This is a question for women , how would you feel about dating a man you know pays for female companionship ?
I personally wouldn’t mind it especially if it’s on a platform like this where it’s only for platonic purposes….. I would probably even join on the cuddles or cuddle events with my/that individual. That is assuming the individual is someone ie. already built the trust and comfort with etc etc.
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I think what the OP is driving at is the knowledge that the man in question has in the past paid for companionship or cuddling (which includes the very recent past); not so much whether he would continue to do so while in a relationship.
Are you asking if a lady would date a guy who has ever paid for female companionship? If she would date a guy who had recently done so? If she would continue dating him if she found out he was actively doing so while they were dating? All of the above? 😁
My guess is that most of the ladies would answer those three questions (as to whether they'd be okay with it): yes, yes, and no. I'm not a woman, so I wouldn't presume to speak for any of them. But I suspect most girls would be okay with a guy who sought companionship before they started dating, but would be upset at the idea of him paying for companionship once they started dating.
Depends on the woman and depends on the man, because most of what women take issue with when it comes to men seeking companionship in that particular way in general has to do with the rampant, well documented issues of abuse, dehumanization and objectification that happen at the hands of many men in those spaces. Regardless of what people's overarching opinions are on the concept, removing those aspects, say in the context of safe and mutually consensual platonic cuddling, tends to help with the stigma.
Individuals can and will of course have their own thoughts on the matter, some women may see it as a deal breaker or at least an issue, others may not, but I doubt there are many of those women in this community considering the circumstances.
Also @KingsportCuddle if you don't know, and the question isn't aimed at you, it's probably more efficient not to guess and just wait for women to answer lol.
I would be fine with it. @KingsportCuddle did happen to answer correctly for me. Yes, yes and no. I like to go out with guys with integrity. I prefer to date a cuddler. It's not necessarily significant if the guy has recently hired a cuddler for platonic reasons, other than I would know he likes to cuddle and I would be more inclined to stay with him (assuming he has integrity of course).
I think it’s important to know what, specifically, the op means by “paid for companionship” here.
Paying for sex is so often non consensual. Not to say there are not sex workers who do so intentionally and purposefully. But many, many do not and it is almost impossible to know from the outside.
So, if that is what you are asking, it says something about how one views consent. And that is very often (maybe always) an important consideration about how one is viewed by people who are most frequently the victims of consent violations.
If you are asking about paying for cuddles with the intent of ONLY paying for cuddles, that’s a different situation.
As a woman with a million and one things going on everyday, its nice to be compensated for companionship. Its a token of respect for your time and boundaries. If men waited till another person was free and available to cuddle, it may never happen. The payment is a sure fire way for everyones needs to get meet. Humans are a resourse, but its not free because we are not owed other peoples selves. Just my two cents.
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@natickben The phrase 'paid for companionship' encompasses various activities where the primary focus is on the experience rather than the individual, making it inclusive of sexual services. However, the transition from companionship to concerns of human trafficking or non-consensual sex work may seem disconnected or extreme. Am I overlooking any relevant context, or does this appear somewhat unfounded?
@natickben i had some similar thoughts to yourself. If by 'female companionship' OP meant a woman who walks as an escort. I would have some negative feelings about it and not want to date the man.
Within patricharchy, I'd assume such a man would have some entitled / polarised views about women generally. That he might resent the transational aspect which trickle into our dynamics. I date to connect with someone emotionally. Ideally to see my humanity beyond my womanhood.
I'd also assume he may also have difficulties around social skills or communications which would an issue, with the type of communication I look for when dating.
My views MAY be different if he was paying for NON platonic female companionship because of an addiction..
If it's 'platonic female companship' I'd prefer if the man didn't actively seek or pay for platonic connection with women as we get closer / date. Particularly new connections, where there COULD be cuddling/ lots of one on one interactions. Personally, I'd want that type of intimacy reserved with just me. Especially if we wanted to create a relationship.
If I knew he was, I'd share my needs and check if he was willingly to stop. I give LOTS of physical touch, attention and companionship, it could be a deal breaker if he choose not to.
Not even trying to answer the question, but I wonder how OP would feel about dating a woman who men were paying for her companionship?
@NickWk thats where my head went. I'm not sure if the response to the opposite question would turn out the way most would expect. Dating a woman who is, was or will get paid for cuddling. The word companionship brings up other things for me. Also for me the word platonic wouldn't change how i felt about it. I also probably wouldn't tell a woman i was dating i participated in this practice, for fear of how i think they'd react. At least with a reason to disclose.
It would be neat if when divisive questions are pondered for a thread topic that the OP checks in from time to time to clarify questions that are posed so that rhe question in question can be adequately responded to
Simply put, if we're not in a confirmed monogamous relationship, why should I be concerned? Circumstances differ, and if I'm unable to help due to a disability, that's another factor.
I believe in focusing on my own life and respecting others' choices, embracing our differences.
I am I’ll just stay in my lane type of woman.
@4cuddles I love the way you stated that.
This is a hard one that I’ve actually had to confront in the past. It does plant a seed of doubt in your head as to his values and how he views women in general. Does he see them as objects for a service that he could buy into, or as human beings with a mind of their own? Is he on an ego power trip when it comes to women, or is he genuinely unfulfilled somewhere that’s exceptionally hard to get solace in. If we entered into a full on relationship, would he view a paid companionship as an easy out when things aren’t as peachy, or would he talk to me about it first, consider my feelings in the process.
It makes you question a lot of things. It doesn’t make me immediately dismiss him per se but depending on how involved he is in that kind of thing, it would raise a red flag for me.
Oil and vinegar.
I think most men pay for companionship even if it’s indirectly. There are so many reasons from convenience to shyness etc there is no specific type of guy. Men have offered women gifts since the beginning of time when they are interested in spending time with them I’m unsure if they all expect more. This happens with boys and girl pretty early on it seems instinctual. It doesn’t always have to be sexualized so I don’t see any stigma I think it’s a natural inclination.
I do not see an issue with my partner paying for companionship in the past. I appreciate them for being honest with me and trusting me with this information.
As a professional cuddler, I have heard a number of reasons why men have chosen to pay for sessions. I don't pass judgment on them. I would not pass on him.
Btw, sex work is work. I am speaking for consensual, chosen sex work. In all honesty, I've received stigma because cuddling is platonic, but it is still an intimate experience.
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Does this also apply to dinner, a movie , a show, or only if a man pays for cuddles ,since it's platonic?
I don’t care if anyone has a problem with how I spend money; especially if it’s important to my wellbeing. The person who would think less of me because I’m paying for cuddling doesn’t deserve to be in my life.
I firmly believe the idea that we would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.
@ShaneSchrute -fair enough.
It's not about thinking less of you/ someone paying for platonic cuddling... Far from it. I'm was surprised that's the main point you took from the women who shared.
Out of curiosity, does your view still hold if a person YOU were romantically interested in and dating, had reservafions about you paying for platonic cuddling? For example if they were worried it could impact the intimacy or bond growing between you two?
One of my clients got married recently and another one is about to.. both of their partners know about their cuddling.
Some people are hella judgy yes but why would you want to date someone like that?
100 percent agree with @ShaneSchrute ! A person can spend their money however they want especially if they’re spending it in a way and it’s making them happy. Sometimes you have to say the hell with people thoughts not everyone is going to always understand why you do what you do but it’s not always for you to explain either . You have to be selfish with your own happiness and do whatever makes you happy .
Simply answer is I do not see a problem with someone paying for companionship
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" divisive questions " ? Wtf 😂
If you knew the history of these forums regarding payment for cuddles then you would understand how it will be construed that way. For example, if you were to start a thread about the prices charged by pros on here it would be shut down quickly.
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