I said cuddle and movie. If I wasn’t a pro cuddler, I would say sleepy cuddles, but it’s unprofessional and unsafe for me to sleep during a cuddle with a cuddler (I hate saying client 😓). So an ideal cuddle is a cuddle and movie because I find some cuddlers have issues starting up a conversation. I think that a movie always helps to find common ground either in what are fave part of the movie is or if we disagree with a part that just happened or laughing together at a comedic part of the movie. You can laugh, cry and talk all at the same time while having those moments of silence without any worry of awkwardness. I know some that I’ve been with felt they had to fill the void with talking and it creates tension for themselves. This doesn’t happen to all, it’s just what I myself think is ideal.
@Sheena123 YES! I completely agree. It was a generalized question; not necessarily just for CC!
Movies are beautiful ice breakers! I can usually gauge someone's needs very well while watching movies.
@Sheena123 Interesting that you say sleeping during a professional cuddle is unsafe.
One element of cuddling that I find very emotionally rewarding, is the feeling that I'm being trusted by my cuddle partner, that they have let me be responsible for their safety ; such as by falling asleep while I stay awake. This naturally comes with a risk, to the person with whom I'm cuddling.
Having said that, being asleep is probably quite easy to fake ; as long as you aren't so tired, that you actually fall asleep. 😀 Moreover, if you are sleeping in the same room as someone else, it is probably more safe to be cuddled against / on top of them ; so they can't move without waking you.
I am not voting because the things that matter to me are more communication, comfort, and (for me personally) I want to know that this activity is something the other person is enjoying and not suffering through or simply enduring.
Once that is good the activity is not so important to me.
Of course saying that, I know from messages I've seen female accounts get that I am likely in the minority so you probably don't need to worry about anything I've said in this post.
I try to just go with the flow and see what suits us best as its not going to necessarily be the same every time or with different people . See what compliments each other the best . Try to not make it an Olympic event where you are seeing how much you can switch things up . Just relax have fun and try to not leave with a back ache or dead arm lol
@geoff1000 I would love to fall asleep and give that cuddler that trust, but there are too many that take advantage of a woman’s sleeping body. It happens way more often than you would think. So as much as I would like to give my cuddler that compliment of trust, it’s not worth the risk of being raped. Does that make sense?
@Sheena123 - I'm with you on that. I read too many horror stories about clients trying to escalate things non-platonic. You gotta protect yourself.
@Mike403 exactly 😓 I hate to think about that but safety comes first. Although, if I’m with a very trusted cuddler and they like when I sleep, whoo boy, I pass the help out!! Lol which is why I would want to click the sleepy cuddle option. You’re in a tight, warm position, with light music playing, ambience is so relaxing and your body is succumbing to fatigue. Feels incredible and super snuggly 💖💖
I am usually way too guarded to fall asleep during a cuddle. But @SummerNOLA had me in a trance. After she left, I had the most restful sleep I have had in a lot of years. (An upside of hosting in a hotel room and paying for the cuddles up front... ) When our time was up, she was able to show herself out with little fuss and insisted I stay where I was on my sweet cloud of oxytocin which I rode off into dreamworld. SO GOOD!
@Sheena123 I guess it depends how easily you wake up. If the slightest change of your partner's position is enough, then you'd probably be OK.
I'd be no good in that situation. I need two loud alarm clocks, so I wouldn't notice if someone stole all my furniture ; including the bed. 😀
My cuddle with @ElysianMoon was ideal in a totally unexpected way. I felt invigorated by my time with her and afterward felt like hitting the town. Life seemed so urgent and upon me! I wanted to dance, so I went out dancing (something I hadn’t done in too long) and ended up having one of the funnest nights of my adult life! YMMV
@geoff1000 - Depends on the stage of sleep. Stage 3 sleep (before dreaming) is the most difficult to wake from.
@blondecake any of the 1st 4 but for purpose of the poll I chose cuddle & laugh
For me, it's under sheets with the AC turned down, tightly embraced with my sound machine set to rain or creek sounds, room very dark with my mood light on, one of those light bulbs that flicker light a candle burning. Very low old country music playing from another room, or some 50's - 60's rock & roll coming from my 1959 juke box and to have the trust of my cuddlier to doze off and for me to doze off and wake up while still tightly embraced. I just can't imagine a better cuddle.
@waynewv whilst hearing my manly snores 😂
Easy peasy, soft bed, soft clothes, soft skin, twilight outside, late night classic jazz, and cuddles that make you melt.
Sleepy hands down, mostly due to the required trust and connection. If I find someone I feel that with I'm one happy being.