Skin to skin cuddling? What?

Hollydollhugs

I now have been asked 5 different times if I cuddle skin to skin, so nude. What? How can this even be asked by someone. How in the heck can that not turn sexual?
They didn’t want to cuddle with clothes on. Is that actually happening?
I just can’t imagine.

hugonehugall

No skin to skin isn’t nude , what (I mean I guess it could be ) but what it actually means is do you wear clothes like shorts, tank top or tshirt and cuddle in positions that would allow for skin to skin contact. Like legs intertwined or arm contact stuff like that. Doesn’t have to be nefarious

Hollydollhugs

Oh!!! But I have had them ask to be completely nude and say they do it all the time nude.

CuddleDuncan

If they mean nude, or virtually nude, report and block. (Site rules require tee shirt and shorts at a minimum.) If they claim to be doing it all the time they are lying.

I often cuddle in a tee shirt and most pro cuddlers naturally stroke or gently scratch my arms without specific discussion. Also faces touching, and hands of course.

Hollydollhugs

I blocked him.

Sheena123

@Tranquilescape just make sure you report him as well. Not just block. Unfortunately there are girls flying under the radar offering to cuddle nude or in lingerie for extra money and of course the guys aren’t going to report them 😩 there are so many people on this site that don’t care to follow the rules of platonic cuddling so we have to be diligent and report a lot!!

Hollydollhugs

Yes! I’ll do that thank you.

Hollydollhugs

I tried to report, but the guy knew what he was doing by asking me to go to Snapchat, no proof.won’t be going there again.

Mike403

Why do guys come here looking for something sexual when there are websites designed for that kind of thing? May I suggest AdultFriendFinder?

Sheena123

@Tranquilescape that’s why the site has a rule where you should keep communication on site at all times. After making a booking, you can definitely swap off site communications, but I try to not do that for this reason and many more. Guys will lie to you and say :

“Snapchat is easier”
“It’s too hard to sign in to the site all the time”
“It’s quicker to text”
“I have crappy internet”

While some could honestly be great guys who genuinely just want an easier way to talk to you, most are just trying to get you off site so they can ask you inappropriate things. Keep communication on site and you will always have proof. It also stops some of them from asking you gross things because they know moderators are watching.

Hollydollhugs

We had a booking, but he cancelled last minute. I agree. Won’t be doing that again. Thank you for your advice. Definitely keeping it here and where I can have proof.

hugonehugall

If I wear snake skin pants is that still considered skin to skin ?? I mean no one ever said it had to be my skin 🤔

pmvines

@Tranquilescape it might mean nude might not but if you dont feel comfy about it then trust your gut . Sometimes it is a gateway question, to see how permissive you might be to boundary pushing where before you know it hes asking about bra and panties or topless , and sometimes its something benign like whether you are ok with going up the back of your shirt to massage your back or something. I personally dont really use the skin to skin question cus I realize how it can be perceived so i try to be specific with what I ask and about the intention behind it .

xandriarain

I find the phrase “skin to skin” to be a 🚩

Hollydollhugs

@xandriarain i agree!!

quixotic_life

@xandriarain & @Tranquilescape

Wait! Really?! 😳 [gulp] I use that term all the time!
🤦‍♀️Omg!!

Hollydollhugs

@quixotic_life the guys that talk to me want no clothing or as little as possible at most undergarments. There are differences.

pmvines

@quixotic_life as a guy who has been on here a while now I can say that the concept of skin to skin is not a bad thing and is typically benign , but if you have someone right away using that term with you it could be a gateway question so unless you are pretty familiar already with the person you are talking with and they understand you dont mean getting naked I would avoid using that term just fyi

FWIW I've had multiple pros use the phrase "skin to skin" with no apparent sexual intent.

Sashamcgee

Yeah I typically use follow up questions and redefine boundaries.

Hollydollhugs

Thank you all for your input. I agree skin to skin doesn’t have to mean being nude and if it comes up again, I will just see exactly where they are going with it and go over the boundaries again, to see if they are on the same page. Thank you.

Vondraco

@Tranquilescape Hi, new here (joined today). Can't figure out how to send you a private message, so I'll ask publicly, and anyone can answer I guess. I'm wondering how a "virtual cuddling" session would work? Would that be like phone sex (without the sex part, of course)?

Bella_Sera

@Vondraco isnt “phone sex without sex” just a conversation? Lol. 🤪

If so, yes, a virtual cuddle can be just that—a good conversation—but it can also be other thingsa video chat and one-on-one yoga and breath work session, guided meditation, playing a board game or watching a movie together.... only limited by your imagination.

Robert36320

I am crippled don't care about SEX but want to cuddle with a woman skin to skin ever since my car accident in 2005 I have not even touched a a woman yes i want it but i don't care about SEX that is why i have hands

Robert36320

I can't find any website that does skin to skin without SEX I can find escorts but don't want one just cuddling nothing elese maybe some touching

Babichev

@Robert36320 , exactly why do you keep capitalizing the word “sex”?

@Robert36320 This is not the place. You can't get what you need here (you might, but also might get reported and banned). If you contact an escort (a real one will have multiple ads, reviews. website, social media) screen for her, then state what you're looking for (cuddling skin to skin, touching, likely nothing more), many would accommodate you if they advertise GFE. Disclaimer, this is illegal in the US and not a suggestion or promotion, just saying if you look, you can find what you need. No need to look here.

(Learned many useful screening tips from escort subreddits and many of them are kind, understanding people who have worked with people with disabilities and who would love to just cuddle. ETA naked. Lol)