We are adults. Not that big of a deal.
I’ve only done this two times and both times this came up. I was not upset. It is what it is. We work three it.
Meant to say we work threw it. Make the best of it
@kimmypie nice choice of words considering the subject 😂😂
I occasionally wake up with an erection while not having any sexual thoughts.There must be a scientific explanation but I'm just grateful that my body is sending me a healthy message.
@BellaSera Exactly! Did you watch any of it? Too funny! Too jolly! So wholesome! How refreshing - the penis as a happy helper vs. how our culture depicts them, as some kind of evil weapon of destruction or something foolish or something worthy of erecting (pun intended) a monument to. Yay for the happy helpful playful red-and-white-striped penis! Yay John Dillermand!
The penis undermines the theory that there is an infallible God. If you ask why just look at the penis and its accoutrements. God gave it a vacuum hose attached to a bag but instead of cleaning anything up it is persistently making messes. And if it is circumcised, I think the warranty is voided. Infallible? Meh
I'm still new to the community but arousal is definitely a normal response! I don't worry about arousal during sessions but what matters is what the person I'm cuddling does once it happens. As long as everyone is following @NightShift39's advice and staying respectful, that's absolutely perfect and I'm not worried at all!
OK, let’s be honest. How many people want a little bit of arousal during a cuddle session? It doesn’t mean we’re going to act on it. It doesn’t mean that we want sex. It doesn’t mean that we want anything more than a cuddle. But doesn’t arousal feel good sometimes? Am I the only one?
I know and respect that there are asexual people in this community. But I have to believe that there are also very sexual people in this community. It doesn’t mean that we are going to be sexual in this group or use this website for a purpose like that. We all know why we are here. We are here for platonic cuddles.
Not sure about everyone else but I am definitely not looking for any arousal during a cuddle session. None, zero, zip, nada. Of course it feels good, boy howdy! I'm not asexual, but I am not here looking for arousal, despite my hot profile photo, hahahahaha.
@Importance: Being honest, while I never feel like having sex with anybody, I can get turned on, and it does feel good.
But, being equally honest, I don't think a platonic cuddle is the right place for me to be getting turned on—no, not even a little bit. Fortunately, cuddling isn't one of the things that turns me on. A lot more self-control would be called for if it were. Really focusing on the rain in Spain, maybe (or the game or movie or conversation or whatever).
I really appreciate all the people that have messaged me privately who share my thoughts on arousal during cuddling. I appreciate that even though you don’t feel comfortable enough sharing it publicly, that you realize there is a huge benefit in our mental health and our hormonal balance in experiencing the senses of pleasure even if we have no intention of acting on them. Thank you and bless you all
@TheMidnightOwl Wear compression shorts.
Ouch... That just seems painful tighty whities would suffice without causing pain...
Erections are completely normal and not something to be shamed for... It's the decisions afterwards... Don't try to break the rules... Do speak to your cuddle partner ahead of time... Make a plan for the possibility... Do that and everything will be copacetic...
Erections during cuddles are just a bloody nuisance to me, un-prompted and un-wanted (hence the detachable penis idea) @DarrenWalker the 7 and 9 times tables work for me!
Maybe in the next round of evolution, all men would come with detachable penises so we can leave it at home when it's not needed.
No thanks @Mike403 I have a hard enough time remembering my keys and my face mask before I walk out the door.
"I really have to pee, but I can't find my penis."
I’m pretty sure that you would remember your penis. Men seem to be quite fond of theirs
@littermate
I am not here looking for arousal, despite my hot profile photo, hahahahaha.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Wow. I am amazed at how many men don't seem to know the physiology and terminology of their own bodies. No wonder y'all seem to struggle so much with women's. 🤣 Really though, sexual organ arousal at any time is not inherently sexual. It is merely an involuntary physiological response (as @pmvines mentioned) to internal or external stimuli.
Additionally, during REM sleep, our bodies go through cycles of genital blood flow increases. For men, it's called nocturnal penile tumescence (or what we non-clinically call "morning wood.") All of these involuntary bodily responses are completely healthy and normal, and completely non-sexual.
@TheMidnightOwl
This is awesome. Now I want to have you help me understand my body. Why do I go through different stages of “blood flow” during different activities throughout the day including sleep?
@Importance A fantastic article written by an expert on this topic: https://medium.com/@enagoski/unwanted-arousal-it-happens-29679a156b92
This is a good read for everyone. If you get a chance, read her book, Come As You Are which delves into all kinds of topics that everyone should understand in order to be both a decent human and care for oneself.
This is another fantastic resource on this subject that every person on the planet should understand. While CC isn't a place for dating or sexual contact, I want to take this moment and subject to share it with everyone anyway for those types of relationships and experiences we do have outside the CC community: https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_truth_about_unwanted_arousal
Thank you so much midnight owl
@TheMidnightOwl I've been known to get "morning wood" in the late afternoon..........
@spuds I covered this.
". . . sexual organ arousal at any time is not inherently sexual."
"Morning wood" was specific only to male arousal that occurs during REM sleep.
@Importance You're so welcome.
thank you @midnightowl In the overall scheme of things if unwanted erections are all we have to worry about we shouldn't complain, especially if women as as aware and understanding as you are.
@cuddleversed 😁😁😁😁😁
Let's group all the boner threads together and make a rope lol
@iamkimmyp Hope you like macramé, 'cuz I don't know how else you're gonna use up that much rope.
@iamkimmyp well, we sure have plenty of material 😁😁😁
A bridge over the Mississippi? Surely a mile wide span should take care of MOST of the rope lol
Anyone up for a bicycle ride? I like to ride my bicycle... while cuddling
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