I find that being an asshole no less than 16 percent and no more than 28 percent of the time seems to be the sweet spot
@CuddleHugs01234 I did that for my hubby as a gift!
@CuddleHugs01234 Absolutely brilliant idea 🤗
@Sheena123 How did they fit all of your cats on one shirt 😂
@ATemporaryUser0 I'm pretty sure it's possible to be interesting and not offend the majority. It's fine though if you think otherwise, I'm not here to change your mind. Just trying to share what I think might help whoever it may.
Maybe some people just don't really understand what I'm talking about.
So let me try to give an example I just made up, though that more or less align with the reactions I had to some usernames, profile photos, etc.
Let's say there are two men whose username says something like "Tall victious alien", and "crazydrunkdriver7".
Let's also suppose, there's a woman whose username says something like "nuttyneglectfuldogmom" or "don'twashmysheets77".
What emotions might seeing something like that at first evoke in you and what do you think it might evoke in a woman or a man who are looking to cuddle?
However, I'm not so much talking about something that comes across as offensive, not in this post anyway. I think that's a whole other topic. Though what I'm talking about are more so things that might be more likely to make someone, especially a woman, feel unsafe on some level to proceed. Or that puts some scary imagery in her mind therefore possibly making her more hesitant or on guard than she may already have been.
Now maybe, just maybe... there a hilarious backstory as to why they chose those usernames. However, my point is, when, people especially women in this case, see a yellow light, I think they'd generally find it safer to slow down and perhaps wait til they see a green light. Though if they get enough yellow or red flags, then they might actually change their way and go to a whole other place instead. Just so we are clear, I'm not talk so litterally there. So I hope it gets across as intended.
@OhioMike They look scrappy! Little attack dogs. @pmvines pop up on Facebook @Sheena123 Very nice!
@pmvines apparently they managed 😅🤣😂🤣🤣
@CuddleHugs01234 I'm not on the book of faces so thank you for making me aware that the shirts exist
@pmvines You are welcome! If anything else pops up that I feel you can live without knowing about, I’ll contact you.
Ooh we still doing these ? Sweet!
I'm not really sure what all that's supposed to mean. "don't be icky" seems to be the main idea. But icks are often shallow and very unpredictable. Youre saying "just don't be wrong" without saying what the right thing is.
It could be code for earlier posts that started a cuddle civil war about 420. Or it could be about the cereal people who wear Hawaiian shirts eat.!
Literally the real sticky icky icky @OverTheMooon
Unpopular and totally irrelevant opinion...? Marshmallows don't belong in cereal.
@pmvines love the pics!
Everyone has little things they dislike. Dislikes are different for everyone. The key is to find the person that has the minimum possible dislikes with the maximum possible tolerance.
I think it’s pretty funny that the main point I’m taking away from this is simply, “Hawaiian Shirts are good and can be worn by good people.”
@OhioMike go Bobcats!
Nothing wrong with Hawaiian shirts in my opinion! A blank profile page or creepy username though? Major alarm bells!
A good prospect has at least one photo of themselves, a paragraph about what they are looking for in a cuddle, and maybe some info about their personality or hobbies. Karma is a major plus as well!
Hmmm 🤔 Maybe talking about people's physical appearance? For example, sarting a message with "Hey beautiful" or something like that is gonna send very non platonic vibes even if you do genuinely just want to cuddle, so best to avoid that, especially in the first message 😅
Wow. I'm so in the minority. I do not care to read about anyone's interests or hobbies, etc. I believe that to be conversation to be had during the session. The 2 almost-booked guys (booked than cancelled) and the 1 guy I did book had maybe 3 sentences at most on their profiles.
What gives me the icks are the picture filters. A lot of men aren't as shallow as women think....though some are. Lol but so are some women. But I find the overly filtered version of pics insulting. It's unintentionally saying to a viewer, you won't accept me for how I really look. Most people who appreciate the loving expression of a cuddle, imho, can appreciate a person for their entire self, and not just looks. I dunno about the rest of you, but people become prettier and uglier depending on what comes out of their mouth and by their actions.
@warmsoftsnuggle Agreed. 💯
@Runawaycuddles A friend just yesterday shared a screenshot from a guy she had messaged a few times with and was considering meeting from the site . She made it clear she wasn't interested in anything nonplatonic He didn't send any red flags and they were cordial with each other . He then sent her a morning message that said hey beautiful. She simply pointed out that she prefers to not have statements made about her looks when it comes to people she doesn't really know and when they don't have a dating type context . Cordial but boundary affirming . So the guy went off on her as though she was being rude for not being delighted by the comment as though she owes him the allowance to make comments that she wasn't necessarily comfortable with . After berating her he blocked her like she was the one in the wrong . And he probably is wondering right at this very moment why nobody will respond to his messages or cuddle with him🙄
so wait, should I, or should I not post a picture of me holding the largest fish I've ever caught? (I've never even been fishing but I'll try it if it'll help)
@smokeybear82 lol. You silly.
@smokeybear82
Lol. @FriendlyFemale is right, you are silly. 😀 🐠🦈🐟
@smokeybear82 Depends on the size of the fish .
It's not the size of the fish, it's how you hold it.
Eh, I find the size of the tackle is what counts
@pmvines glances suggestively at the man vs bear thread while slowly putting on a pair of fluffy bear ears Yeahhhhh, that's insanely common unfortunately 😅 If people wanna push boundaries they're gonna find a way to do it, so it's very much a "give em an inch they take north America" kinda deal. Buds be nipped expeditiously over here 🤘🏻🤣