Life's been busy and I'm trying to figure out how to manage my social events. So I may not always catch or reply to messages right away.
I'd say my primary interest and priority is in cuddling women, but, I understand the need and benefit of platonic affection, and how it is typically much harder for men to get it. So, for men, I'm open to the possibility of a "cuddle-lite" version of cuddling. Strictly platonic, as I'm a straight male. But we could watch a movie or one of the many anime I've bought but haven't made time to watch. In the meantime, we could sit side by side. I have a plethora of cute stuffed animals and pillows for you to surround yourself with and snuggle with during the movie. Part of the nice thing about cuddling is enjoying beauty and the ability to just be and relax. No pressures or worries. And, stuffed animals are really just soft, 3D works of art. From that standpoint, I feel it's pretty nice and relaxing. It's not exactly the same as cuddling other people, but, I think it makes for a cuddle-like experience.
Sadly, cuddle parties don't really seem to be a thing anymore in AZ, the official groups I used to visit closed down years back, a little before covid started. If I get a large enough user base of men and women I trust to cuddle platonically, it'd be nice to bring that back someday. A distant dream, but, we'll see.
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My friends would describe me as thoughtful, creative, respectful, a trustworthy and faithful friend.
I'm all for safety. I love the internet for it's potential to bring new people together, but that flexibility requires extra safeguards to maximize the benefits. I can host on specific nights, but I'd prefer if we chat and get to know each other prior. If needed, I'm up for meeting in person at a local Starbucks so we can verify each other as who we say we are.
I myself had reservations about cuddling, until I found 'cuddle party' events on Meetup (a group which believes positive touch is healthy and important for everyone, and lays a groundwork of rules to create a safe space for cuddling for all involved). Ever since then, I've been caught in the bear hug which is the world of cuddling! But that's fine, I don't plan to escape anytime soon ;p Since this discovery, I've attended ~7 cuddle party events, have cuddled with a pro, and a number of others as I find them.
Cuddling is relaxing and a great way to relieve stress. Various articles state it can also help relieve pain, lower blood pressure, and can also help reduce sickness! I would cuddle every week if given the opportunity, it's a great way to connect with others, be comforted, obtain a sense of belonging, and to just -be-. To enjoy the moment and company of another. I am comfortable with cuddling in silence, or while listening to music, watching a show, or talking about life.
I've yet to find a favorite cuddle position, but I enjoy hugging, holding hands, sitting side by side, playing with hair, caressing shoulders/back/arms/legs, etc. I'd say it depends on what we're both comfortable with, as that could change per person, and I wouldn't want the other person to feel uncomfortable, rather, I'd want us to mutually benefit in meeting each other's needs/wants for affection. I'd like to explore more deeply what non-sexual, wholesome good physical touch can and should be like.
Semi-related, I also know the basics of a lot of ballroom/latin dances. I'd be up for teaching and practicing ballroom with anyone interested in learning. I also have some interest in partner/couple yoga, acroyoga (albeit I'm not as flexible as I'd like to be in my legs and hips, so it may be some time before I can do this), or doing like stretching with a partner, activities like sitting back to back, and trying to stand up together. Touch tactile stuff like that which is touch-based, but platonic.
Message me if you're interested and let's plan a meet up! Primarily only interested in free (aka not paid pro) cuddling at this time.
An example of cuddle positions:
An example of some similar tactile activs I'm interested in: