Hi Everyone, I am meeting my first cuddler this month. Anybody have any advice about what to expect and how to be a good cuddler? Thx.
Welcome cylee1180 Go to the New Discussion section and read the threads there including FAQ'S. lots oof helpful I formation there.
Hi, I'd say be clear with each other on boundaries, and for all the contact you've had online, getting to know each other in person over a cuppa/ something to eat etc helps loads!
I found for me, the more I relaxed the better it felt. Keep communicating as you go, sit back and enjoy the moments together. I'm sure you'll have a great time
Be fresh and clean head to toe, but avoid scents. Some people are sensitive to colognes, after shave, etc. Even scented laundry detergent can trigger some sensitive individuals. This is a general rule but naturally your intended cuddle buddy could inform you of any issues. Freshen breath and avoid wet hair products.
Thank you thank you !
I haven't cuddled through the site yet, but my suggestion based on meeting long distance boyfriends is to just sink into the moment before anxiety can get to you. Wrap around them and close your eyes and just enjoy, go all in and then you will feel comfortable much faster. Hope it's a great experience for you!!
~ Sunset Snuggles
Thank you thank you @SunsetSnuggles
I noticed your sense of humor on the other thread twice lol, yes what everyone said & also bring that side of you as well (which makes you, you.) I think they’ll enjoy your company & Vice versa.
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What cuddles_ndream said. A respectful person with a good sense of humor like yours could do well and have and provide an enjoyable experience.
From experience here, I have found that some talking and some silence is what I like and what many others like also. I will follow this with don't assume anything, but I have a feeling you know that.
@cuddles_ndream woah thanks! Will do. Lol. Speaking of , heard Uncle Joey from Full House claimed to be the subject of You Oughta Know from Alanis Morrissettes Jagged Little Pill. Lol
@achetocuddle Thank you for your advice!
@CuddleDuncan I'll check it out! Thank you.
@cylee1180 That is interesting what Uncle Joey said. Do you think it's true? I don't know what to make of that.
I do not know how everyone else felt, but I was nervous the first time I cuddled on here. I was with a pro and she helped me become less nervous. But after we talked and cuddled for a few minutes, I was fine and less nervous. So, what I am trying to say is that you should prepare have some nerves going into it, and it is okay to admit that your nervous.
I think admitting your nervous, if you are, is charming. Nothing appeals like authenticity to most well-adjusted people.
@Bryan123 - That pretty much describes my first pro cuddle. I had done a video chat with her so we talked and got to know each other a bit before meeting in person. When we met in person for the first time, I was nervous and I am sure it was obvious. She actually had a form that she went over with me regarding expectations / conduct (she is the only pro I have been with who did that).
However, once the “formalities” were over and we got to cuddling, it only took a few minutes for me to relax and feel as if we had known each other much longer than we actually had.
@achetocuddle dunno but would love it to be true! Lol. I'll be sure to tune in on my first cuddling session. Thanks everyone.