@MissX Big thanks! I cannot see your sexual orientation so that’s actually awesome to know!!
Irrelevant comment, nevermind.
Back to the OQ I suppose this all boils down to whether or not you have expectations vs a go-with-the-flow open mindset, as well as understanding yours and your partner's interpretation of what "good" is.
Collective pleasant experiences over time, anticipating their embrace again, feeling like "dang I'm so stoked I know and get to be squishy with this being", and all the other "good" markers [for me] are what's important. If I knew it were to only be a one-off, I don't know that I would feel as "good" about or during the experience, and it would be that piece of uneasiness that would make me less likely to go cuddle with them in the first place.
So fascinating... I doubt I'll ever lose interest in all the ways we're different in this thing we all have in common...
I think managing expectations is probably key.
Usually whenever I book a second session, they have been better or as good as the first one. Possibly because I am less nervous and shy a second time around and will actually talk more.
It can be really exciting to get to know a brand new person, we or the other party may project that energy and one or the other or both amplifies it.
So, it’s happened to me before but I’ve also had cuddlers where the second or third cuddle is better than the first.
"Waiter! Waiter! This fish is not nearly as good as the fish I had here last week."
"That's odd, sir, it came off the same fish."