Why Were They Banned?

littermate

This might be private information, but I've had two people who were in conversation with me via messaging banned. It's eerie to not know why they were banned and to not be able to then use that information to up my screening process, as both people who were banned were peeps that didn't show red flags. Yikes! Is there a way there could be a thread that posts the user name and why they were banned (I don't need details but some general hint would be nice) when someone is banned? Thoughts people?

Ontherun

I've seen this topic posted in forums before. They are worried about defamation so they can't publicly list why that person was banned. Best recourse would be to ask a moderator as in a previous forum a mod said they might be able to give you a general idea in you communicate with the moderator.

littermate

Ok thx.

adorable48

I’ve often wondered that too.

cuddlerforu24

The website bans people first , then asks questions later . Theres a mischief maker running amuck in the website , making false reports .
But that is not always the case

DonLonG

So glad you asked that @littermate

I get a good response nationally from members, but locally, 70% don't message back. The ones that do, the conversation is all one-sided talking about me. When I try to ask questions about them most stop responding. I have conversed with 4 women to the point that they said, "We should meet." 3 of them got banned before I could respond. And one deleted her account right after she asked for my phone number.

It would be intresting to know why only the banned people I encountered were interested in a back and forth conversation. But it's only my 10th week here. 3 dodged bullets (I assume), 1 not sure what happened, and zero real-life meetups so far.

dharma1257

Not just banned, but i am also curious why certain members get suspended, why they are suspended, and sometimes, it is over and over again. I was talking with one Pro, and this is the second time she has been suspended in a couple of weeks. It makes me wonder and i am thinking that is a red flag.

@DonLonG yes sounds like you are lucky and the banned members you were talking to were suspicious or red flags. It would be interesting to know why they were banned, and to hopefully learn how to better navigate dealing with certain people on here, if they are real or not.

One long time Pro in our area with good karma, lots of it, like 25 good reviews and five star rating, was recently banned, and i just dont know what to make of it or why she was banned. It seemed like she was real and genuine and not crossing any lines, so i am at a loss too what to make of it when certain people are banned, especially when outwardly they seem pretty decent and honest and trustworthy. My suggestion would be for the site to list a reason why the person was banned, when you click on their profile, ie banned for sexual services, banned for scamming people, banned for personal attacks, etc.

I think most common reasons are charging for sessions without being a pro, doing transactions outside of the platform (I. E. text messages) and related forgetting to submit cc's portion of cuddling fees.

@littermate I’ve has the same thing happen and same thoughts. Thank you for asking the question. It’s especially relevant for possible safety reasons if you’ve taken your communication offline.

@DonLonG I’d cuddle the heck out of you as often as I could. You are a magical cuddling unicorn. 🦄✨😉

cuddleversed

I don’t know the answer to the OPs question but recently a guy contacted me via PM and said that he was headed to Missouri and since I was in the friends list of a professional cuddler there, he asked if I could tell him what my experience with her was.
I responded that I had never seen the cuddler in question so I couldn’t tell him and shortly after he was banned from the site so it made me wonder if he was just a creep trying to get back channel info on a cuddler because she might have blocked him. In retrospect I think that even if I had done a session with the cuddler he was inquiring about I wouldn’t have told him because it seemed like an odd question and it gave me a bad feeling. Him being banned afterwards just confirmed my hunch.

MissAdventurous

A big reason you may see a pro suspended is due to having to update the credit card on file to pay the 15% fee to the site. Not necessarily because the pro themselves is doing something wrong, but more of a technical update. 💗

yoda96

how do I get ahold of a moderator to find out why someone was banned?

@yoda96 you may contact me, @reurbo, or @Mark in that regard. Understand that ban reasons are not always disclosed.

Groucho

Does "Netflix and chill" still mean have sex to millenials? Seen in a profile for @yoda96

Netflix is the popular TV- and movie-streaming service. ... Netflix and chill, as a distinct phrase, means to watch Netflix with a romantic prospect, with the eventual expectation of sexual activity.

Dictionary.com › slang › netflix-an...

ATW: What Does Netflix and chill Mean? | Slang by Dictionary.com

DonLonG

@VN6056 That's an interesting interpretation. It could be innocent, but "netflix and chill" is in the same sentence with another slang "I am down". Hhhmmmm.....

Lev136

There could be many reasons why a pro cuddler has been banned, including credit card information, perhaps offering services that she isn't supposed to offer, etc. As far as males, it could be as one or two others have said, inquiring about other cuddlers and seeking information on them that might be for platonic reasons.

Groucho

@DonLonG

An interpretation, or a modern definition? The last part of my post is the first Google hit and from dictionary.com

@SoulcuddlerZ will need to rule

Perhaps just poorly worded and not applicable to @yoda96

DonLonG

An interpretation, or a modern definition?

Interpretation is the correct word. As in to make an assumption without all the facts. For example, here is a message from my inbox I got yesterday, "The first time I spotted your screen name, I was sure you would be banned with a swiftness. How pleasantly surprising to instead observe that..."

All my life people have misinterpreted Don g Long because of its "modern definition" when in fact it is my real name.

Maybe it's innocent, maybe it's intentional. Without knowing more, I would say it's open to interpretation.

But this is a really interesting topic and now makes me wonder if @SoulcuddlerZ has any info or stats on how many times my name or any of my posts have been flagged? Because I haven't heard anything about it or seen anything removed, but that doesn't mean people aren't being offended. Even if I wasn't violating the rules, if I knew I was being flagged a lot, I would try and tone it down.

BashfulLoner

It seems most women locally i get dialogue with get banned. It makes me think most people that come through are going to break the rules eventually. But I’m still holding out hope. I should say banned or just go completely inactive,

Seeing netflix and chill on profiles does raise eyebrows given the potential sexual connotations.

@DonLonG such statistics are not available to me. It mainly comes down to keeping a memory of persistent troublemakers and/or egregious violations when taking stronger action against a given member on the forum.

BoomerSpooner

So I guess now days porno and chill is wholesome platonic cuddling since Netflix is playing the floozy now.

DScott121

Amazing the timing on this post, I know it’s been mentioned before but basically the only users that talk to me lately get banned soon after. Eek

Good one @FunCartel... good one.

cuddleanurse

@FunCartel I have to confess I love your comments. Your wit always makes me laugh. That’s all. 😂

Kense

Porno and chill LOL