Hi I'm new here and I know I'm probably shooting my self in the foot here but cuddling to me is a little sexural like resting on her breast or resting my hand on her butt can that be agreed appound or it forbidden? Also I would not ask for sex but come on im a man I would not turn it down.
@robertls19 Cuddling doesn't necessarily have to be sexual, which is the point of this entire website. If you seek the services of a professional cuddler, you will be asked to agree to the client services contract: https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/media/contracts/CC_Client_Service_Agreement.pdf
Many of the nonpros on this site adhere to the conduct stated in the CSA as well.
Item #3 states: "No touching in areas covered by undergarments is permitted. If this occurs, the Cuddler has the right to leave. No kissing is allowed."
Therefore, if you are with a professional, there would be no touching of her breast or butt. If you tried to renegotiate the agreement, you would likely be rejected as a client. They already have enough clients who try to push boundaries. I doubt many would welcome another one who was wanting to push boundaries before even having a session. Professional cuddlers do not offer sex, so you would not have anything to turn down.
If you are with a nonprofessional, she may or may not be willing to renegotiate boundaries, depending on whether you and she have a good connection and whether you have established trust with her.
However, the general expectation on this site with both professionals and nonprofessionals is that no sexual touching is going to happen. If you are unable to readjust your expectations that cuddling is connected to sex, then platonic cuddling may be an impossibility for you. If that is the case, you would have more success on a dating site. Good luck to you.
Per the question of 'how to cuddle', I think everyone is a bit mistaken on what cuddling actually is.
After years of research, and after climbing cuddle mountain a few times and speaking regularly with the cuddle sage, I've gained new revelation and came to find out that cuddling is not actually about hugs, spooning, hand holding, and the like, No! It's something much more.
It actually doesn't even really involve touch at all actually. Cuddling involves cookies. The baking of lots and lots of chocolate chip, peanut butter, oh, and sugar cookies. Then going to the post office to send them to my home address.
It's really quite simple, but feel free to message me whenever you're ready and I can help you begin the process. ;p
I think DeltaPng might be on to something! Cookies make everything better.
Honestly a session where we baked cookies together then ate them with some hot cocoa or something would be an awesome way to have friendly physical and mental interaction.
A cuddle session can be whatever is agreed upon by the cuddlers. While most people think it has to involve a bed or something it really doesn't. Just simply putting an arm around someone while standing is a physical interaction that is sorely lacking in most people's lives.
I have a friend whos a paid cuddler and for extended sessions and overnights she cooks a 4 or 5 course meal, and encourages the other person to join in. She loves to cook and the clients seem to enjoy the interaction and what not