How can a man 55 or older NOT be considered a "Dirty Old Man" if he seeks to cuddle?
I mean, I can only speak as a pro, but Ive had sooo many men 55 and up cuddle with me and I’ve never thought that 🤔
It sounds like you have had some bad experiences. I have had some awesome cuddle sessions with men in their 60's and 70's. Age should not be a factor.
@Tender64 , No man at all is considered as such on this platform at all just because they seeking Genuine Platonic Cuddles. All humans need cuddles, regardless gender or age. 👍🌞
So sorry if you had a bad experience ( hope not on this site?). If someone ever treat you badly here, you can report it.
Indeed, happy cuddling 😊🫂💖
Did Chris Hansen interrupt one of your sessions?
By not being a dirty old man
Age doesn't have to do with anything. A 20 year old can be a dirty predator just as easily as a 55 year old. Just don't touch anywhere without consent and keep the requests platonic on this site
By taking a shower
This is a platform that welcomes all ages 18-100+. No one should think that.
Not 55 but am up there in age and I can tell you even though folks will have preferences with age it still boils down to how you are as a human. That is the biggest contributing factor , not age. I've met some amazing people up to age 70.
That being said, if you're 55 and only reaching out to 20 yrs olds and asking them how little clothing theyre willing to wear , then you a dirty old creep .
Did Chris Hansen interrupt one of your sessions? By taking a shower
Oh, I needed the laughs today!! I snorted coffee out my nose!
Age is never an issue. It's platonic cuddling. I have cuddled 20 to 70's.
@Tender64
So, are you saying that any grandfather who cuddles his granddaughter is a 'dirty old man'?
Which part of 'cuddling is a platonic activity' - something you signed up to when joining this website - are you having trouble with?
If a man over 55 is given a prostate examination by a doctor who happens to be young and female, would you consider him a 'dirty old man'?
I find questions like this (they come up from time to time) disturbing and creepy.
I have found older gentlemen far more enjoyable to cuddle than young Bucks who are under the impression this is a dating site.
How to not be a creeper:
-Do not ask me what I’m going to wear. I will wear attire conducive to cuddling. -Do not ask me what a session is like with me. That is totally fishing to see what additional services might be included. Every session is a little different. There isn’t a coordinated cuddling routine. -Do not lick me!!! My goodness the amount of people that think it is okay to lick my ear or shoulder😵💫😵💫😵💫 -Do not try to kiss me!!! It is against the rules and my mouth is not a cess pool for germs, common cold, flu, covid, etc… -Do not “accidentally” brush against my breasts. I know you are feeling the water to see how I respond! -Do not ask me what turns me on
AND: -Do NOT dry hump me!!!!! I am not a fire hydrant, you are not a dog. It is so incredibly disrespectful.
Respect me and my space. It allows me to let my guard down and truly have a powerful exchange of energy with you. Sorry, had a lot of prime examples on my mind.
Uummmm...a shower? I'm sure I'd be a dirty YOUNG man if I didn't shower on a regular basis.
Anybody who'd think that of you just for your age, isn't worth your time or consideration in trying to change their mind.
I think it's not about age for the most part, just be a decent human, which you likely are, like everyone else and try to find others who accept you as you are.
I've checked your age range which sometimes may be an issue or be perceived as such. The way you've it written at the time of writing this is very reasonable to me for your age.
If anything I'd say, regardless of whether or not it's legal, if someone is say who is 30 to late 30s, and going for someone under 20 that can send red flags. Being 40+ and going for someone under 20 can similarly send even bigger red flags too. I'm not here to tell anyone to change that, if that's how they choose. Though that's one change generally speaking that someone may choose to make to not perhaps be seen by many as "creepy."
Though, like I'd mentioned your age range doesn't as it is now fall into that.
The following tips are more optional, especially for you, and aren't particularly about how to not seem "creepy." Though you may still find them helpful.
I think your photo is nice. However I see some room for improvement, if you'd like to do that. You can make it a little nicer by watching videos on how to get better angles, if need be. Or see if you've relatively recent photos that show your better angles. Because unlike real life, people only get like one dimension of you in a photo and those who don't know how much better angles can make a difference may be too quick to judge others as being not as attractive/appealing as they'd like. Even though, this is a platonic platform, many people may still be driven to go for attractive/appealing.
So if they've A, who don't have the best photos compared to group B, all things being equal, they may be more likely to choose B. Now maybe group B is somewhat younger than you and that helps them even with their bad photos. Though you can choose a few photos and be strategic about it, therefore potentially help even out the field for yourself to some degree. Also you being a good, and respectful man also sets you apart from quite a number of people out there. So I think it's more a matter of putting yourself in a better position to hopefully help others get past the initial stage they may get stuck on.
So if you've a few photos, you can choose your best one or two followed by mid range, then end with a good one or two. That way others may get a better view of you. Ideally you may also like to include one with you out doing something fun. Maybe you're somewhere greenery, fun or interesting, and doing some nice activities. When others see you in such lights it may help them to emotionally better connect with you.
Like "wow look I love nature and this person is somewhere nice and greenery!" Or "I love so and so, therefore I connect with this person on that. I also see that he likes to be active or creative, that's nice!" The more positive things strangers can associate you with, the better your chances may be. Although that by no means generally means you'll have no struggles or necessarily drastically reduce any existence struggles. I think it's difficult for people here in general for all sorts of reasons, so it requires a lot of patience and being as strategic as you can be.
When they see you with a pet they may feel you've a warm side, when they see others... they may feel you've a social life. I put a pause on being seen with others, though I personally wouldn't really include photos with others here even if you hide their faces unless you've their permission. Because they may be identifiable and not want to be included on a generally misunderstood or disrespected platform like this.
I think your bio is also nice. Though maybe you can lengthen it a little by including a few things you are passionate about, and maybe what about cuddling interests you. When writing about the latter if you do say include how you love to be held and comforted, then I'd balance it out with how you also love to give back, if you do that is.
No man at all is considered as such on this platform at all just because they seeking Genuine Platonic Cuddles.
That is how I feel about it. Age should not and as far as I can concerned is not a factor.
@pmvines @Mike403 💯
One's actions and behavior is what makes them "dirty". Age has nothing to do with it.
I've had beautiful cuddles with a 75-year-old, and at no point did I get dirty old man vibes. Similarly, I've had cuddles with "young bucks", as @Sapio8469 said, and while I feared they may have less respect or be more handsy, I had absolutely lovely experiences with them, as well. Lesson herein: Age is but a number.
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Hmmm... cuddle expiration. 🤔...
On the real, I think it's better to focus on what you intend to do (set boundaries , communicate, being accommodating, being willing to learn) than to focus on what others might think.
@Hollydollhugs thank you! I’m looking forward to my 101st birthday (in a few years of course)!
@TxTom Anna Nicole was not a platonic cuddler but I don’t judge her or Mr Marshall.
Truth is everyone male and female needs a 🤗 regardless of age. Quite possibly as you get older it may be needed even more so and not in a “dirty” way.
And you have karma from several cuddlers already @Tender64 so you seem to have already proven yourself to not be a dirty creep
Thanks for all the comments. I agree with the sites values. My own head issues with how things could be perceived. Platonic is great.
A lot of my older clients are complete gentlemen. But overall, age doesn't matter. I had a 24-year-old client who was the SWEETEST and never once tried to cross a boundary. So innocent and wholesome, way more than I expected from a young guy. I've had older gents who were gross and entitled, who REALLY went over the line and low-key assaulted me... But most of them are mature, emotionally intelligent, well-behaved, and respectful.
To quote the late, great Aaliyah: 🎶 "Age ain't nothing but a number" 🎶
I am 55 and my cuddling is just getting started. You are only a dirty old man if you act like a dirty old man. Don’t.
@PixiePassions that quote takes on new meaning when you consider that she was married to R Kelly at 15 😯
@pmvines - Okay, but it was still a good song and let's just forget that part 😭
He's a creep. 🙃 Quote still applies in this situation, though.
I am 56. I admit I had that same worry at first. But that was QUICKLY put to rest. I signed up with CC on Wed 1/24/24. 4 days later I had a cuddle session with an attractive 33 year old female who had absolutely no problem with the age difference. Made a point to say something about it because I did bring up the "dirty old man" perception. She has clients older than me! It was my first ever cuddle session, and it was absolutely fantastic! She is a wellness professional, only interested in my healing. I did NOT feel like a dirty old man putting my hands all over her much younger frame. It was all appropriate cuddling, and she had awesome feedback for my cuddling and demeanor and energy. Being a thoughtful gentleman goes far! And that's not all! I have a cuddle appointment tomorrow at noon, and she is 29! Obviously, she doesn't have any issue with my age, either. And in a week or so, another cuddle session with a 37 year-old. Full disclosure, I had my second session ever, and she was a lovely 60 years old! All ages welcome!
Just a helpful tip, using terms like putting your hands all over her younger frame and even using a term like attractive, sometimes is a red flag to women
You are as old or as young as you feel. Don’t let somebody else dictate who you are. I say, don’t let your inner child grow up. As long as you treat others with respect, you should be respected. Anyone who treat you otherwise does not deserve your time. Perspective from a 55-year-old man