You'll get a lot more responses if you (at least) fill out your self-summary.
If you won't even put forth the effort to do that, it doesn't give me much confidence that you'll put any effort or caring into a cuddle session.
Why teach them to be better at disappointing you?
@misternatureboy in the hopes that some of them won't and just need a nudge in the right direction?
One can hope.
One MUST hope for else all is bleak lonely and lost to despair.
I don't think they care. I haven't figured out what their deal is, but I'm pretty sure a significant fraction of pros aren't actually interested in booking any cuddle sessions.
@62classic I'm confused... is this a message to pros, or to people trying to contact pros?
Either way, the message to at least fill out your profile is good advice across the board. Otherwise, yes, no confidence that the person would put much effort or caring into a cuddle session.
I'm just not sure why you're specifically addressing pros here. Are they contacting you? I don't think they are supposed to.
@xelda
What's the confusion? It says "to aspiring pros" right in the title.
Browse profiles of pros some time and see how many are empty or content-free or contain only a list of demands. Sometimes it seems like they don't want clients.
(Actually as far as I can tell this has gotten a lot better recently, at least in the regions I look at. Empty profiles used to be very common, but now I only see a few like this.)
@CuddleMeLater I edited my post to be more clear.
I’m just not sure why you're specifically addressing pros here. Are they contacting you?
He’s browsing their profiles, looking for someone to book, and is frustrated that many of them have empty profiles and give zero indication why someone would want to book them.
@xelda yes. Reading profiles of pros in my area and many aren't even filled out.
Honestly, I was surprised when I started looking at others pros on the site I notice so many put very little to nothing on their about me section, I was very confused, I use to work for another site and it was mandatory and much more extensive. I think the lack of carelessness definitely will bleed into the quality of experience you will get with them for sure.
A message to 62 year old Texans unwilling to post their photo. Some folks find that uncaring as well. Maybe just ask one of those professionals, with your photo
@BooksnTeas Males not posting their photos is perfectly acceptable imo.
Cuddling still has a stigma attached as a sexual service under the guise of "cuddling". Majority of my clients do not have public photos. I simply ask for one, they provide. In the extremely rare case they don't, no session, period.
I respect their privacy and desire to not be a public face on a site that could have detrimental impact on their personal life with friends, family and work.
Pros not filling out their profile should just be seen as not serious. Take this as a hint they will probably never respond or provide a very mediocre service should they reply.
@BooksnTeas not at all the same IMO. I'm not a pro advertising for services
@Envie exactly. I send photos to pros or others when messaging
Well said @Envie
Keep in mind, it’s actually a legit rule with the site that pros HAVE to have a photo of themselves on their profile. If you find a pro without a photo, you can report them. The site tells us it’s a must so.... however, I agree with envie about enthusiasts not having photos. They don’t have to have a photo. It’s only when they are booking with me that they have to send me a pic. No pic, no meeting.
@Envie: Finally a woman who get it! There are tons of reasons and many professions which do not lend themselves to unwisely posting pictures to an online cuddling site (or dating sites). Just a tiny example in any city would be:
I'm surprised more ladies still haven't figured this out.
@Envie Exactly!
@MrFirefighter I think most of us get it. At least the ones that take what we do (as well as privacy and confidentiality) seriously. (And it’s not hard to figure that out with a short chat). Although cuddle therapy specifically does not have a code of ethics, the other two therapy licenses I hold do have them...and I follow those codes since they fit cuddle therapy very nicely.
@MrFirefighter your post is utterly repulsive. You are contributing to the sexualisation of cuddling. Your conflation of cuddling and dating websites is actively attempting to portray cuddling as a sexual activity, which it is not.
It is completely reasonable to expect most people to post their photos online. There are of course exceptions. But if a police chief would post their photo on their local chess club website, they should post it here.
Cuddling is new, and small, and delicate. If you think cuddling is a good thing, then presumably you want it to continue and expand. Consciously deliberate or not, your post (which I have flagged, obviously) is an attempt to undermine and destroy platonic cudding. You are promoting the stigma, not trying to end it.
All repeat all professions lend themselves to posting on a cuddling website. If you are ashamed of cuddling (or anything else), you shouldn't be doing it.
I am absolutely livid and I'm struggling to remain temperate. How could somebody post something so harmful? And so disgusting. How could you?
@CuddleDuncan people have a right to not post a pic on a public website . You are being very judgmental and showing your own views as being the only correct one . I dont see anything at all sexualizing about choosing to keep your private life private. There are many contexts for that. not necessarily sexual in nature . There are quite a few banned members with plenty of pics on their profiles.
@pmvines read my post again, or rather for the first time. I explicity state that there are exceptions for posting photos.
posting pictures to an online cuddling site (or dating sites).
Explicit sexualisation of cuddling. Despicable.
My view is that cuddling is not a sexual activity. That is the view of the this website and whole cuddling world.
Posts which combine cuddling with sexual activity are frequently deleted on this website, and users banned.
I am judgemental only of those who seek to undermine platonic cuddling. Are you with me or against me?
Reviewed reported thread and leaving comments as-is. @MrFirefighter 's comment is valid, and I read his comment re: "unwisely posting pictures" as valid, wise, and in response to enthusiasts. @CuddleDuncan - this topic has been explored before in other threads, and it is every enthusiast's prerogative to post a picture or not. As @Sheena123 correctly states, pros must have a photo and tagged pros without a photo should be reported. [-Sid]
Cuddle on.
@CuddleDuncan I've been here since 2016 and have made a ton of connections and contributed a lot to this community. Please do not proselytize to me as though I am new to this, you are barking up the wrong tree. Thank you .
@CuddleDuncan I honestly don’t see anything sexualized in what @MrFirefighter said. I don’t really like how he said “finally, a woman that gets it!” And also saying “I’m surprised more women haven’t realized this” because other women have already said they agree why there are good reasons to not having a pic up. There are plenty of men who have stated that it’s weird to not have a pic up so I don’t think it’s just women who think that way. But I along with a few women on this thread alone agree that there’s nothing wrong with not having a photo.
Besides all of that, I don’t see anything sexual or repulsive with what he said. Relating this site to a dating site doesn’t make it sexual, he’s just relating it to another site that would have the same back and forth about putting up photos.
@CuddleDuncan - There must be a deleted post somewhere because I don't see anywhere where he even came close to suggesting that cuddling is a sexual activity.
@CuddleDuncan I can see maybe why you interject sexualization in response to his post. However, my primary occupation is physical therapy followed by both massage therapy and cuddle therapy. As a rehab and therapy professional, it is of utmost important to myself and my clients to keep their information confidential. This especially applies to those in public office. I don’t require that my patients post their picture on a website in order for me to treat them. It would be absolutely ridiculous of me to do so. Am I sexualizing physiotherapy then?? Or sexualizing clinical massage therapy? I’d like to counter that the insistence of having a profile picture can also be seen as sexualizing cuddling. I couldn’t care less about what my clients look like and rarely even ask for a photo because it is not about looks. Period. There are plenty of other ways to ensure safety without photos. And if my clients are more comfortable receiving therapy without advertising it, then GREAT. I really appreciate 99.9% of your posts and advocacy for cuddle therapy, but I think we need to put the pitchforks down in regards to this one. Believe me, @CuddleDuncan , I’m with you.
I said this already but just to be clear, in my view there are lots of good reasons for not posting a public face pic.
@Sheena123
I don’t really like how he said “finally, a woman that gets it!” And also saying “I’m surprised more women haven’t realized this”
I quite agree, and that certainly contributed to my anger.
As a community we are trying to help the world recognise the distinction - the gulf - between cuddling and dating. Linking them so closely, even in a practical matter, is extremely unhelpful at best.
Suggesting that there are entire professions for whom cuddling is shameful is .... well I think I've made my views clear.
Im happy many of us understand why in some cases pictures are not provided publicly - I am among them, for other reasons. Till the time accurate information, including picture, is provided to a prospective enthusiast or pro... Personally, I have been responded to by enthusiasts and pros and have regular sessions. And in any case a pre-cuddle video-chat clears up quite a lot.
I don’t get to see a photo of my massage therapist or my physical therapist before making an appointment. Just saying. I don’t get to read about their favorite movies or their relationship status. If this is platonic and therapeutic then why the creepy profiles?
@ChibiShema ...I kinda see your point. However a quick web check usually shows a massage or physical therapist photo, usually professionally done. I was just looking up to contact a therapist due to one of my employees injured their arm and the release back to work form had some gaps in it. When I googled the therapist a photo showed up right away. But youre right there wasn't favorite movies or relationship status on there. The favorite movie, relationship status, etc. can be left blank by any of us on the Cuddle Comfort site. I dont believe its mandatory . Some people choose to fill it out and others don't.