The snugglers on here are a joke

Bababooey61

Mod: User created another topic with the same angry complaint again the following day and therefore now has been banned as a suspected troll. Complaints here are fine but please be respectful and don't spam.

If you are advertised as a professional cuddle or even if not, you should be obligated to respond to messages. So many pros on here are not active, no return messages and its a total joke !!! Don't waste peoples time if you have no intention of checking your email or simply writing a person back about setting up a session. All pros should be required to respond in two days tops otherwise what's the point in stating you will cuddle for $80 an hour but then not respond !!! CRAZY !!!!!

If I may offer a counterpoint, posting something like this is not going to endear you to those professionals who may have considered meeting. You do yourself a disservice.

I'm used to it now. If you contact four professional cuddlers, probably only one will want to schedule. A lot of them are flakes. You would think that the money would be a motivator, but it's not. Some of them don't even look at my profile. Most of them do though and sometimes they will reject me because of my age. Sometimes, they just ignore me because perhaps they think I'm ugly, short, and/or old. Sometimes, they schedule a session with me and then decide that they want to take a hiatus from cuddling, so basically they cancel. I would recommend just send messages to four cuddlers in your area such as the best time and day they are available. That way, you are not stating that you definitely want a session. See what responses you get. The odds are that only one will respond within a couple of days.

Getting ignored by pros is like an animator getting a rejection letter from Disney. It's your official initiation.

Prepare yourself for battle, @Bababooey61!

cuddleYouMe

Well, non-pro cuddlers shouldn't have any obligations.

But if you're a pro cuddler, I agree that there's a certain level of professionalism you -should- try to exhibit. They may not naturally be able to get back to you right away, but within 3-4 days is a reasonable enough time to respond.

From there, the pro should just communicate and provide some feedback, a simple no is fine, it at least gives the requestor a chance to ask someone else. Avoiding or not responding cause you don't want to cuddle with someone, if you're a pro, is childish in my opinion. We're all adults. Just tell the person no (and there's no need to go into the reasons for it). They won't crumble from the rejection or ...whatever (if so, than they may need more than what you could offer from just a cuddle). If they bad mouth you, then you know for sure it's a good idea not to cuddle with them, so block them. Plain and simple. But, if you're present and able to respond, then respond accordingly. If you need more info, ask for it. The point being is that No is a valid answer, if someone communicates with you, you should communicate back. And any answer is useful for feedback.

If someone asks you if you'd like to cuddle on a specific date/time, it's probably bc they want to cuddle on that specific date/time. So, by saying no, you give them the opportunity to ask someone else, rather than wait in anticipation for your response.

And while yes, bringing this point to the forefront is certain not to 'endear' the OP to the pro cuddlers, it's a valid point that he's making. If someone makes a statement, regardless of whether you like it or not, is there truth, or reasoning or logic behind it? If there is, than even if it's unpleasant to hear, I'd argue the smarter/wiser thing to do is to try and learn from it and apply it to your life as necessary. Just because it's criticism, or even if a statement is wrapped in emotion or said harshly, doesn't mean that it can't be helpful/constructive in some fashion or form.

I agree that those who have opted for "pro" status should treat all enquiries directed at them in a professional manner, and that means responding in a timely manner. Somewhere in the 2 - 4 day range is ideal I think.

Perhaps @Mark should put a requirement on pro cuddlers that they should log in to the site at least once a month, or their account will be shut down or made invisible. Those who want to take a break from cuddling could perhaps click a check box on their profile that either makes their profile invisible or marks it as "taking a break from cuddling for a while", with no need to log in monthly when the profile is set this way. Those who are genuine professionals would probably like to place a message on their profile along the lines of "I expect to be available again for cuddles after January 16th."

I think even non-professional members of this website should be required to log in at least once every 3 months or else their account will be shut down or made invisible. In my region, the vast majority of cuddlers are inactive. Many have created an account, visited maybe once or twice after that, and then abandoned the account. Why clutter the site with these accounts and give false hope to other members? Just get rid of the unused accounts.

Mark

Pros here have a choice of who they accept as clients. I think that's important for them to feel safe. That will not be changing.

It's also worth considering that while some of you might be disheartened by their alleged flakiness, I think they have it much worse from potential clientele. They have so many wasted interactions that I assume, for conservation of energy and time, they often use their intuition in deciding who is likely to follow through with a booking and thus who is worth replying to.

I agree it isn't ideal when Pros don't reply at all and I hope to eventually have ways to discourage that. For example, a clear indication on their profile as to how responsive they are.

Pros who are generally inactive though is a problem and there will be an auto-deactivation feature implemented in the near future for that.

CarlosHunt

Pros who are generally inactivate though is a problem and there will be an auto-deactivation feature implemented in the near future for that.<

@Mark - thanks!

NenaFairytale

In my opinion they are already overpriced and not willing to go the extra mile for clients, so exactly - what IS the point? See, I worked in the actual sex industry...when treating intimacy as a commodity, there is an hierarchy and sex takes the cake at being the most "valuable". So my question is, why are these ladies charging escort rates to come and sit on your couch to begin with, let alone not responding?

They don't understand what they are committing to, or what they are offering.

Obviously in it for the dollars only, and not to heal or make a difference in a person's day. I am married and treat my cuddling as strictly business, but with that said I make sure to at least reach out to all who contact me at some point.

Then again there is hardly anyone in my city registered and active so it tends to be effort in vain.

GeekCuddles

I had a long and sarcastic comment typed out in response to Nena but it’s not even worth it.

But can people at least stop making sweeping generalizations about the others on this site? It’s not a constructive way to improve or grow our community. Yes there are bad seeds along the Pros and the clients. But nothing can improve with name calling or slinging mud.

Agree @GeekCuddles.

I've had my issues with pricing, professionalism and overall energy but it can't be denied that there is an amazing group of cuddlers on here. I've spoken with plenty over email and text, pro and non-pro alike, sometimes just words of encouragement other times we have something unique in common so I say hi.

While I definitely find some hard cold truth in what @NenaFairyTale said, there truly are some gems on here but they seem to be overshadowed by the sheer number of nicht-zu-gut ne'er-do-wells.

@GeekCuddles - keep shining your bright light.

CarlosHunt

@chococuddles - I agree

While I definitely find some hard cold truth in what @NenaFairyTale said, there truly are some gems on here but they seem to be overshadowed by the sheer number of nicht-zu-gut ne'er-do-wells.