ANYONE UP FOR A VIRTUAL CUDDLE.. TALK?
I'm up for virtual cuddles. My favorite game is Betty Martin's 3 minute game (https://bettymartin.org/how-to-play-the-3-minute-game/) and/or Harry Faddis' original version of it. I have lots of experience with simulating touch online. Let me know if that would interest you. @LUVS2CUDDLEWITH
I just watched the 3 min game, v interesting
How do virtual cuddles work?
Hi Cto,
Here's a description of what I've learned works best for simulating touch via a videoconferenced connection:
Practices that Mimic Touch via Videoconferencing
The Giver is the person providing the touch and is attentive to the instructions voiced by the Receiver. They may ask questions to clarify what is wanted. The Receiver makes the request, leads the interaction, describes what they want, keeps the Giver informed of the effect on them and requests changes as they arise. All practices involve communicating verbally. The more detail the better. This can involve: Descriptions of the touch requested (e.g. pressure, speed and type of movement, position on the body); Sensations in the Giver and/or Receiver (physical sensations, sound, visual experiences, thoughts and emotions in the person describing them); Expressions of satisfaction (e.g. Aaaaahhh, Ooooh!, Mmmmm!); Dis-satisfaction (e.g. Mm..., Ah..., Uh...); Appreciation (e.g. This is great! Thanks!); Need for change (e.g. I need you to ...., I’m done now, thanks!); Offers (e.g. Would you like me to continue? Would you like something else?) and Requests for more (Please continue, that’s great!).
Practices:
1. Imagined touch: The Giver imagines touching the Receiver by placing their hands in front of themselves as if the Receiver were there. Eyes can be open or closed. The Receiver can either touch themselves as they described to the Giver or imagine the touch being received with closed eyes. 2. Self touch: The Giver imagines touching the Receiver by touching themselves as if their body were the Receiver’s. Eyes can be open or closed. The Receiver can either touch themselves as they described to the Giver or imagine the touch being received with closed eyes. 3. Using a Surrogate: The Giver imagines touching the Receiver by touching a surrogate (e.g. Stuffed toy or pillow) as if it were the Receiver. Eyes can be open or closed. The Receiver can either touch themselves as they described to the Giver or imagine the touch being received with closed eyes. In some cases (e.g. a hug) both partners can use a surrogate. 4. Mirroring: The Receiver touches themselves as they would like to be touched. The Giver(s) follow the Receiver’s lead. Eyes stay open in both partners.
PS: Co-created consent is an essential foundation to these practices (see: https:// cuddleparty.com/ or www.creatingconsentculture.com) @Cto
There is a sticky topic about virtual cuddles, which I prefer to call telecuddles, on the Professional Cuddling Board.
Thanks Cuddle Duncan, I'm not a professional, but I've attended many virtual Cuddle Parties and have enjoyed them very much. I also have a Cuddlist who works with me via videoconference and it works well. I believe Cuddlist trains its professionals in virtual methods. Not sure about the other outfits.