@Shake49 👏👏👏
@Shake49 Well said shake!
I have my reasons for not wanting to find men to cuddle via this site, and I have my reasons for saying "no penis owners" instead of "no men."
@Shake49 and yes, this thread was NOT supposed to be about that part of my profile nor about gender politics in general. I'm scared of getting banned if I got into a debate about that and shared all my honest opinions regarding that topic. And that's not what this thread or site was for anyway.
Men? No. Women? Yes. Hermaphrodites? I'll cross that bridge if/when I get to it which I doubt I will.
Let's just leave it at that. 🙂
@Pat871 I hope you find what you’re looking for….🤗
I’ll just leave it at that. 🙂
Sorry about that your experiences. I know what it feels like to just want a hug and share space with someone.
I’m not sure about women trying to cuddle women, but men cuddling women on this site is generally pretty hard to acquire for most guys. Best to go into this not needing a cuddle but just looking to make friends and connections first. Like you, I see this site as primarily for pros and the forum. If a cuddle happens it’s a bonus.
If a need is there that’s what pros are for, provided you have the money. But look, one pro already offered you free cuddles which is amazing. I have not heard of any guys being offered free cuddles unless they were very popular on the forum.
@Pat871: Thank you! I don't know it all yet, but I do know a lot more than I used to. Learning is a life-long process.
Problem: Penises
Solution:
I agree with OP. Trying to seal a cuddle deal with an enthusiast on this site is like landing the plane in NES Top Gun:
"Don't bring up cuddles too soon!" "Don't bring up cuddles too late!" "Be yourself!" "Don't talk about boring interests!" etc
@Pat871 Agreed. There are a ton of time wasters and fakers on this site, but that's to be expected on a free site. My experience has been approximately 1-in-10 profiles are genuine and result in an actual session. So what @JasonCuddles said is true, use this site passively, keep your expectation bar low and you should find your experiences on here to be less frustrating.
Oh, and even though I've never met @Rezz I would highly recommend her to you just because she seems kick-ass super cool.
Not many cuddles in London UK
@jasoncuddles, @tom2019, this is my experience also!
Forget the time wasters, there are LOTS of girls on this site with serious issues upstairs. I have had my fair share of that nonsense. I’m not here to be your white knight or shoulder to cry on when I’m throwing $120 an hour out the window. get outta here with that BS.
Let's keep the insulting of other members to 0 please. I'll leave this up though, so the right people know they can't come cry on your shoulder. 😌 ~Shake49
I spy a boy with serious issues upstairs. Not here, obviously, since this site is for adults! Nooo. Upstairs. In another apartment.
Joking aside, people of all genders have emotional issues, and lots of them could use a cuddle! Makes sense there'd be a lot of them here. That being the case, unsympathetic types might want to put that on their profiles! "Just cuddles, no negative emotional expression whatsoever, thanks."
Might cut down on the number of messages they get from people who want a side of emotional support with their cuddles.
Time waisters, Or people not interested because of bad vibes? I know if I'm browsing and a profile seems crass about a certain group of people, even if I'm not in that group I just pass on them because of bad vibes. Kindov like if your date is rude to the waiter.. ⛳️
I noticed this too. Any time I've messaged an enthusiast, we begin the process of getting to know eachother and then they ghost. I don't have the money to keep paying a pro, I was hoping to find someone and make a genuine connection but so far nothing. Guess I'll stick to cuddling my dogs and pillows
Hey, I want a shoulder kitty
@CozyWolfy 💯
I always attribute ghosting to a) they got cold feet, b) they met someone better or c) the (platonic) chemistry just wasn't there. Happens all the time on dating sites, and while this isn't one, only to be expected it would happen here too.
I get ghosted as well, sometimes even by people who I've had ongoing communication with outside the site and who I've met before even. Folks are fickle sometimes. I try to not take it personally, but I'm lying if I say it doesn't ever sting.
On the flipside I'm sure I have made others feel ghosted too. I have a hard time keeping in touch , and sometimes just dont have the capacity for more than a meme or a hey there whattup. My down time is often spent trying to get my head right so I can repeat the process the next day and so on , and for me self care involves a lot of silence and passive energy expenditure. When I have the time and energy I'm all in and can sometimes be annoying because of all the socializing I wanna do with you , so it does seem contradictory I'm sure. My close friends know this and know its just me and not them, however to others it may seem like I am being a Casper the ghost.
@Pat871 I wish you lived closer to a friend of mine, who's a pro woman who only cuddles women, save for myself and a few other male friends of hers just because we're good friends of hers. I do hope you find the perfect cuddle situation for you. It can be really hard to find that on this site and compatibility and mutual willingness to meet is really tricky.