I primarily view myself as a cuddling client, who adores the professional cuddling industry and has had sublime experiences with professional cuddlers. I am open to platonically cuddling mutually with folks for sure, but I generally am most comfortable with the formality of a professional relationship, though there is certainly friendship and deep sincere connection in that as there also is in many other awesome professional relationships.
Having been a pro-cuddling client since 2015 on numerous sites and services, I have a list of some of my favorite things I've seen in the best pros and some of my least favorite things I've seen in the pros who may need additional development.
I am very curious to see perspectives from other clients as well as pros or even from pure enthusiasts. I think it can be a very good discussion!
Favorite Things Pros Do:
1. Having perfect hygiene during the session, though I also hold myself to this standard and ideally shower, brush my teeth, and change all my sheets beforehand.
2. Being open to taking on the emotionally-giving role. I think of doing this as "offering to hold me as opposed to assuming I will do the holding" or "being the one taking on the maternal or masculine dominant role". Sure, I am happy to be a "big spoon" or be the one in the stronger more protective position too, but I l absolutely love when a cuddler makes it easier to be more vulnerable!
3. Frank intimate conversation where we speak about our lives and feelings in a trusted way. There are some pro cuddlers who are less perhaps "physically cuddly" but such a trustworthy engaging person that they become the best!
Least Favorite Things Pros Do:
1. Driving somewhere where there isn't good parking and making me figure out the parking even though I don't know because I don't own a car. If travel is a problem, let me pay for an Uber or figure out public transit lol! This is also torture when I have new cleaners visit my apartment lol.
2. Talking about past significant others or family situations without first establishing a rapport. I am theoretically happy to talk about children or exes or even current partners with pro cuddlers once I get to know them, maybe on a second or third session, but it's sometimes weird or jarring to have a brand new cuddler tell me about their young children or boyfriend while we are cuddling.
3. Being unprofessional, which can include trying to pressure sell additional sessions or just generally treating the activity as something that feels more shadow-y than it ought to be. Using pro cuddling services should be something folks are happy to be honest about with other folks they know, something that is completely out in the open. I feel like some pros in the past have made things feel too informal with our relationship and blurred lines more than I'd like, making things feel not sexual or romantic but literally just too casual or "shady".
I'm sure there are many more things I can say on these lists, but what does everyone else think of this?