In my time using this site, I’ve never seen a post regarding a different sort of cuddling; a type of platonic intimacy where those involved talk about what they truly despise, and where one is more likely to dig their nails into their partner’s flesh than to stroke their hair.
I’m familiar with this sort of cuddling. It can be amazingly cathartic to share hatreds and to inflict pain. Naturally, those involved must discuss their limits, preferences, and so on. But that’s no different than typical platonic cuddling. Ideally.
I believe that this sort of physical intimacy is entirely valid. I imagine some people will say that such activities are intrinsically sexual/fetishistic. If that’s the case, then the same can be said of normal cuddling, and some of the rituals involved in that (lighting candles, mood music, etc). The potential for things to be sexual are about the same, I should think.
As an example, one of my recent cuddles involved my partner and I complaining about work. This progressed into my partner hitting my chest, pulling my hair, and then my lightly choking her. We sobbed for a bit, held each other, and then played video games. It was spectacular and recuperative.
So! Is anyone else here into this sort of thing? Maybe you, dear reader, have felt disinclined from sharing an interest in this variety of cuddling? I’m curious*!
*I’m also curious if anything about what I’ve described goes against CC rules and regulations. The majority of users might find it distasteful, but...that doesn’t mean much.