@Sooson I know you were probably being facetious but I wish I could say it happened somewhere else. 😕 Thankfully reported & banned, but gosh right when you think you've heard it all. Be careful if you Google those things 🙈
A spa day? He wanted in your pants THAT DAY!! That's a HUGE "red flag". NEVER loan a stranger money. It's not even a "pink flag" if their profile doesn't have a photo, but it's a flat out red one if they won't give you one at all!
Asking what the person is going to wear is fine, but TELLING them what to wear is NEVER okay- unless you have an allergy. I'm allergic to Tide, so I'll ask what laundry soap they use, but otherwise, I wouldn't tell someone what to wear
I've fallen asleep while cuddling SO MANY times, but never the first time. I have sky high anxiety so if someone can get THAT to shut down, my brain's like, "Peace out!" but all of those times, it just happened.
Orgasmic hugs are totally a thing. Id say a pink flag. I took it as the person getting comfortable. Fighting their demons and erections while still trying to hold me. Lol as long as they don't do it in my ear and calms down when addressed it doesn't move to a red flag
If I was a female cuddler, I would have this tool for pink flags turning into red flags so the offending party could witness their downfall:
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I'm so new to this I really just learned about this and that this was a real thing I could really use some help understanding this how not to do anything and wat I should expect from other members it's just hard for me to understand how to be that vulnerable with some one able to have that trustworthynes that IV been trying to understand it all being that IV really have never thought that there was something like this to help out some one who Is really needs that comfort and connection with another person and that it doesn't have to be a weird or uncomfortable thing cuz just as much as you need it. They need it. It doesn't have to be sexual thing at all. It could just be that you are having a connection with somebody, warmth, caring, feeling that you need and are lacking of I know this is going to sound a little weird from me because I even feel a little that I am a married man. I am not looking for any kind of sexual relationship with nobody, but I do crave that connection with another person and friendship that comes with it that you can connect on that level and still completely being plutonic friendship. Knowing you need that covering, may it just be that because honestly I would never be able to just go do that without being their friend first and as I mentioned I am married but feeling the lacking of that connection. Not that I'm not connected with my wife. I love my wife very much but we've been married 20 some odd years and you know sometimes don't connect right? And you don't get that embrace u long she's just not that let's just hang out for any length just holding each other not that we don't have small moments of that trying to to understand ur salf and knowing wat u r looking for is really just a like minded friend because for me tell I stumbled this community today I really didn't understand exactly what I needed. I knew it wasn't relationship with another woman as far as having sex and stuff with them. And to be completely honest, I don't think I knew how much I needed a community of people like you guys until I came on here. That's seen. This is probably what I've been looking for instead of having a confusion of thinking I needed something maybe out of another woman that I didn't want I'm thinking this whole time we've been searching for this. It's still very hard to understand. Hoping you guys can bring clarity to me about this maybe I'm really excited at the aspect of it but not sure about the reality of it. Maybe there's someone here that have some feelings and maybe tell me I'm not going about this all wrong or I'm not seeing right idk I'm sorry I just got vary overwhelmed here but thank if you got this far and if nothing else I gave my salf some clarity and what is I need and not need and maybe stop being so hard on my side you never know. Maybe I can get my wife to get into it as well!? Its all most like a worm embrace therapy if u thank about except your therapist. It's also your friend and you their therapist. I don't know. Sorry I'm ranting now I hope to here from some of u guys ☺️
You know, normally I would have mixed feelings about what you wrote but I believe you’re sincere. You aren’t being secretive, you’ve filled out your profile and included a photo. I hope you find a good Cuddler but also this is a welcoming community, many different viewpoints. Sometimes it takes a long time to find the right connection. Best of luck and please read through forum topics.
I'm confused so are orgasmic hugs red flags or not? I would think that from the term alone it would be considered sexual and not platonic, right? Am I correct in thinking that or is that not correct?
Edit: I also want to double-check that armpit nuzzles are considered a fetish, right?
@mtex Fetishes are endless . I knew a guy that would get off on getting booted from a chat room by a female moderator. The one and only Supreme Court Justice Buddy Love. what a dude. if you are familiar with the name, that means you were there too.
@Sooson yikes, I didn't know about that one. After my safety was put into jeopardy I seem to be a bit more sensitive to reporting especially if someone uses the same phrases as that person. Ultimately it's up to the moderators to ban members who are in violation.
@MTex What is orgasmic hugging?
@keni1282 I'm not really sure. 🤷🏻♀️ The way it was described to me sounded like a tantric meditation. A tight physical hug but it involves spiritual release, then emotional, & finally a sexual release. Which does not sound platonic to me. That's why I red flagged it.
I mean… the “sexual release” part should be your answer 😣😣
Why on earth would something containing a "sexual release" be advertised as a pink flag. Oh dear. 🚨That's not platonic or ok for this website. Just FYI. Orgasmic hugs has never been explained to me in detail or researched. I take it as someone getting comfortable and letting out a grunt or moan. I'm clear on communication during my sessions so my cuddler knows what is over my boundaries..Everyone has their own boundaries of course but for the love of cuddling please do what you feel is right for you. Create your own cuddle path ✨️ stay safe