Not exactly sure what to call this...........

HollydollhugsHollydollhugs
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I had a client that I had seen twice. I had to really emphasize the rules with him and was not going to meet with him if he didn’t agree to my code of conduct. Everything went fine the last time we met, because the rules were in place.
This last time he contacted me, he asked for a full body massage with a therapeutic release. I am in no way a professional massage therapist and don’t claim to be. I didn’t know what a therapeutic release was, so I asked him to explain.
He said it was a tension release of the groin and he wanted a 4 hour session.
I thought I was seeing things. I immediately said no way. Anything in the bathing suit area is off limits.
He wanted to meet on Christmas Eve.
I told him that we would not be a good fit and that I most definitely not be able to meet with him again. I told him he probably needed to find a massage therapist. If I am being honest, it really triggered me and I thought about pausing my account for a short while.
I don’t understand why they would ask that of a cuddlist. My code of conduct is pretty clear, I guess some just don’t read it all the way through. Thank you for listening

Comments

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.
    I believe there's a very different type of "professional" he needs to find and you call that rude, disrespectful, and a major violation of trust.
    Also don't do that to yourself, there is no excuse. Wether he read your own bio thoroughly or not the site rules are crystal damned clear on that being an unacceptable request.
    REPORT THEM. This is not the type of person we need around the site, and if your actions keep even one other person from having the same experience with them it's worth it.

  • ewing4ewing4

    Sorry you had to deal with that. That had to be frustrating. Yes definitely report him. I have never cuddled yet and I would love to and believe me I would just cuddle and talk. Anyways, sorry guys can be idiots. I hope you have a good day

  • HollydollhugsHollydollhugs

    I just reported him. I don’t want anyone else to have to experience this.

  • RezzRezz

    @Tranquilescape

    Glad you reported him. I call it typical nonsense that thankfully weeded itself out before the session started.

  • 00JohnnyTsunami00JohnnyTsunami

    Talk about going from 0-100. Like...wow that's truly baffling.

  • pmvinespmvines

    @Tranquilescape nothing really therapeutic about a happy ending massage no matter what he wants to call it. Hes just wanting sexual services . I'm sorry that happened, there are quite a few creeps on here unfortunately. Take care of your needs, if that means taking a step away from cuddling then I support that. If you decide to stay, then I hope you have many more.good experiences to outweigh the bad . I'm around if you need anything 🤗

  • HollydollhugsHollydollhugs

    @Envie yes, if he had just asked to meet then asked me to do that after arriving, it could have affected me much worse and ended in a dramatic exit. I’m thankful it didn’t get to that.
    @pmvines thank you. I’m going to see how I feel over the next week as to if I want to pause my account for a little while. I appreciate your advice.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    Very pleased to hear you have reported him, good job.

    There is an entire sub-industry offering precisely what he wants. It's an absolutely standard service, and costs about the same. Makes you wonder where he is coming from ... you are well out of that.

  • herby357herby357

    Please don't let this guy get under your skin. You clearly spelled out your limits/expectations and its clear his intentions were beyond platonic cuddling from the outset.

    The sad part for him is that he missed out on an opportunity for a genuine connection that is far superior to a "therapeutic release" as he called it.

    Literally his loss.

  • HollydollhugsHollydollhugs

    @herby357 thank you.

  • MaullySterlingMaullySterling

    Glad you reported him.

    As a former Registered Massage Therapist (RMT) that is NOT what massage therapists do, either.

    Nothing against sex workers, but ppl should know the difference between that, and legitimate therapy.

  • HollydollhugsHollydollhugs

    @MaullySterling thank you for clarifying that it isn’t something a massage therapist does, much less a cuddler.

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