4 things I learned in my 10year Marriage. In addition to the traditional things like trust communication and sacrifice needed in relationships i wanted to share some things I learned
Hello everyone please know this topic is not about me giving anyone advice because I dont have a monopoly on truth I just simply want to share things I learned in my Marriage as an whole experience and if what I share can bless others then that's just extra.
Fall in love with the person not potential
****Sometimes people date or someone because of who they COULD BE or HOPE TO BE. .if we was to freeze someone in time...at their current self current income current body type current personality flaws...can you love them are willing to stick with them? If you love people for who they are not because of what they could potentially offer.***
Stand your ground against outside forces family and friends
****This is important because there will come times when family and friends will try to control your relationship both willing and unknowingly. It's up to the coupleto decide whats best for them not anyone else.. since they are the one to live with their decisions they make it would suck to make a decision someone ELSE told.you to do and your stuck with the consequences...****
Seek to understand in addition to love
****There is an analogy used about a little boy who loves his gold fish but one day he takes it out of the water to let the fish sleep next to him in bed. The next day the fish dies. This is not a story of a lack of love but a lack of understanding. When you take someone out of their environment they can suffocate. Try to understand your partner their trauma their mistakes their past and in the end a stronger bond will be built.***
Show your true colors
seems cliche but think about this for a second. If your heart and mind and personality you are the color _______(fill in the blank) but when you go out to date you show people a different color. What is that person going to be attracted to? To the color you SHOW them but the color you really needed them to see was a different color. If red to you signifies you are sensitive then let them see that and embrace who you are at that very moment but if you say I don't want people to see I'm this or that and show them something else to mask how you truly Re its only natural they going to be attracted to what you have given them...but when you are read to show your true colors they will think you changed and become a different person...goes back to my previous point about falling in love with people's current self not potential