@Cuddlygal21 - “I was going to suggest that perhaps there should be a template on the site for those who don't know how to properly approach someone for cuddling. They might be from another country, or perhaps they're socially awkward - but whatever the case may be, there is a right and a wrong way to approach someone. And some education by the site itself would really help with that I think.”
I came across Cuddlygal's suggestion in an old thread in the Professional Cuddling forum, and I think it's a great topic. If there are enough responses here, I'll write it up as a blog post, and then there'll be reference material.
I agree 100% that there's a right and wrong way to approach a woman. Guys, I know you'll chime in with your thoughts on how to approach a man. As a nonprofessional (i.e., unpaid) cuddling enthusiast, here are my thoughts.
It's not complicated. Be friendly, be nice and make an effort to get to know me first before bringing up cuddling. That's really all there is to it. So far, nine guys have made the first contact with me. One was a little inappropriate (telling me how cute I was and asking if I were a good kisser, not out of line for a dating site but not so good on a cuddling site), and one was clueless (wanting to “try out” cuddling with me in his first message, like he was ordering a hamburger!). I correspond regularly with the rest of them, who are unfortunately too far away for us to get together.
I've initiated contact with five guys, none of whom are close enough to get together. My messages are usually just to say hi because I saw something I liked on their profile or to remark on something thoughtful they may have said on the forums. Two did not reply, the other three I correspond with regularly. I often don't make first contact because of something on a profile, such as preferred body type, that I don't match or upper age limit that I exceed.
I'm sure there's a different approach that works for the professional cuddler, and I hope that they will chime in. What really not to do is approach the unpaid cuddling enthusiast like a professional, such as assuming that just because she has a profile on the site means she will cuddle a complete stranger just because he asked. It just doesn't work that way.