What is a group cuddle? How do you get in on it.
What is a group cuddle?
I think it's a group of people who all cuddle together at a pre-determined location.
How do you get in on it.
Go to the group cuddle thread, join an existing cuddle group or start your own, I guess.
Before Covid when Cuddle parties were more prevalent, I was in a couple group cuddles. They were Cuddle piles when everybody was just in a mishmash so to speak. Then The also a cuddle train when you had one person behind the next person like a stack of spoons in her drawer. With the stack of spoons the hardest part is being the last one because you don’t have the warmth behind you.
The only way of getting a cuddle puddle today would be getting a bunch of people together for cuddling I would think.
A group cuddle sounds awesome!
I looked around for the group cuddle thread, but couldn’t find it. Is it still up? If so, can anyone please point me in the right direction?
@doobiedoo86 , here you goo...
https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/14339/meetup-cuddleparty-meet-greet-mega-thread/p12
@TxTom
Thank you!
I'm thinking about having a group cuddle session at my studio. If you're interested and can come to Downtown Glendale, just tag me in your response!
@Bear okay but a cuddle train sounds fantastic. Being both big and little spoon at the same time? What a dream 🥰
@hey_nikky Both situations are wonderful. Also Connell train in the Mama beer position. I think it’s called. Then there was a time you can make a special request on your birthday. I followed suit after someone else, and I picked laying down and being caressed and touched everywhere but my bikini zone. Cuddling with multiple people is always been a wonderful experience especially when there is trust Involved
2 things about the train idea
You should do it like a flock of birds where every 10 minutes or so the person in front falls back to the back of the line and you just rotate through.
I think I would actually prefer to be the person in front or the person in back because I imagine if I was in the middle somewhere I would be a little too warm. I tend to get very warm very fast when I have Body Heat against me
@TravisMorris Group cuddles are organized events typically facilitated by trained leaders. You can find them on MeetUp, EventBrite, etc. by searching "cuddle" in your area. CuddleParty.com is one of the most well-known.
Most group cuddles I have been to begin with a boundaries and consent workshop. I would highly recommend this type of group cuddle over a less structured event, at least if you're starting out.
Feel free to read more, here: https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/14443/so-i-started-cuddling/p1
Best of luck finding a group near you! They are absolutely lovely.
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@TeaCuddle I have only been to one so far but it was great! Tagging as requested ☺️
What @SunsetSnuggles said.
My understanding is that in the cuddling world a 'meet & greet' is normally a non-cuddling event.
@TeaCuddle if you are contemplating limiting the attendees at your group cuddle to people you know well, then great. If you are considering allowing others to come then I advise strongly that you delay it until you have fully understood what you are taking on. Group cuddle sessions attract bad actors, and - quite separately - release very powerful emotions. In other words, if not run by people who know what they are doing, they are actively dangerous. Please be careful.
Hi @CuddleDuncan,
After giving it some thought and consulting with my close circle of trusted friends, as well as considering insights from experienced people like yourself, @SunsetSnuggles and @CharlieBear on the forum, I want to express my gratitude. I now fully grasp the potential risks involved, especially for someone new to hosting group cuddle sessions. The points raised about the possibility of unforeseen circumstances and the safety risks they could pose have been eye-opening.
Your guidance, along with the forum discussions, has prompted me to rethink the idea, at least for the time being. I've decided that if I ever host a group cuddle, it will be with people I'm completely confident will respect and uphold the sanctity of the space. My top priority is to maintain a safe and respectful environment for everyone involved, and I'm not ready to undertake the responsibility of a group session just yet.
I really value your advice on this matter. Hopefully, this can also serve as a learning point for others considering similar endeavors. Thanks again for your support and guidance.
This was lovely to read about real intent for community and also real concern about it. I feel like I am in a good place here. Thank you, all.
There is a place here in Orange County that specializes in group cuddling. It would make for a good model. This place is pro and the owner is open about how to go about it. We're not really allowed to advertise out here so I'm not sure how to proceed @TeaCuddle
I would love to do a group cuddle 😀 that would be so much fun !!!
~ Happy Cuddling Everyone 🤗 ~
A few people mentioned group cuddles to me after reading this thread I have a better understanding of that it is and I can agree that it sounds fun . Maybe I’ll try to put a group together in the DMV area. How would that work for payments or other pro cuddlers ? Do you only have cuddlers from the app in the group ?
@TeaCuddle thank you, I'm very glad I helped.
Group cuddling is a brilliant thing, it's just a lot trickier than it looks. I will give one example from my own experience.
While waiting for the start of a regular cuddle workshop, where I was a regular attendee, I went up to a new person to introduce myself and make them feel welcome. I don't remember the details of the conversation but I would have done the in-person FAQ that experienced members do with new members at any such group. The person stayed for the whole workshop and although I happened not to encounter them again during the afternoon, it seemed from a distance as if they had a perfectly satisfactory time.
Some months later the organiser, who I know well, revealed to me that a few days after the workshop the person complained to her that I had approached her and suggested that we watch pornographic videos together. The organiser has the experience and knowledge (she is fully trained in safeguarding) to recognise that this was completely untrue. She did not dismiss or ignore the complaint and did what she could to support the person, but - knowing what a devasting impact such an allegation could have on me - did not mention it to me at the time. The person did not come to another session, so we never got the chance to help her further.
So ... running a group cuddle is a tricky business. There is training you can do. The best known is by Cuddle Party®.
@caramel226
@PeopleLikeUs advertising is indeed prohibited in the forum, but exchanging information about the cuddle world is fine. And obviously when something is inappropriate for the forum it may be fine in PM.
@CuddleDuncan thanks for your responses and example (yikes) !
The overwhelming evidence seems to show that group cuddles have all sorts of positive and negative happenings within.
Having a trained facilitator in charge who can handle touch trauma and big emotions is a must when you are dealing with people who are new to each other, in my opinion.
What I understand is that in order to charge/ask people for payments and that kind of thing it has to be on your own page and not here in the forums (like advertising)
There are a lot of great facilitators who I’m sure would help people who are in earnest about being a facilitator.
CuddleParty trains people Cuddlist trains people Kassandra Brown is an amazing Cuddlist coach who does virtual classes as well. https://www.kassandrabrown.org/
Meetup is a great place to find group cuddles. 😊 Although I imagine every state/city is different. Perfect for a destination idea though!! Check out Community Cuddles https://meetu.ps/c/2Xqxp/xR34P/a
There are people within our own community like @RadiantHugs & @justjennn who have a lot of experience.
@frankparker9 is in the process of getting training and wrote a thread about it.
If you’re just trying to get a few people together for fun and a group cuddle that is a different thing of course and extremely lovely!
I imagine what @TeaCuddle did was appropriate because our fabulous moderator @CharlieBear responded.
My understanding from @Mark is that the group cuddle has to have the option of a sliding scale or is free if you are going to post in the forums.
Maybe they can help us out with the specifics?
PS. @Emmebee1 welcome to the site! I love your fabulous purple hair! 💜💜💜