Married cuddle seekers?

[Deleted User]thisisamazing (deleted user)
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I'm married to a genuinely sweet person, but after 11 years I've realized there're some things I will probably never get... and so I'm here. I'm not trying to cheat, not trying to do anything shady or sideways, I just want a genuine platonic physical connection with someone. I've tried everything I can think of, I've brought it up in every way that I can, but it just ain't happening.

Is there anyone else in this situation?

Comments

  • biancalovecraftbiancalovecraft

    There are many people in that situation. I've come to think it's more normal than not.

  • SoftHairForDaysSoftHairForDays

    What @biancalovecraft said. 💯

  • BabichevBabichev

    One of my best cuddle buddies is in that situation. He and his wife get along but he is cuddly and she is not. She knows and is fine with it. I’ve met her and we really like each other. I’ve cuddled at their place. Although my cuddle buddy is already a very relaxed person and completely respectful on his own, I think that knowing his wife and cuddling sometimes at their place makes it even more comfortable for me. I feel very safe.

  • Cuddle_LonelyCuddle_Lonely

    That's actually why I'm here. I'm currently going through a divorce, my primary love language is physical touch and it has been missing in my life for several years. Because of that even though I've been married for almost 20 years, I've felt alone for many, maybe even most of those years.

  • ArachneaArachnea

    @Babichev that's really sweet and wholesome.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    It's quite common. We've had a couple of big threads about this.

  • AGnihonAGnihon

    It's really great to see life partners be so open minded, not suspicious, or jealous about this. Common assumption would be that seeing their partner snuggling in bed or on the sofa with someone else would be too much negative imagery or would arouse suspicion. Maybe the world is changing.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    I have met many men here in this situation, for various reasons. My first question is always, "Does your wife know you're here?" If you're hiding something from your partner, that's never a good sign. If you are in an unhealthy or unhappy marriage, the next question is here:
    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/13955/what-makes-you-stay

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

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