Why are you even here?

BotWithFeelingsBotWithFeelings
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Whether you read through the forums or you read through the profiles. You'll find that everyone is here for a different reason. I want to know what yours is. So post your motivation!

  • How did you this place?
  • Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you chose both?
  • Why do you like to cuddle?
  • Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated? Other?
  • Do you like it here?
  • Do you lie the forums?
  • Is there anyone who can match my charm?
  • Anything else?


*Only the first can be sought for on this website but your opinion on the later gives perspective

Also, everyone will have different reasons for choosing this site. Please, in this thread, reserve judgement. There will be people who see site this in a way you disagree with. Allow this post to be a safe way to give and recieve perspective. {If it's terribly wrong and breaks site or legal rules, there's always a flag option}

Comments

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream
    edited January 2021

    Great post!

    • 1 . I found this place through a pro from another platform which I had found doing a google search 📱

    • 2 . I was on all of them lol, but I really wanted that instant gratification of being cared for & having that emotional closeness which most of us understand & want here ♥️

    • 3 . For me it isn’t about the actual cuddle, its about the emotional closeness / bond that it brings ... like being cared for & giving it back if just for a moment 🌌

    • 4 . To me the only difference between a platonic cuddle & a romantic one is that the platonic one is scheduled & the romantic one isn’t ... if you genuinely had an amazing cuddle session with another person - the feelings of love / care / happiness & closeness will flow through ... the only way one would be lesser than the other would be if you’re cuddling someone who doesn’t really want to cuddle, regardless if its romantic or platonic , that will determine it, but ideally I would think we would all want it with our partners/ significant others 💕

    • 5 . Yes I like it here 😌

    • 6 . Yes I love the forum lol 😛

    • 7 . I think everyone has their own unique charm, no need to match it 😎

    • 8 . Cool thread & I think if many people participate the more we would learn about each other / another step🪜

  • LovenLightLovenLight

    1 . After meditating I went online and it found me. You could say I was guided here.

    2 . I was hoping to bring platonic unconditional love into people's lives. Also for a comforting cuddly energetic connection with someone who is also seeking the same thing in return.

    3 . Cuddling gives me a sense of warmth, an energetic connection, a balancing and aligning of the chakras and a sense of wholeness.

    4 . It could be either/or, dependent on your connection. I think it is defined solely by those participating in said cuddling.

    5 . Yes I like it here, Otherwise I would have left by now.

    6 . I do like the forums, I find it to be a unifying field of comfort during an otherwise bleak moment in history.

    7 . I think every action has an equal or Greater reaction. That which is put out, is that which is returned and/or amplified. (I'm purposely misquoting Newton)

    8 . This may be a giant leap towards "innerstanding" one another on a deeper more compassionate level. Good job posting this!

  • [Deleted User]CuddleMeLater (deleted user)
    edited January 2021

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  • [Deleted User]DarrenWalker (deleted user)

    How did you [find] this place?

    You know, I can't for the life of me recall. Must not have seemed important at the time. Or maybe it's just that it was five-something years ago, and my memory's not that good. Or both, even.

    Why [choose] this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you [choose] both?

    Well, see, I wasn't really looking for friends (and I definitely wasn't looking for people to date). I was looking for cuddles. That's why.

    Why do you like to cuddle?

    Because I've noticed I don't get sick as often when I cuddle regularly. It works pretty well as a health boost for me, assuming my buddies aren't carrying anything.

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated? Other?

    A cuddle is a cuddle. The difference between a platonic one and a non-platonic one is that non-platonic cuddles can include or lead to things I personally prefer not to think about. So for me, personally, a platonic cuddle will always be superior to one in which hands (or feelings) wander places I don't want them.

    Do you like it here?

    I do.

    Do you [like] the forums?

    I do.

    Is there anyone who can match [BotWithFeelings's] charm?

    Couldn't say. Didn't notice any charm. Could be I'm immune.

    Anything else?

    It is ridiculously busy at the gas station tonight. Good grief, people; not only is there a plague on, it's cold out. Stay home. Or if you have to come out, at least wear a mask. Geez Louise.

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    @CuddleMeLater

    “ Do you like the forums?
    Honestly I don't know. The forum has its moments, and I certainly go through periods where I post a lot. At the end of the day though, it's about as worthwhile as any other Internet forum, which is not exactly a ringing endorsement.

    Is there anyone who can match my charm?
    Doubt it.

    Anything else?
    No.”

    Your sense of humor really shined through in these last 3 questions 😅😂😂

  • BotWithFeelingsBotWithFeelings
    edited January 2021

    @DarrenWalker ouch

    edit:

    I do mean to post my own answers just have to finish working

  • BotWithFeelingsBotWithFeelings
    edited January 2021

    How did you this place?

    I got onto Reddit r4r feeling particularly lonely and thinking that at this point I'll basically meet anyone if I could just get a hug. The sidebar had a link to find a cuddlebuddy and that subreddit's sidebar had this site. So, a few more days of quite desperation and boom.

    Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you chose both?

    I didn't. I am on pretty much all of the dating apps. However, I had hoped that I would be able to find someone quickly here to stave off my loneliness while I find a partner. Given that I have had more success more frequently on dating sites I am not really sure I am here. Nonetheless, every person I have met in person from this website has been pretty nice.

    Why do you like to cuddle?

    Who knows really? I was pretty touchy-feely as a child and on the inside I still am. My love languages (to the degree you accept the idea of them) are quality time and physical affection. Cuddling does both. Maybe it's the feeling of being want and safe. Maybe I just like body heat ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated? Other?

    I mean for me personally, I feel like a romantic cuddle is preferred. Knowing the other person cares about youto that level makes it much more special.

    Do you like it here?

    Uh, well not really. I have met some good people though.

    Do you like the forums?

    No not really. Probably isn't to good for my mental health. Unfortunately, I have the compulsion to argue. This is also why I am on reddit. Halp

    Is there anyone who can match my charm?

    @BotWithFeelings has absolutely unmatched charm and charisma. We should all follow his example.

    Anything else?

    Mathematically, 0.999999... is exactly equal to 1. Not almost equal, exactly equal.

    edit:Formatting and spelling

  • snuggleme123snuggleme123

    I don’t know anymore. 🤔

  • quixotic_lifequixotic_life

    ditto 🤔🧐

  • [Deleted User]DarrenWalker (deleted user)

    Heh. Hey now, don't feel bad, @BotWithFeelings. There are lots of things other people find charming that I just plain don't. I tend to be pretty dang immune to most charm. That's just me—don't worry about it. There are probably plenty of other people you can glamour and captivate.

  • BotWithFeelingsBotWithFeelings

    @DarrenWalker oh i wasn't actually hurt, that question was kind of a joke

  • FlyingToasterFlyingToaster

    How did you this place?
    I had heard of cuddling businesses, but was doing a Google search several months ago when I was feeling a lack of touch in my life, and I found this site.

    Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you chose both?
    I went through a divorce recently, and I didn't feel like I was ready to date again yet. I felt a lack of touch and thought cuddling would be really nice.

    Why do you like to cuddle?
    I've always been an affectionate person. And particularly, I think cuddling feels great with the right cuddle partner.

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated?
    Other?
    I think they're very similar but have differences. I think cuddling in general helps to create good feelings between people and creates a connection, but you have to be clear about intentions for cuddling.

    Do you like it here?
    I do overall. Even if I'm not finding people to cuddle with, sometimes I like to read through the forums and also try to connect with people.

    Do you like the forums?
    I do most of the time.

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    Huh I also came here via the r4r to rcuddlebuddies to cc route

    Eh after the divorce I know I'm not emotionally available enough for a romantic relationship to be fair to a partner, deep friendships on the other hand are totally within my ability to provide.

    I've always been big on affectionate touches and the bonds and friendship cuddling has given me over the years just can't be beat on my book.

    I'd say they are equal, they simply fulfill different needs though if you have someone you can share both with mmmmm perfection.

    Yep if nothing else I've met some interesting people I wouldn't have otherwise known.

    Most of the time I love them.

  • littermatelittermate

    How did you this place?
    Was Googling a friend who cuddled for a living, thinking to refer another friend to her, when I tripped over this site. I thought it would be a good resource for others so wanted to check it out and then realized, it might be fun for me too.

    Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you chose both?
    I don't know of any friend-finding apps, so that's a cool thing to think about. I'm on a couple dating sites but meh. What I'm really looking for are platonic cuddles.

    Why do you like to cuddle?
    What's not to like? I mean, if the person is someone I want to be close to, it's pretty much a no-brainer - I love snuggling, I love the feeling after, I love the no strings, the no romance, the no sex, the potential for expressing care.

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated?
    Other?
    I prefer platonic cuddles where I am in my life right now. I like knowing I won't have to deal with someone's dreams, desires, etc etc etc and I can just be close to them.

    Do you like it here?
    Yup.

    Do you like the forums?
    Yup.

  • SideonSideon

    How did you this place?
    Google-fu

    Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you chose both?
    The thought of a platonic focus sold me versus dating or hookup sites.

    Why do you like to cuddle?
    Because it's one of life's best physical and emotionally grounding feelings.

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated? Other?
    They're equal and unrelated. They each have their time and place. There could be overlap, but my on/off perspective and prior experiences/biases could be showing here, too.

    Do you like it here?
    Yes. I've met some great people here, on and offline.

    Do you like the forums?
    Yes. I am not a fan of arguing nor purposeful chaos and discord, though. I've learned a lot, laughed a lot, and have watched people grow and flourish. I've also seen the damage from pandemic-induced isolation.

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    Lots of great q&a’s here !

  • quixotic_lifequixotic_life

    How did you this place?

    My cousin told me about it after observing my woes were likely related to some severe touch deprivation.

    Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you chose both?

    Being loved on and getting to love on someone else, without and "hook up" expectations, sounded great! Also, I didn't know there were "friend finding apps" (might look into that post-Covid). Plus I'm still going through extracting myself from my current situation and even if I weren't don't like dating, so...? Yeah.

    Why do you like to cuddle?

    OMG ~ Because of all of the eveything about all of the things that are all about it! And... turns out if I get a nice long cuddle in, at least once a week, I cry a lot less.

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated? Other?

    I think platonic cuddles are the best!! There's no "performance" involved and there's nothing that marks them as being finished/they can go on indefinitely (well until bio needs happen ~ but still, that's just a quick pause).

    Do you like it here?

    Yes! I have found people I just adore through here (that I wouln't have found otherwise), I've been fortunate enough to enjoy the company of a few of them in person, and a delightful new treasure of a being is coming to meet and cuddle with me soon!!

    Do you lie the forums?

    Yes! I enjoy getting to participate in this community! Except for when people are peopling in ways that irk the buhgergars out of me ~ then I like it a bit less.

    Is there anyone who can match my charm?

    Yes ~ You're in good company here!

    Anything else?

    My pupper is laying next to me snoring and dreaming ~ She is sooooo cute!!! 🤗🥰

  • [Deleted User]arghdaddy (deleted user)

    How did you this place? Similar to an answer above, found a classified ad from a pro, who then somehow guided me here, but she's not on this site, lol.

    Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you chose both? Well, I wasn't looking to date people. What I've realized is that I missed just cuddling & touch from my life. When I had that 1st encounter with the pro, she is the one that I guess helped me realize there is a whole other world in this thing we call life.

    Why do you like to cuddle? I need it. I was brought up in an affectionate household and just need the touch, hugs, affection that is not linked to sex. It's amazing and in a way liberating.

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated? Other? I think they're closely related, but if you are sure of yourself in a minimal way and mature you can separate them? Just my opinion.

    Do you like it here? Yes I really do and I have a lot of fun reading people's posts and points of view in regards to everything. I guess I haven't experienced much of the negative here & thankfully that is the case.

    Do you lie the forums? Yes, many of the people here post some fun & some interesting topics.

    Is there anyone who can match my charm? May come close but I doubt it, lol.

  • BotWithFeelingsBotWithFeelings

    Well, this has been interesting. I actually expected some people to answer differently to some of these questions. I guess sometimes you guess wrong

  • cricket26cricket26
    edited January 2021

    Thanks for starting this! Interesting to read everyone’s responses.

    1. I found CC through a Google search.

    2. I don’t need/want the emotional side of things, just physical comfort. Wouldn’t be opposed to forming a friendship with the added benefit of cuddling, but don’t want any demands on my emotions (they are extremely tired).

    3. Humans are built to need touch! Personally cuddling is one of the few things that actually lets me get out of my head.

    4. In my case, platonic cuddling is far superior. In fact, i realized recently that every relationship/other romantic involvement i’ve ever been in started because I wanted platonic affection. Other people pushed it further. Led to a lot of complication/stress/pain.
      But romantic vs platonic cuddling... they’re like brownies and chocolate cake: similar/related, could be confused, but definitely totally different items. Equally valid, but i hope we’re all here for the brownies ;)

    5. In general, i like it here. At least everyone “gets it” and many are truly here to get and give affection.

    6. Ah, the forums... I think the crazy really comes out here lol. And the frustration due to this pandemic sometimes gets vented on each other. I think some posters could try remembering “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”!

    7. This post was charming :)

    8. Sorry this was so long.
  • quincyq03quincyq03

    1. I found CC through a Google search.

    2. I’m on several sites and I tend to spend more time on dating apps, because I’ve had much better success finding cuddles that way.

    3. I like to cuddle because it’s comforting, relaxing and makes me feel special. I like to share that type of platonic, intimacy with another.

    4. I prefer platonic cuddling. There’s less pressure and there are no real expectations.

    5. I’d like to like it here, but considering I haven’t had much luck and almost no one returns my courteous messages, it’s not my first choice for places I look for cuddling.

  • [Deleted User]Scar08 (deleted user)

    1. I found it while being bored on the internet

    2. No looking for anything super serious and long term. More of just trying to help other people get by while semi helping my self. {Side note that sounds really bad}

    3. I've always loved cuddling. It's something that has helped me in ways I can't really explain.

    4.I think they are equal. There's times when romance can get involved but it's not always needed. Sometimes it's about what one person needs and how I can help in a platonic way.

    1. I do, I've met some really nice people and I hope to meet more.

    2. No, there isn't really any point when someone can find out the truth one way or another.

    3. I can try :lol: but I very much doubt it.

    4. I wish more people near me would need my help but then yet again I'm glad they don't. In a weird way.

  • SixFootRedheadSixFootRedhead

    How did you this place?
    A friend who also cuddles turned me on to it.

    Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps? Did you chose both?
    I think those are all valid sites, but for different purposes. If I'm looking for a date, I'll go on a dating app. I wouldn't say I chose CC over other types of apps, but for cuddling, CC is where it's at!

    Why do you like to cuddle?
    I come from a long line of huggers. It's amazing to connect with somebody on such an intimate level without other expectations. When it's done right, it's an incredible experience for both parties, with lasting effects.

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated? Other?
    They're not completely unrelated, but they are different. When I cuddle with a romantic partner it's a different kind of touch, even when it's not about sex. I am picky about whom I date and I am picky about whom I cuddle, but they're very different criteria and it's actually much easier to lose myself in a platonic cuddle with somebody I'm *not attracted to. So neither superior nor inferior, just different.

    Do you like it here?
    Mostly. Sometimes I need a break

    Do you lie the forums?
    I have found great info and insights here, as well as a fair amount of ugliness. It's a mixed bag, gotta be in the right mood.

    Is there anyone who can match my charm?
    Rhetorical question

    Anything else?
    I found a beautiful saffron yellow top today that goes perfectly with a skirt I got for my birthday and it made me very happy.

    Fun thread, thanks for posting!

  • MrPaulMrPaul

    How did you [find] this place?
    A professional cuddler told me about it.

    Why chose this place over say, dating sites, or friend finding apps?
    This place is about cuddling, which is what I’m looking for.

    Did you chose both?
    At one time I did, but this is all for now.

    Why do you like to cuddle?
    I feel energized and enjoy physical touch as well as a connection with another human being. I like learning new things, and exposure to different perspectives that can come from conversation with cuddle partners.

    Do you think a platonic cuddle is superior to a romantic/non-platonic one*? Is it lesser? Are they completely unrelated? Other?
    Intention and connection play a part in the quality of the experience.

    Do you like it here?
    I like some things and dislike other things about this place. It’s nice that it exists and cuddle partners can be found here.

    Do you [like] the forums?
    I like some things about the forums, such as learning new things and funny stuff, and dislike other things: when people fight, jump to conclusions, judge, or try to harm others.

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