Anyone had any luck here?

Grace_Anna · February 2016

Congratulations Inactivistjedi. You do sound like a kind person by your profile. Perhaps those women that looked and didn't reply believe in circumcision/mutilation. Based on what is written in your profile, they know you would reject them because of that. From what I've heard some guys on dating sites can be rude when a woman replies "thank you, but no" so some women have gotten in the habit of not replying to any guys ever apparently.

docgatorb · February 2016

It's interesting and has come up repeatedly in various conversations that people (both genders) have a hard time saying no and would choose to give no reply rather than a polite no. I would propose that being able to say no and accept no as an answer is an important component of cuddling and setting boundaries. If any members struggle with this, I would highly recommend attending a moderated cuddle party or getting over it some other way before posting a profile on this site. I would still recommend having a questionnaire that has to be filled out before getting membership. It's too easy to join on a whim without giving any thought to whether you would ever act on an actual offer. Yes, this would probably result in fewer people joining the site, but I think that it would also increase the quality of those who do. It's the old quality vs quantity question and we all probably want both. But, often these two goals are at conflict with each other.

MrMountainLion · February 2016

Grace_Anna, I have actually changed my profile description several times; it made no difference. For a while, my policy was to reserve anything controversial for private conversation. The pattern did not change. So I said, "what the hell?" Perhaps something provocative will actually attract certain people. The person I will soon meet read my profile after I added the stipulation regarding genital mutilation.

MrMountainLion · February 2016

angela10, Until recently, I thought I was unlucky. After reading this discussion thread, I see I actually am very lucky compared to some who have used this site. I only had to wait 6 months to find a decent person, as compared to enduring several years without having found anyone. But that was a few years back. This site has certainly grown since then, and will likely continue to grow.

Grace_Anna · February 2016

Well, InactivistJedi, I see your point. At least you know now that the people you are attracting are on the same page as you.

February 2016

I joined this site to find women to just friendly cuddle with but it seems more like women will not cuddle with you unless you are dating material.

angela10 · February 2016

Dond - I don't know if it's totally true. I have read that some women don't care about age, race or body shape. Everyone has his/her own preferences. Don't you?

February 2016

For dating I have preferences but for cuddling, not so much. I wasn't speaking all or nothing. The ones who are not that critical are far and few between.

Crispin · February 2016

I see that all the new members flooding in are women. Certainly nice. Any speculation as to why? Do u think prospective men are reading the forum and are reacting to the legion of disappointed men that are posting? Anyhow, the ratio of women to men must be changing significantly by now. Over my lifetime I've heard women who have said they mainly enjoy sex because of the hugs. I've not heard men say that. I touch people more since I joined this cool site. Being aware of my own appetite for closeness has helped me be able to differentiate between the two appetites and needs. What do u think?

Birdman30102 · February 2016

I have sent at least 17 messages to local posters and have not received a single response. Not even an acknowledgement of the message. I don't think the system even works.

Crispin · February 2016

Birdman,
I believe the site works. I have not heard the same question posed by woman because most know that they rarely answer messages. I know that is not all female members. I am grateful for the women who do speak out in these forums and there comments are good.
I have to tell other men to realize that definitions have changed and protocol has changed. It. Doesn't matter if you like it or not. I assume u want the truth.
Women don't want to be controlled by traditional or formal etiquette. Neither do men but men often crave the "stepford" type which is more predictable and controllable. A woman bound by manners or etiquette is still a woman bound.
I messaged a new female member on another continent who said she would like to eliminate "menkind" but she said she wished she could find a man to cuddle with.
As an elder coot I can tell you not to demand manners or logic from humans, male or female and you will win friends and influence people.
Now do you understand why people are devoted to their pets?

angela10 · February 2016

Thanks Crispin for the great point on why people are devoted to their pets!

docgatorb · February 2016

purrrrr

Grace_Anna · February 2016

"As an elder coot I can tell you not to demand manners or logic from
humans, male or female and you will win friends and influence people.
Now do you understand why people are devoted to their pets? "

Yep! You made me laugh.

angela10 · February 2016

Recently I had someone sent me a message telling me he's from out of town but will be in my area and would like to cuddle with me. I wrote back asking him to talk about himself. All he wrote were-man, age and enjoys cuddling. There was no picture. Next message he wanted to know if he's coming to me or I am going to him the following week. I politely declined. Is this what men think the vision of cuddle website should be? I have had plenty of messages similar to this. Maybe I am the odd one who needs to have a connection first in order to cuddle?

Grace_Anna · February 2016

I get some of those messages too. Honestly, sometimes I don't get a lot of notice that they are going to be in my area and the trip to my area is usually short, sometimes a day, so meeting a traveling cuddler hasn't worked out yet. I have had others who do tell me more about themselves. Usually, the people I do end up connecting with are those who are maybe 45 minutes to an hour and a half away and they are in between relationships. If it works out, it's a good arrangement for the 3-6 months it lasts before they start dating someone. Then I meet someone new. I'm good with that. I understand it is probably going to be fairly temporary when I meet someone. And if I ever expand my horizons and meet someone who is in a different situation and stays longer, I'm good with that too.

thecooldude · February 2016

No luck

not many in Pennsylvania

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