I feel philosophical today, so I offer a question: How much can human nature change and is this a good thing? I come from an orientation of being polyamorous. I know that I am different from many people in this way. For some reason, I seem to be missing the jealousy gene. As a result. I don't expect people to be 'faithful' in the sense of being exclusive in their relationships. I always felt that I was odd in this way until I came upon the alt.polyamory in the early days of the internet. When I realized that I was not alone, I came to accept my way of life. The question is: can one who experiences jealousy overcome this and is this a desirable thing? The argument that I have heard against this is 1) it's not possible unless you start this way since it is a part of human nature and 2) the lack of jealousy means that the relationship is lacking passion and that is a bad thing. This second part is what I disagree with most since I don't feel that my relationships have lacked passion. I do feel that I can keep a cooler head at times of disagreement, but I don't see that as a bad thing. I also don't agree that we can't modify our own nature. But, of course, this isn't going to happen if we feel that the change is undesirable. So, I throw this question to the group. Answers don't have to be specific to polyamory, it's just happens to something in my nature that has conflicted with others.