Cuddling time of day preferences

GibstackGibstack
edited December 2022 in General

I'm really curious what people think about preferred times to meet for cuddling. My personal thoughts lean a certain way and partially I'm just explaining my own thoughts, but I'm open to hearing what anyone has to share about why they have their preferred times or general thoughts about preferred times.

As an individual: Cuddling in the morning sounds like it wouldn't really be that enjoyable for me. Maybe it's simply to do with being a "morning person vs night owl", but it just doesn't sound as good. Like, I don't think I'd enjoy a session as much knowing I have the whole day ahead of me afterward. I would much rather have it be something to look forward to throughout the day, have a session, and then bring the good feelings/positivity to sleep with me that night.
I don't really wake up and think "I wanna watch a movie" in the start of the day, it just doesn't feel right. Rather, watching a movie at night is definitely more natural, and I feel like cuddling would have the same sort of feeling with it. At least that's how I assume it'd feel like, but maybe time of day wouldn't have that big of an impact after all and I'm just overthinking it.

For others: One thing I thought about is that I can totally see that cuddling later in the day, especially later at night, could be a much more dangerous thing, especially with someone you don't know very well or with the wrong person. I don't think I really need to get into why it sounds more dangerous, so I'll just leave it at that - it just sounds more dangerous. So I definitely see why people would only really openly prefer earlier times in terms of being safer. I am curious though, in one's "ideal world" (where no one has to have those worries), if preferences would shift or stay the same. I'm sure that there are lots of people that would say "no, cuddling in the day just feels right" in the same (opposite) way that I think it makes more sense at night.

  1. Most preferred time of day for cuddling?63 votes
    1. Morning
        6.35%
    2. Day
      20.63%
    3. Evening
      26.98%
    4. Night
      25.40%
    5. No preference
      20.63%

Comments

  • [Deleted User]MaverickLegend (deleted user)

    I enjoy the nighttime cuddles simply for two reasons one it works around my work schedule and two I’m able to fall asleep really well after a cuddle

  • [Deleted User]Calibrate715 (deleted user)

    @Gibstack So my time constraints are essentially due to those hours being convenient for me while our child is in school. In addition, as you mentioned, nighttime hours feel "more dangerous" in a sense.

    I do think some individuals would be more likely to push boundaries at night since it feels like a more intimate setting. It's not an absolute no for me but it would take a large amount of time and trust for me to allow nighttime cuddling.

    And I understand my schedule is going to prevent me from meeting most people since they work during the day. As it is, I meet a fellow cuddler on his days off from work. He generally cuddles at night so I try to recreate the same feeling (blackout curtains, dim bedside lamps). The room stays pretty dark and we both fall asleep here and there so I think it's at least similar to a nighttime feeling.

    I always say I don't push relationships of any kind so, I'll either sync with a few people here or not. I've gone into this with no expectations but have greatly enjoyed learning about the people here as a whole 😊

  • JubalJubal

    Daytime hours, as I have to schedule my cuddle times around my kid's school schedule.

  • [Deleted User]Calibrate715 (deleted user)

    @Jubal Yay! Someone in my boat lol

  • JubalJubal
    edited March 2023

    @Calibrate715 believe it or not, I do agree with the hazards of nighttime cuddles. In general, I'm pretty sure that women have different hazards than men. When I travel, I sometimes have cuddlers keep me company at night in the hotel room. While I'm not overly concerned about my physical safety, I sometimes wonder if I'll ever wake up and discover that the cuddler and my valuables are gone.

    (Thankfully, this has never happened to me, but it does make me more cautious)

  • [Deleted User]Calibrate715 (deleted user)

    @Jubal I think it's wise, regardless of gender, to account for your own safety 😊 Hopefully you only get rooms with a safe inside them lol

  • SweetCamiXOSweetCamiXO

    I always host in a hotel and enjoy both daytime & nighttime cuddles, however, I personally feel I have more privacy at night. Some hotels train their staff to be on the lookout for sex workers, so if I have multiple sessions during the day, that may look suspicious to housekeeping or other hotel staff who tend to be in the halls a lot during the day. Last thing I want is to be kicked out of a hotel for being a "sex worker" when all i'm really doing is getting my cuddle on lol.

    I get a lot of last minute requests from people interested in late night sessions. 9/10 times, it's a no for me. I'm open to meeting someone for a last minute session if they have positive karma from pros I know and trust but most of the time, that is not the case. Last minute requests tend to come from boundary pushers who usually end up banned from the site.

  • BearBear

    I don't have a preference for a time of day. More for when I have available time. After all my applications are met for the day or even the week. If I'm off on my weekend then and any time where I won't be disturbed. If it's a weekday, I would have to be after work and after I make sure my Obligations are met.

  • [Deleted User]CaringAphrodite (deleted user)

    I could see why cuddling at 11 is not ideal.

  • mimtheplantmommimtheplantmom

    i actually enjoy my day time/afternoon sessions it’s like a little break in the middle of the day before going back to reality

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    I always try to meet new cuddlers during daylight, just for safety reasons...the literal amount of lighting and the amount of people around, and also the "vibe" it gives off, versus meeting at night. I also prefer to meet new people at a coffee shop, which tend to close early.

    That said, one of my best friends from this site began as something like a 10:00 P.M. meet at a coffee shop, very much in the dark. 😆 It just happened to be when it worked out for us, and we had a lovely time getting to know each other over beverages on the patio, and then met up again the next few days to attend a group cuddle, walk in a park together at daytime, etc.

    So do I prefer daylight meets? 100%. But nighttime meets don't always indicate a red flag, so I say besides your general guidelines, also go with your gut regarding the individual.

    As for cuddles themselves, I almost exclusively do daylight cuddles, because I always start off with public cuddles until I know someone better, so I want something like a well-lit park. The public aspect as well as the time of day sets a tone and a mutual understanding that this is strictly platonic, in my opinion.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • JoyfulHeartJoyfulHeart

    I prefer cuddling within the first 24 hours of the day.

  • [Deleted User]Easy2cuddle (deleted user)

    I thought about this and I honestly can't think of a time of day that is more preferable than others. I mean, if I need a cuddle, I'll take it when my partner is available even if it means I have to rearrange my schedule some. I do understand why many women prefer not to do an overnight cuddle. At least not until they feel they know the person well and a strong trust has been established. I travel a lot for work. I've had cuddles stay the night. But I've also been woken up to find their hand someplace it's not supposed to be. I actually had one lady cuddle tell that's how she sleeps with her boyfriend at night. Umm, that would have been good information to have before our cuddle!

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    @Easy2cuddle Thank you for speaking up. I'm very sorry that happened to you.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • [Deleted User]Calibrate715 (deleted user)

    @Easy2cuddle You have my sympathy as well. It's important to realize men here are also targets for inappropriate behavior. I hope it doesn't happen to you again or tarnish your view on cuddles.

  • CSnMUS87CSnMUS87

    I'm more leaning towards late afternoon to evening, possibly even night. I am not a morning person at all and I don't think someone I cuddled with would appreciate my hair, morning breath, or just me not being showered. I'm definitely a night owl. I wake up for work as late as I can to just get up, shower, get ready, and go straight to work, so I never have time in the morning for much else. I just have no energy most mornings. I'd rather have had time to shower, clean up, get dressed, and have at least had one meal during the day, and since I work, this usually falls into right after work. If it's on a day off then of course I can do something earlier like in the afternoon, but almost never mornings for me. Haven't yet done an overnight session though. I think usually I've cuddled between the hours of 6 and 11 pm most times. However if I won the lottery and didn't have to work I'd do any time after 12 noon. I usually go to sleep between 1 and 3 am most nights. However the Sims have sometimes caused this to go past 5 am (when I didn't have work the next day) 😅

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