It is important to me that my actions don’t hurt others. It is for this reason I won’t cuddle with anyone whose spouse or significant other doesn’t know/they are intentionally hiding their cuddling activities from. I had a guy in a situation like this who said that he wanted to cuddle. I tried to gently let him know that this was something that he could express to his wife he needed and that she could preform as an Act of Service, the only method by which she was willing to show affection. When he continued to talk about wanting to cuddle, I told him that I believe if your partner would be hurt by your actions, which he said she would be 🚩 and why I could contact him by means that she wouldn’t detect 🚩 then it is cheating even though you don’t have sex. I was accused of being “judgmental” and “wanting to change him from his as-is state”. #AITA
I was also wondering if professional cuddlers could set the same kind of boundaries.