Public Cuddling?

ShaneSchruteShaneSchrute
edited February 2022 in General

So, our choices for kinds of cuddling we can mark as what we’re looking for here include: host, guest, & public.

The first two I get, but public? By its very nature cuddling is comforting. To me cuddling is best when it’s focused, quiet, and in a controlled environment. e.g. a space where I don’t have to worry about someone coming up next to us, lighting up a Marlboro light, pulling out a silver Bluetooth speaker and start blasting “working for the weekend,” by Loverboy - I mean that part is fine. After all the 5 o’clock whistle did just sound. ;)

Public Cuddling doesn’t seem comforting to me.
However, I have cuddled with a friend in a quiet darkened art house theater; who’s manager thoughtful had people put out daybeds and couches in front of a screen for a movie whose running time was 12 hours. That I enjoyed (the movie was better than it sounds too but I also enjoyed the cuddling) but that’s because it was closer to being a more typical cuddle space.

What are your favorite public cuddle spaces, activities and environments?

Comments

  • DaringSprinterDaringSprinter

    I like libraries. Reading while you cuddle is nice, I think. I've also cuddled on a bench outside a candy shop—cuddling while eating sweets and chatting is pretty good too.

  • [Deleted User]Zundar (deleted user)

    I think it comes down to different cuddles for different huddles, I'm similarly not able to get comfortable (or as comfortable rather) with public cuddling than in more private environments but it's gotten better for me as time's gone on. Not to say that it's for everyone and just a matter of getting used to it, but that's my experience to a degree.

    It depends on the weather but I've had some nice times cuddling on park benches, feeding the ducks and talking. Local park has a lot of dog walkers which is a mix of positive and negative but overall nice.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited February 2022

    One of the nicest cuddles I ever had was in public. First meeting with a new cuddlebuddy, in a park. We each brought our own, very shareable, picnic. It was a nice day, the park (Green Park in central London) was busy but not at all packed and we had some space around us.

    We shared picnics, had a nice chat, and then cuddled. I fell asleep. It was great. We remain firm cuddlebuddies. To this day she complains about my snoring.

  • JohnR1972JohnR1972

    Nothing wrong with public cuddles but they may not be the right choice for everyone. I have had a very enjoyable cuddle in a park but it is a very different experience from cuddling on a couch or bed.

  • MonkeyNeedsAHugMonkeyNeedsAHug
    edited February 2022

    https://thelaurelhillcemetery.org/

    Cemeteries might not be everyone’s first thought here. But Laurel Hill is a special place whose philosophy encourages “livelier” activity among the graves.

    I had two amazing cuddles here. One, a languorous picnic on a glorious afternoon in late spring. The other was during a “midnight cabaret”.

    The surroundings imbued both cuddles with a sense of appreciation for the present moment and the gifts of nature.

  • [Deleted User]ClubSamwiches (deleted user)

    @MonkeyNeedsAHug I love Laurel Hill! I’ve seen a couple concerts and a movie there.

    @JoyfulHeart and I have cuddled at the movies! Good times 😊

  • JoyfulHeartJoyfulHeart

    @SweetiSammi Excellent times! Mocking a poorly-written movie together turned out to be a great way to break the ice and to feel relaxed in your presence. 🤗🤗🤗

    In case anyone wonders, I picked the movie. 😂

  • ShaneSchruteShaneSchrute

    Lots of good, patient responses everyone! Thank you.

    @MonkeyNeedsAHug great ideas! Yeah now that I think about it a big sprawling cemetery with large mausoleums and headstone statuary would create a cosseted feeling and be fun; with someone who is down for that.

    @SweetiSammi & @JoyfulHeart I’m a visual person so now I can picture you doing this; so fun! :) Yeah the breaking the ice part is what stumps me with someone I just met in a public place; but what you’ve described sounds like the answer. Thank you!!

    Happy cuddling y’all!

  • Nature_Lover_Nature_Lover_

    @ShaneMTB Great topic! I’ve had some great public sessions but they are more often than not “non cuddle” activities such as enjoying a meal together, hiking, kayaking, going to shows, attending events, seeing a movie, ect. A lot of times this can help break the ice preceding a more connected, private cuddle.

    I’ve seen many profiles offering actual platonic dating including coaching, have seen wingman and wingwoman services, and nearly everything in between.

    Brings to mind a professional cuddler by the name of Janet Trevino whom I’ve seen on YouTube who once stated something to the effect of, ‘Ask anything, if I am comfortable it can be a yes, if I am not, it could be a no, or a not at this time,’ and it just speaks to her open mindedness and emphasis on acceptance and consent. Forgive me if I have butchered her quote as I’m just pulling from memory but I really loved that mindset and strive to be that level of safe space for people.

  • ShaneSchruteShaneSchrute

    @Nature_Lover_ thank you for clarifying. I’m a very literal person so when I see “public/cuddling” my brain isn’t sure what to expect.

    I love the openness of the spirit of that quote! :) thank you for sharing.

  • Nature_Lover_Nature_Lover_
    edited February 2022

    @ShaneMTB I completely understand! Happy to share! Love threads like this.

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    As far as cuddling in public, I would love a stargaze cuddle 🌌 , we don’t even have to actually cuddle… it would be more like a plus - 1 … I wish that plus 1’s are normalized here.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    @cuddles_ndream you are referring to companionship, which is an old profession. For some reason it is not particularly well known. CC is not a companionship site, but many cuddle professionals do offer it as a service. It's completely normal on this site. In principle there are quite a number of professionals who would be delighted to accompany you stargazing, I've even seen professionals here talk about it.

    The term "plus one" has a dating connotation, which is obviously not appropriate here.

  • ShaneSchruteShaneSchrute

    @cuddles_ndream holy cow I would love to stargaze cuddle with an professional cuddler/astronomy expert. I love cuddling and learning things. Spooning under the stars while getting supernovi explained to me would be amazing.

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    @ShaneMTB 💯!!

  • BabichevBabichev

    I’ve cuddled on a blanket on the grass in the park and on a park bench.

    Public cuddles can be more comfortable than in private if you don’t know the person. They are less likely to push boundaries in a public place.

    I’ve cuddled with a friend while watching a meteor shower. That was awesome. I’d take astronomy cuddles for sure.

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