My GF just broke up with me. I need someone to console me.

monkeyspicemonkeyspice
in Cuddle Requests

I live in Ohio. I am transgender. I am disabled. This makes me un dateable. Or maybe one dateable and then you decide that " I’m really not emotionally available at this time" and "I really just need to focus on myself I’m not ready for a relationship". You know, important details you thought might come in handy before you met on Tinder and talked for 2 months. So I need help. I need physical contact. Thanks and God bless.

~Chris

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  • monkeyspicemonkeyspice

    Don't everyone help me at once.

  • [Deleted User]Zundar (deleted user)

    Hi @monkeyspice ! welcome to CC, sorry to hear you're going through something like that and that you're feeling the way you're feeling.

    The cuddle requests section isn't always the best for getting immediate results, the quickest path to cuddles on here would be to look at the professional cuddlers in your area and then find someone that way.

    If you're wanting to meet someone on more equal terms and get to know them a bit more before meeting up then searching for enthusiasts or waiting for responses here from here would be the way to go about it but again the cuddle requests section isn't the best for immediate results. We're all here because we need cuddles or at least really want them, but we're also all people as well - offering cuddles to people we don't know at all isn't something that happens often.

    Know it's not anything ideal and of course you're not in an ideal situation, but it's how things are. If you're patient about it then hopefully you'll find more success in your search.

  • monkeyspicemonkeyspice

    oh so your saying I should try paying for the cuddling. Because I'm not good enough for someone to cuddle just naturally? Duly noted. Yeah that really helps with these feels.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited November 2021

    @monkeyspice, no @Zundar is not saying that. He really isn't. On the contrary, he is trying to care for you as best a stranger on the internet can.

    History teaches us that threads on this board very rarely result in success. I suggest you spend some time on the General board, you might find it more helpful.

    You deserve a cuddle as much as anybody, but finding someone to cuddle takes effort, patience, thoughtfulness, respectfulness and self-awareness. Sad to say, even then not everybody is successful.

    Here's a thread that you might find useful:
    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/10731/how-i-found-happiness-on-cuddle-comfort#top

  • [Deleted User]Zundar (deleted user)
    edited November 2021

    @monkeyspice that's not anything close to what I said or what I meant, and if that's how you interpreted it then I'm sorry to hear that.

    It has absolutely nothing to do with "being good enough", the fact of the matter is that getting cuddles on here can be difficult no matter what but the fastest way to get cuddles is to talk to a professional. You seemed like you were wanting to get cuddles ASAP based on your second post here, so I focused on that in my response.

    Thank you for what you said @CuddleDuncan and for providing the advice as well, you said things better than I ever could.

  • monkeyspicemonkeyspice

    I'm sorry for lashing out. I was in a mood. I'm trying to find people on here but who knows. I will read the thread. Is strange we live in a society where its harder to find people to cuddle with you than it is to have sex. So I don't even know what this world has come to anymore.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    No worries, @monkeyspice, we get it.

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