@Importance
Gus. Hammer. 25.
@Importance - if you want censor, I can edit the rest of that paragraph. You've made your point, multiple times, multiple threads, now follow the forum rules and keep it platonic.
@Importance @squeakytoy - Maybe Gus is his name. Let's not be quick to jump to conclusions.
It’s a pretty funny name. You have to admit it @Sideon
My name is Ben Dover
Enough of this puerile nonsense! Can we get back on topic please?
It'd be hilarious if there was an extra H to his user name and if he was an adult movie star. But no.
I wonder what he would think if he checked this thread and saw us talking about him that way.
@Importance smh @ Ben Dover M 69 from Arkansas
I've just thought of something.
Gentlemen, if you want more cuddle partners, have a face picture as your profile photo and use your real name in your username. That's what I did. Shows you are who you say you are. Shows confidence. Shows you have nothing to hide.
@CuddleDuncan - Your real name is Cuddle?
Sorry guys, I misread! And I certainly wouldn't want him to look through this thread and see me making fun of his name. I'll edit my post.
@Mike403
Maybe Cuddle is his middle name!
Nah I'll stick to giving my name to people I'm actually planning to meet, at that point I'll show them my I.D. if they wish proof of who I am its freshly renewed so there's no doubt it looks like me lol
How do you guys add gifs here?
@hawker69 Slave Lake! O yea eh! What were you doing for work up there if you don't mind me asking? The cougars out there are know to prowl right through town at night, stalking their prey. I'm sorry you had to encounter that. I always stay away from them. The visitors center hands out pamphlets for tourists who are unaware of how dangerous it is. They say "If you encounter a cougar... Stand up tall, Make noise to try and scare them off, Always maintain eye contact, never turn your back on them even for a second, back away while still facing them and maintaining eye contact. Report your encounter to the local RCMP." I'm dead serious about these pamphlets! Thanks for your advice!
@Plato33 Thanks for sharing that! That wolf is smaller than my friends Siberian husky though, but what a cute cuddly fella! The wolves here leave paw prints in the snow that are almost as big as both of my hands! I'm talking 150-175lbs of pure muscle! They've perfected the human bodyslam! Wrestlers ain't got nothing on them! So my mission of cuddling with them seems to be an eternal struggle!
Be puppies or kittens, but not in the furry aspect. It would just be easier to be cuddled if you were a puppy or a kitten.
The same rule applies to women. How do women get more cuddles? Be a puppy or a kitten. Thank you for your consideration.
Lol ~ "Act Normal" ~ Pass! Act like a silly goose and/or just be yourself please!
@BotWithFeelings ~ "Also there are definitely male prostitutes." Huh... yeah... that seems like a reasonable way to go about getting a nice safe cuddle...🙄 Seriously ~ If I wanted to go that route, I don't have a clue where I'd find one without exposing myself to some unsafe situations/people in the process.
@Importance ~ I assure you there are men here who are 100% about keeping things platonic!!! But one of you may need to travel...
@quixotic_life that was 100% in response to another members posts. They implied that only men had the "privilege" and I countered. Though actually yes, I see no reason to think they wouldn't respect your boundaries. I don't know how you'd find one but if you did, legal issues would be your biggest concern.
Oh most of your high end escort services can set you up with male escorts as well as female, and as hard as it may be to believe for some, there are many escorts that are very happy to not have to have "adult services" as part of their job for a day, night, weekend and more than a few who don't offer them at all.
Things you learn when working in/around the adult entertainment field. Though I think we are far afield from the topic at hand at this point... also I choose cat lol
Seems like we're getting off topic again.
@CuddleDuncan
Gentlemen, if you want more cuddle partners, have a face picture as your profile photo and use your real name in your username. That's what I did. Shows you are who you say you are. Shows confidence. Shows you have nothing to hide
Hmm, good point. If dating apps are any indication though, it wouldn't help at all (experience using dating apps for 5 years). But maybe it would help guy's profiles on CC, given all the sea of blank profiles.
@sunnysideup yes on dating apps almost everybody has a photo, so it's not a thing. And I can't prove it helps. But my experience of Cuddle Comfort has been very successful, so I'm doing something right.
@Importance the easiest way is to “add to photos” / choose “add image” here & post it - >
It is hard to prove anything beyond a doubt with these kinds of things, but it is reasonable to say that factor X helps if you are successful, and the vast majority are unsuccessful and lack factor X. Factor X being the photo and name of course.
Sometimes I get so confused, I just feel like giving up.
I do appreciate that helpful female enthusiasts like @quixotic_life take time out of their day to post real world examples of messages they've responded to, and why.
thank you, @Babichev for starting this thread. I joined the CC in 2017. my intention was to find few platonic cuddle buddies, but with no luck. I found few profiles, so i sent them like messages like"let's cuddle..."(straight to the point, that's what we are here for), "you had a pretty smile..."(I thought I was making a nice compliment), some I didn't get response(because they hadn't been active for years, some were just because I wasn't in their age range, some I suspected were here for non-platonic relation. I got frustrated that after a week, I hadn't been logged in the site for 4 years. I know people has mentioned not to start with word like "let's cuddle", but we all know what we are here for, so why not go straight to the point? what would recommend words that i can start with?
@teddybear0512
Straight to YOUR point but not to the average woman's point.
To approach women you have to begin to understand that most women are not men, do not think like men, don't have the same concerns as men, and sometimes have concerns all their own that you may have never thought of.
Why not go straight to the point? Because we don't want to cuddle total strangers generally. We want to know who you are, what you're like, if you're trustworthy, if we're going to cuddle a ball of need or someone who is bringing something to us too. We want to know that you're approaching us not because we're pretty but because we're people who you might want to get to know and be close to.
And why is that? Because how we are treated as humans, what's real for us, is really really different than how men are treated and what's real for you. You know you're safe (if you are). We don't. We're generally smaller and we're generally up to our eyeballs already in being grabbed, treated insensitively, not listened to, made assumptions about, and we have zero interest in having any of that happen. So we need to find out what you're made of, and hopefully it's more than just "hey pretty lady I'd like to press flesh with you."
A man who starts the conversation with "Let's cuddle" (unless it's with a pro) is basically saying, "I know very little about women and I'm all about what I want." A man who starts the conversation with "You have a pretty smile" is saying "I am assessing you for your looks" which implies to us that you aren't necessarily approaching us platonically but approaching us with a sexual lens. Cuddling isn't just sex without the sex -- cuddling is friendly, nonsexual, warm, trusting, soothing, safe.
Recommendation - make a friend. How do you make a friend? You ask them questions about themselves. You tell them something about their profile or way of writing or whatever that says "I'm noticing something about you other than what you look like or how you appeal to me physically." And don't do any of this manipulatively. If you don't have the heart and sense of relational aptitude to approach a woman with authentic platonic interest, hire a pro.
If you only want to have a woman's flesh against your flesh and you aren't interested in getting to know a woman a bit and finding out what makes her feel safe enough to press flesh with you, then I'd highly recommend paying someone who will be happy to take your money in exchange for said flesh-pressing.
thx @littermate, just the truthful advices I needed
Reported, reviewed, and removed. @bryan_dis - you're advised to read the forum rules, immediately. If you post another personal attack, you're out of here. [-Sid]
@bryan_dls
It looks like you were triggered. Edited. [-Sid]