Pro or.....sex workers

[Deleted User]akgchina27 (deleted user)
in Pro Cuddling

So, i tried being pro one time and I hated it. The guy was meh and while I did not feel an erection, he was likely trying to get one. It was gross and i quit being pro. I had positive experiences being a cuddler in the Before Times. I quit being pro and figured movie dates would be ok. I drew clear boundaries in writing. Well, halfway through the movie, i realized while my left hand was in his, he wasn't runbing my thumb against his other thumb. Thumbs are not that wide. Reported to movie theatre, called police to report, have a case pending in the county this took place. Now i want to cut off my thumb.

Report. Teach your children to report. Learn how to report and don't walk away. At the least, this guy won't be doing this again. At most, its 5th degree sexual assault which carries a 1 year prision term or a nominal fee and probation.

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  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    My heart breaks for you @akgchina27. It breaks every time I hear one of these appalling tales.

    You are quite right. Report, Report, Report. Always Report. Sometimes it's very hard to do that: sometimes it takes a couple of years to pluck up the courage or the energy, but Reporting is the only way to make this stop.

  • xandriarainxandriarain

    @akgchina27 I am so sorry you went through this. Being a professional cuddler is tough. When I first started I had an abundance of clients and in that abundance were many boundary pushers. I have learned a lot along the way and have gotten much better at asserting my boundaries and screening. Now I struggle with getting enough sessions since I do this full time and have a lot of overhead it can be challenging to fill up my calendar with enough respectful clients who truly want a platonic experience.

  • CatloafCatloaf
    edited August 2021

    Pardon my French but dude is more than fucking nasty for doing that. God only knows what else he gets up to if this took place. Dear Christ. My eyes and soul need bleach after reading this so I cannot imagine what you are going through. Please stay safe, and I hope that this post will encourage others to come forward and out these predators. There are many vulnerable women who come on here to earn money and my worry is that their need for money will trump their willingness or courage to fight back against people who abuse this service.

    This is so extreme I just cannot. It's your choice whether you want to be a pro or not, but I hope that you can heal from this experience and, should you return, better clients make themselves known and come your way. Or better cuddles anyhow.

  • RezzRezz
    edited August 2021

    @Catloaf

    Yeah this is just beyond disgusting.

    And you're spot on, a quick money grab is often times taking precedence over safety, and the ability to say no here.

    A pretty new cuddler joined and had to deal with the repercussions of another pros indiscretions when she was almost sexually assaulted by one of this "pros" clients because she didn't care. Want to grope tits? No problem, go ahead. New pro takes her karma at face value and is nearly assaulted. It's infuriating.

    Again domino effect. I have nothing against sex workers but they do not belong here in any form. Unsuspecting girls are picking up these guys as clients who think we are all sex workers and now have the misfortune having to deal with the circumstances that follow.

    @akgchina27 I'm so sorry to read about your experience and don't blame you in the slightest for rethinking your role as a pro. Sometimes no matter how well we vet, screen and give very clear indicators as to what is expected or acceptable during a session someone will always think it doesn't apply to them. 😡

    I wish you all the best in your future cuddles.

  • MscuddleloverMscuddlelover

    Are you kidding ?People wake up it’s a hook/up -push the boundaries/try you up because I have no respect for you/ I can get away with it kind of people that troll these sites and the chances of something going wrong ,and it’s probably 95% going to be bad, ie certain

  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    I do very little marketing. I live in a remote area, so get few inquiries. I don't push people to book a session, only booking with people eager enough to push it themselves (through the course of screening, not last minute or urgent, those are usually a bad sign). So as a result, I generally only get people who want to see me, ubergigglefritz, not just "a professional cuddler".

    I also do not have any pictures even remotely sexual or non platonic and I have other jobs to keep money coming in so I'm not worried if inquiries don't come.

    It's true that there are not a lot of good genuine people here looking for the platonic services I provide, but I keep myself available and here for those people, using many strategies I've learned over the past six years to keep me pretty safe. It is not an easy job to deal with the bad inquiries, but it is amazing to cuddle with those people who actually are looking for what I provide and who I am. 💜

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