boundaries are to be respected. that is not in question. we must always be kind and respectful of others. Treat people the way you would like to be treated. hopefully most people would like to receive human decency at the very least. however trust is something you earn.
@CuddleDuncan thank you, I’m glad to know that there is something being done about this. @sage_wisdom exactly! That apparently was the issue, because boundaries were being discussed. It’s as if they thought I would say I don’t care about such and such. When I mentioned that I agreed with the boundaries places they did not like my response!
often In searching for help people will be stuck in the “me and mine” mindset. “This is all for me.” “What I can get for me.” “This is mine” they overlook the people involved. they overlook cuddles are a PRIVILEGE not a right. No one has the right to your body. No one has the right to enter your house. You only need to let them know that in a kind and respectful way.
I have only experienced this once and the guy had clear anger issues I tried to ignore it the first time and yes the very first time we met he showed how he was going to be there wasn’t a second meeting because he told me I was acting like I wanted a relationship and that was far from what I was doing and then threatened to call the police on me I laughed wondering what that conversation would have sounded like but he got mad because I wouldn’t drop what I was doing and come straight to him because we lived in the same town so now I am very hesitant to cuddle anyone unless they are just traveling through
@sage_wisdom exactly what I was thinking! You said it best! It’s not their right. @verona that’s exactly where the conversation was going. It’s been too many times where people get personal (in the most humblest way) and ask about relationships or past history. That I’ve experienced, I truly feel that we are all on cuddle comfort for some reason or sort. But the anger issues can be left at the door. Like it’s horrible. I will not put the person on blast and show the messages. But you can definitely sense the anger through texting! I didn’t even know that was possible!!
We just all want to be held. It seems like it should be easy.
How do we, as ladies get what we want?
Someone might be tempted to answer, “by giving others what they want.” I have tried this. And it doesn’t seem to be the simple solution that it is touted to be- Especially in cases of intimacy.