Interesting little short clip. Do you agree with her perspective? Do women really that often feel threatened by each other the way she states?
Idk I don't think it's that simple, because she kinda paints a female friendship as being kinda superficial, hair make-up evt. But my thing is I'm I well studied person, who was taught that you can have or be included in a conversation about anything even if you don't know a lot use it as a learning experience. I bring that into every friendship I have. Every cuddle I have. I have male friends and female friends. Now I wouldn't say all are super close because I have learned to be more closed off because I have a kid. But everyone adds value to my life and I hope I do the same for them , but probably not lol
Chris Rock has something to say about this but I prob can't point to his clip or I'll prob get banned
I think she was saying that women that are only interested in female oriented topics (hair, makeup, etc) will tend not to have male friends. I don't think she was trying to say that women are superficial
I think that way of thinking complicates way too much. I see it as “every human being can be a friend to anybody”. Gender doesn’t play a role in this. I have plenty of friends of every gender and as long as that person truly connects with you and enjoys your friendship, that could be anybody! There are jealous ppl out there that truly think women can’t be friends with men (because men only want one thing 🙄 such a tiring narrative) and vice versa. I think it’s bologna. The friend zone doesn’t exist. You either truly want to be that persons friend or you are faking being their friend in hopes of more developing. If it develops naturally and mutually, great! If it’s one sided, tell them or it’ll eat at you! But besides all that, I just really think it’s simple: everyone has the capacity to be friends with any type of person as long as you connect. Gender doesn’t play a role in this.
@Sheena123
If it’s one sided, tell them or it’ll eat at you!
I have to say, I read that statement wrong the first time. I somehow missed the t in it'll. I was a little concerned for you at the moment and your choices of food. 😅
@Sheena123 I think she was saying that there is often a social hierarchies dynamic that often comes into play in female-female friendships. Whereas men don't usually concern themselves with that stuff, so the dynamic is different
No one can speak for all. More generalizations To me it seems like games. As we mature , some don’t want the drama.
@g_w_t_w fair point
@GuyverGordon 😂😂😂 smarten up everyone or I’ll eat you!!!
@JSP_1 she’s just picking the wrong friends. I know all the women in my life that I’ve talked with and gotten to know all kind of have the same idea for friendship. Hang out, vent and bitch and moan, eat sushi, sing songs, go to raves and then plan the next time. Anytime I felt off about a friend, I would talk with them. There’s no “playing in the shadows” pettiness going on. If a friend does something that hurt me, depending on the severity of that pain, I just cut off the friendship and move on. The end. This lady just seems to dwell on drama.
This lady just seems to dwell on drama.
It’s what plays for clicks and dollars.
True 😩
@GuyverGordon 😂😂😂 smarten up everyone or I’ll eat you
lol!!! My favourite movie
I didn't watch the OP's video, but my 40ish cousin prefers male friends/co-workers.
She says women are more likely to hold onto grudges, whereas men are more likely to let bygones be bygones.
Humans are far too complex for generalities. You won’t know who your friends are until you meet them. I think most of us have male and female friends because when it comes to friends, their genitalia matters not. But those who have friend preferences based on gender probably deny themselves enriching experiences because of their preconceived ignorance.
And gender really doesn’t matter with mail friends. That is more about the substance of what they write.
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I find the whole concept counterintuitive when there is an established epidemic of male loneliness out there and the majority of women have cultivated social support groups from friends. If women really skewed that much to preferring men as friends then why are the men lonely?
This is why this question is not either-or and Willy Wonka didn’t invite you to a world of pure dichotomy. Very little is that simple.
This makes me feel like I should post an Andrew Tate video and ask a similar line of questioning about men.
Women do not share a singular mindset, and like @TheFunCartel states this is just click bait. How are folks so out of touch? But wait - I just read your last post. Do you actually believe there is a “male loneliness epidemic”? And if so, what is the root cause?
Do you actually believe there is a “male loneliness epidemic”?
I didn’t say I believe it, I am stating what the psychiatric community has said. But if it exists, I think it is primarily self-inflicted. But again, that is pure opinion.
Why else would Andrew Tate have a platform and incels have chat rooms?
@TheFunCartel we really need to meet someday! This comment gave me a smile and laugh I needed today after finishing squid games. 🥰
@NikkiFM I am always up for meeting new friends.
Male loneliness epidemic... I don't know. It's not an infection or disease. And I don't know how fast it has spread. So epidemic might not be the right word.
But there are a great number of lonely men in my country, the USA. Call it whatever you want, it's a contributing factor in a lot of deaths.
I am not blaming or implying blame on any group.
@billiam I’d love to know men’s thoughts on why!
@billiam I think they are using epidemic in the general sense of the term—as in prevalent and pervasive. You can’t catch loneliness because the carrier would have to not be alone to transmit it. 🤪
@NikkiFM here's a good answer for you
@JSP_1 maybe it’s time to get off tik tok, and join a club or something? The video is a trans man saying being a man is harder because men are more closed off, and don’t care for community. Am I right?
Although I have many gay male friends and a few straight male friends, I’m much pickier about befriending straight men. In the past, I’ve had experiences where I thought I was forming a genuine friendship, only to later discover that their intentions were rooted in a hidden romantic agenda. There’s a unique sense of betrayal that comes with believing a friendship is purely platonic, only to realize it wasn’t, so I tend to get new male friends pretty hard
@TheFunCartel Loneliness is not a gendered experience. I will agree that men tend to be slightly more isolated
@brownglucose I didn’t say it was gendered. Google it and you will find a lot written on male lonliness. Anyone can be lonely but what the studies are showing is that men, numerically speaking, are much lonelier as a group than women are for a variety of reasons. It would only be gendered if it was a statement saying this is a male disease, but it isn’t. They were taking note of a demographic group that seems to be struggling at a higher rate based on data. There is research that breaks out lonliness according to race, sexual orientation and class. That doesn’t mean lonliness is solely assigned to race, sexual orientation or class. It just means people studied were broken down into groups and most of us fall into different groups.
The US Census uses the census to break out information on different groups so why wouldn’t researchers?
@TheFunCartel Can you provide a source for this claim? I searched Google Scholar and couldn’t find any academic evidence supporting the idea that men are lonelier than women. While there are studies examining the unique challenges men face in loneliness and social connections, none of the research definitively states that men, as a group, are inherently lonelier than women. This idea seems to be more of a narrative popularized by journalists and media outlets rather than a conclusion grounded in rigorous academic research.
