I'm the polar opposite of @angela10. I greet my cuddler with a long, firm, standing hug. We go almost immediately to a reclining face-to-face cuddle with knees slipped between thighs for maximum full body contact. Lots of full body or at least lots of torso and chest contact is where I get the most satisfaction. Spooning is nice, but I prefer face-to-face, covering or Yab Yum.
I'm with @BlueIris... I jump right in there! Nice big hug then right to the cuddle. My favorite position would be any position that puts us cheek to cheek. Something about cheek to cheek makes me feel warm and cozy. It's so intimate.
It starts at the door with arms wrapped around each other for at least 10 seconds. The average human hugs only 3 seconds, after that most ppl start to feel very uncomfortable. A quick change in the bathroom, then it's on! I check with my cuddle partner 1st, to see if there is a specific desired position to start with. If not, then I make a few suggestions, and start from there. Always checking in with verbal communication, on the comfort level & satisfaction from the cuddle position:-) Before you know it, an hour has already gone by! That's when you know the cuddles are goooooood...hehehe
Here are a few favorites of mine: scalp massage, hand holding, stroking of the arms..very gently, almost like the feel of a feather, caressing of the face/neck, heart to heart cuddle. I always ask permission to give and receive:-)
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Oh my gosh... I love tummies, too! I'm so glad that I'm not alone in this!
I love it when I'm the little spoon and my cuddler puts her hand over my stomach (over or under my shirt), or vise versa. It also feels really nice when they gently run their fingers or hand across it. I've always liked it because I thought it felt good, but now that I think about it, there is a trust element to it as well.
Is there a way to ask for it without weirding out the other person, though? Lol. I need to know. I asked a pro to do that and I quickly asked her to stop because I could tell she was weirded out by it.
Anyways, my other favorite things to do would include spooning, face-to-face laying down, or something that I haven't tried yet, the yab-yum position. I also love having my hair played with, and having someone's fingers run across my arm or my body. It's an amazing feeling!
What a great thread! @BlueIris When I read covering, l actually envisioned a face-to-face or face-in-chest position. Would that still qualify?
As a woman who has always had a fuller figure, I've always been wary of sitting on a guy's lap or putting my full weight on someone in any way; even when they are the one to suggest it, I would make an excuse. I always thought, that's a petite gal's game!
But if I can get past the personal insecurities that reflects ... when I experienced a role change and got to feel the full weight of someone on me, it felt amazing. Like I'm being stretched almost or flattening out all the muscles I've curled up working at a computer all day, with the added warmth and weight that is so superior to even the best down comforter. Laying like this cheek to cheek? Yes, please!
P.S. This is a separate subject, maybe even its own thread, but I'll throw it out there: has anyone ever cuddled someone who maybe is larger in a position where their weight did make you feel uncomfortable? The more l read these threads, the more I think it's less of an issue than I think, but I would like to know purely from a practical standpoint if there are certain things to avoid, or alternatively, embrace. (No hurt feelings on it; safe space for complete honesty.) Or are there positions you've tried with someone much smaller than you that seem to work particularly well or not well. I'd love to embrace the variety of someone who is a different shape than me and take advantage of trying positions that might be especially great for such a dynamic rather than feeling self-conscious about the difference, as society often expects us to do.
@IGuessImHete Covering is the same thing as the missionary position if you were having sex, but of course with all clothes on. It's simply one person lying on top of the other. I'm with you, I love to feel the weight of someone's body resting fully on me! To me it's just the most comfortable, safe and secure feeling. And if the guy is slender, it isn't the same. My favorite feeling of pressure comes with someone who's around 200 pounds or a little over.
Like you, I'm overweight. I've developed a half cover if I think I'm too heavy for the guy who wants me to cover him. I'll get on my knees and cover him with my upper body only, lying almost perpendicular so that my chest and stomach is on his but from the waist down, I'm off to one side. He gets the benefit of the press, but not too much weight.
I was a little hesitant because of my weight when someone asked me to do Yab Yum for the first time. He was heavy, too, and he was looking right at me when he asked, so he knew what he was getting into! LOL! So I just went ahead and got into position, and he did not let out a peep! Not a word was said that I was too heavy for him, and we stayed in that position a good, long time. We both enjoyed it immensely!
If someone's weight is uncomfortable, just say so. You could say too much pressure, or simply I'm uncomfortable, could we please change positions.
As I've yet to experience predetermined cuddling I'll have to speak from my forays into relationship world.
I like to enclose my arms around my partner and hold them tightly. I quite like being held tightly as well. I'm rather partial to having her lay her head on my chest and me stroking her hair. I tend to like caressing/lightly massaging arms and hands. I tend not to lie on top (covering?) as I worry about squishing my cuddle buddy, but prefer side by side or being laid on.
I like being spooned , laying head on tummy or chest caress, laying back on someone , head in my lap as I stroke hair , back to back and when one is on back and other is turned on side back facing the other person with arm around them ( I hope I explained it well ) laying on my chest like pillows . Face to face is good if you can do it in a way where I’m not directly having breathing in my face
I love laying on someone but as a big girl I always feel like I’m hurting them so I keep asking is this ok , if I’m too heavy it’s ok to tell me . I can’t be laid on the pressure freaks me out even during sex the person can’t put their whole weight on me even if they are light .
I have read the Cuddle Sutra and refer back to it for names of cuddling positions. As long as I am paying pros for cuddles as often as I can afford to, I wanna stick with maximal-contact positions like Forking. Once I have a cuddle buddy, or enter into a relationship, I'd wanna explore every position in the Cuddle Sutra with my cuddle buddy or romantic partner.
@apvalerius Meh. The Cuddle Sutra is silly. There are too many positions that are ridiculous, like sleeping holding hands with your partner. I, too, prefer maximum contact positions, and I only ever use about 4 of them. Everyone I've cuddled with so far (nine) have mostly only wanted to do face-to-face. I always request covering, but even spooning my cuddlers don't seem to be as much interested in as face-to-face. I've now added Yab Yum to my repertoire, and it's so far been a success. You don't need no steenking Cuddle Sutra.
Only reason I don’t like face to face is I don’t like being directly breathed on my face . I feel like I can’t breath !
@cuddleBugT You could scooch down so your head is on his shoulder. Face-to-face just means you're both facing each other, as opposed to spooning. You don't have to be in his face. No one should be breathing in anyone's face.
I could do that totally , I was like that last night when I was cuddling . Straddled with head on shoulder
I also do like holding hands with the person I’m laying with I’ve fallen asleep that way a few times
It really depends on many things - who I'm with, our moods, whether we are tired, the energy between us.
Holding hands and gentle caresses on arms and hands are always nice, as is running my fingers through her hair.
Open communication is key. I really like having open communication with each other about our likes so that we can attend to each other's interest and learn our disinterests together.
Always keeping the line for communication open and keeping up to date with change and what can be different.
As for favourites... I like various and experiencing different ones in each time, at least 2 types or 4 like 2 of my favorites that they also like and two of theirs I am also in agreement with.