciated, and most of all, your opinions are very much heard! Your cuddle buddy (PRO OR NOT) is very lucky<3 And please continue to spread your opinions: they are respectful, and worth reading.

"IT MAY BE YOUR MONEY AND TIME, BUT IT'S THEIR BODY"

- A really caring person

snuggle554321

@Brandi <3  Bullying apparently lights your fire just like it does mine! 

Yasssss.

pmvines

I'm just taking the high road here. I hope you find what you need to make you happy in life....

 I just want to add one more thing… Just because a professional is being paid for a service doesn't mean they don't care. I care very much, this is very much about forming genuine connections and stronger bonds with other human beings, but I also have more than a dozen years of experience  studying the tremendous impact of oxytocin on the mind, body and emotions. I have taught classes to my birth clients about the power of healing touch  and how it literally makes or breaks a persons ability to cope ( and not only in discussions about childbirth or caring for newborns,  but in relationships with partners and other children).  I've written the sections of educational manuals on this. I'm in love with that aspect of the human spirit… I absolutely do care. 

 Also, my time is worth money. The experience and kindness and skill I have is worth the compensation I receive for my time. Otherwise,  I wouldn't have repeat clients in any of the aspects of my work. And I do! I have a very strong repeat client base and almost all of my work is based on referrals. 

 I think our society needs to get past the idea that it's not OK for a woman to charge for her time, her energy, the effort she puts in and the benefit she provides. 

 There is no shame in charging for a service that is clearly very sought after.  Especially when someone is really good at what they are doing. The shameful part is people seeking out those very services, and then putting down the people who provide them. 

 Love to everyone in this thread. Even those who are in disagreement. 

CarlosHunt

@FireAndBlue - Very open minded, logical thoughts.  How soon can we cuddle?

 You are in New York and I don't know if you are into traveling, or if you have seen the post I put on the Maryland Cuddler section, but within the next month I am hosting an in-person meet and greet in the Columbia Maryland area.  Trying to get everyone local together, have some food, professionals and non-professionals and just people who are cuddle curious to see each other face-to-face. Hopefully connections and friendships will be formed and people can go cuddling from there. 

 You are absolutely welcome, anyone is! I created a very simple skeleton website to organize. You can click on and add your email information, any ideas or suggestions you have… Anything really. It's about getting people connected in real life and taking some of the online mystery out of meeting strangers. 

 I feel like we are all here for basically the same thing. I'm hoping people from other areas will join us and whatever organically happens after that with the connections that are made. 

 It's not a "cuddle party"  because I know that is a branded thing but basically along the same lines. Hopefully there will be a lot of cuddling and people making friends! 

SnuggleCompanions.com

Brandi

So awesome fireandblue! Ive actually been wanting to do a social gathering for quite some time. And not a cuddle party but just a gathering where people meet. Keep pushing girl! I can tell already youve made a huge impact on a lot of people in this world!
Big hugs and much love to you!

If you ever come to the LA area let me know if you want to hang out and try to set up a cuddle party here, I dont have a place to host but I know of a few really gorgeous parks and an amazing taco place ;P

Yesss, tacos and cuddles!!!

 This is more of a social meet and greet gathering than a "party" but you know if you get a bunch of cuddling prone humans together in one space it is bound to turn into that. 

Could be a big puppy pile when its all over.

greenearth2

Haha. I should be reported for bullying when you and your friends are taking turns trashing me. That is hilarious.

Brandi

There are two totally different tones between our texts. Il leave it at that.

I decided to take a break from the boards for a few days, I think it's been five or six. I feel that a lot of people come across as rude including myself at times. I don't mean to be but sometimes I get annoyed at things I read. I read through the comments on this thread and feel that there is a lot of confusion going on here. One person is under the assumption that another doesn't see pros but he actually said he does see pros. Then people are being rude to someone they feel Is being rude to someone else. So one person is attaching another person because they are attacking another person lol There has to be a better solution to all of this. For me personally, I had to take a break. Maybe that's the solution, if posts and comments are annoying people, step away for an it, take a break. People like brains were just assholes, the people here that are arguing are good people, just passionate about cuddling whether they see eye to eye or not.

docgatorb

I think that there has been less arguing and more joking around which sometimes gets twisted around, the same way that texting does.

Brandi

I definitely wasnt joking. And there are comments from greenearth in many many many threads with very harsh tones and cruel words. Nothing confusing or funny about it. Stepping away from bullys comments and ignoring them is not my forte. I also read his comments outloud to some friends and their look of horror would also show its not taken in a light hearted way. I dislike online bullying and will speak up, even if its taken as "reverse bullying" lol.
Sharing opinions is one thing but he was raging on pm vines. And thats not the first person he has done that to. The last few MONTHS these threads have been nothing but bullying.

If you bully a bully, what does that make you?

greenearth2

Oh goodness...still talking about this stuff?  Don't you have cuddling to do?